Father with MANY issues, mother is completely overwhelmed yet refusing help- what to do?

[Anonymous]

Assuming your parents have been married for decades, you have to realize none of this is “new.” It may be escalating, but your mom has been putting up with addiction, eating disorders and mental health problems for years. She is the frog in the pot. Your likelihood of changing this is like .0000001 percent. She made her choices long ago. It sounds like her religion may have played a role as well and she has a jackass of a priest right now.

You have to step back from this. You have to accept that your mom is going to put up with the crazy. Your dad may die from doing something dumb like running into the street. Your mom may die from his stupidity or his violence if he escalates. But they both made their choices. If your dad tells you directly that he is going to harm himself or someone else, I would call 911. Other than that, I would limit my contact.

[Anonymous]

Just wanted to say I’m sorry, op. We’re dealing with issues with extended family and it’s a horrible time. My heart goes out to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hospital/Social Worker/Doctors need to insist that he *not* be released Home. He needs a facility. They need to help, and are expected to help find him care.

Then, what you Mother does, where your Mother lives is next step. Get him placed first.

This. This. This. Next time Dad is hospitalized make sure he does not get released back to the home.

[Anonymous]

Call 911 anytime Dad threatens suicide.