Let's talk about prestige

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Anonymous wrote:It means a lot to me. I am not paying $50k/year for a school that has no prestige just to say my kid went to private school. I am also mindful that the name-brand alone isn't what potentially makes a difference in outcomes. If I didn't have kids who I thought would/could take advantage of the opportunities that these schools afford, I would do public or Catholic and save some money.

What kids are the ones that don't benefit from a prestigious private school education?

One example - if the school is a pressure cooker - not all kids thrive in that environment (even very smart ones).

What does pressure cooker have to with top private schools? Top public schools are pressure cookers

Many kids, maybe most, would benefit from less prestigious, less pressure-cooker type private schools where they can get more individualized attention and support. A lot of these kids would get lost in the public school system.

The real world is not big on individualized attention and support. Kids need to develop real world coping skills.

Send them on over here to Baltimore. Our public schools are sure to develop real world coping skills.

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Prestige is irrelevant for a high school. It's about the best fit for the kid. The mental and social well being of your child is the most important thing.

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I'm just curious if prestige is such a non issue for so many, why people's knee jerk reaction is to criticize schools for not having more prestige

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I want my children mixing with the right crowd. The right polish, the right dating pool.

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I’d be lying if I said prestige didn’t matter, but it’s usually associated with a quality education, smart and engaged students, good teachers, or some other tangible benefit. I definitely wouldn’t pay for a school just because it was fancy and celebrity kids went there.

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Anonymous wrote:The frenemies comment is on point. I have a recent graduate of Sidwell and a couple of acquaintances who are deeply striving but work hard to pretend they are not. It's amusing to feel their envy. NOTE I am not suggesting envy is widespread or that Sidwell > all other schools -- just that these two women clearly wish their same-age kids could've attended a school like Sidwell, if only they had the money at the time and their kids would be admitted.

In many circles Sidwell has a horrible image. Elitist, overly consumed with race and woke politics, and populated by nasty, mean-spirited families with BLM and "in this house we believe" signs in their front yard. Thanks for feeding the image!

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Anonymous wrote:It means a lot to me. I am not paying $50k/year for a school that has no prestige just to say my kid went to private school. I am also mindful that the name-brand alone isn't what potentially makes a difference in outcomes. If I didn't have kids who I thought would/could take advantage of the opportunities that these schools afford, I would do public or Catholic and save some money.

What kids are the ones that don't benefit from a prestigious private school education?

One example - if the school is a pressure cooker - not all kids thrive in that environment (even very smart ones).

What does pressure cooker have to with top private schools? Top public schools are pressure cookers

Many kids, maybe most, would benefit from less prestigious, less pressure-cooker type private schools where they can get more individualized attention and support. A lot of these kids would get lost in the public school system.

The real world is not big on individualized attention and support. Kids need to develop real world coping skills.

Send them on over here to Baltimore. Our public schools are sure to develop real world coping skills.

Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:It means a lot to me. I am not paying $50k/year for a school that has no prestige just to say my kid went to private school. I am also mindful that the name-brand alone isn't what potentially makes a difference in outcomes. If I didn't have kids who I thought would/could take advantage of the opportunities that these schools afford, I would do public or Catholic and save some money.

What kids are the ones that don't benefit from a prestigious private school education?

One example - if the school is a pressure cooker - not all kids thrive in that environment (even very smart ones).

What does pressure cooker have to with top private schools? Top public schools are pressure cookers

I didn't say it was unique to top private schools. I was answering the question posed. I fully agree that DMV top publics are pressure cookers too. But it is also true that there are other private schools in the area that are less of a pressure cooker environment could be better for a student who has the stats/outcomes to go to a "prestigious private school" but might be better served elsewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:It means a lot to me. I am not paying $50k/year for a school that has no prestige just to say my kid went to private school. I am also mindful that the name-brand alone isn't what potentially makes a difference in outcomes. If I didn't have kids who I thought would/could take advantage of the opportunities that these schools afford, I would do public or Catholic and save some money.

What kids are the ones that don't benefit from a prestigious private school education?

One example - if the school is a pressure cooker - not all kids thrive in that environment (even very smart ones).

What does pressure cooker have to with top private schools? Top public schools are pressure cookers

Many kids, maybe most, would benefit from less prestigious, less pressure-cooker type private schools where they can get more individualized attention and support. A lot of these kids would get lost in the public school system.

The real world is not big on individualized attention and support. Kids need to develop real world coping skills.

Lucky you that you don't get it then. Without support when they are young, they will drown. They will never have tho opportunity to develop coping skills if they are not first supported to overcome their needs. Some kids can instinctively swim if you throw them in the pool; but know your own child before you take that risk. Some kids will drown. And don't over think it; the kids will develop real world coping skills in due time if they get what they need when they are young.

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Anonymous wrote:I want my children mixing with the right crowd. The right polish, the right dating pool.

Like with like.

then you are likely to be disappointed with all the prestigious schools, who are tripping over each other to be the most "diverse" and "equitable." What school(s) are you thinking that limits its enrollment to the right crowd and right dating pool for Larlo?

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Anonymous wrote:I want my children mixing with the right crowd. The right polish, the right dating pool.

Like with like.

The wrong polish is so bad. Hope everyone can avoid the wrong polish.

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Anonymous wrote:The frenemies comment is on point. I have a recent graduate of Sidwell and a couple of acquaintances who are deeply striving but work hard to pretend they are not. It's amusing to feel their envy. NOTE I am not suggesting envy is widespread or that Sidwell > all other schools -- just that these two women clearly wish their same-age kids could've attended a school like Sidwell, if only they had the money at the time and their kids would be admitted.

How do you know that's what they're thinking? You can read their mind? They may not be striving at all or envy you. You could be projecting this perceived behavior onto them because it is a reflection of YOUR own behavior and desire to think you are "superior" to them. What a damaged adult to walk around thinking that others secretly envy you.

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Anonymous wrote:The frenemies comment is on point. I have a recent graduate of Sidwell and a couple of acquaintances who are deeply striving but work hard to pretend they are not. It's amusing to feel their envy. NOTE I am not suggesting envy is widespread or that Sidwell > all other schools -- just that these two women clearly wish their same-age kids could've attended a school like Sidwell, if only they had the money at the time and their kids would be admitted.

You seem terrible.

Agreed. What a deeply awful person.

no, you see, the awful people are the strivers that practically froth at the mouth when they perceive someone to have higher status anything. Only for these specific people do I take delight in watching their reactions. The rest of the time I don’t give a crap because if you read my post, I don’t actually think I have a better product.

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Anonymous wrote:The frenemies comment is on point. I have a recent graduate of Sidwell and a couple of acquaintances who are deeply striving but work hard to pretend they are not. It's amusing to feel their envy. NOTE I am not suggesting envy is widespread or that Sidwell > all other schools -- just that these two women clearly wish their same-age kids could've attended a school like Sidwell, if only they had the money at the time and their kids would be admitted.

You seem terrible.

Agreed. What a deeply awful person.

no, you see, the awful people are the strivers that practically froth at the mouth when they perceive someone to have higher status anything. Only for these specific people do I take delight in watching their reactions. The rest of the time I don’t give a crap because if you read my post, I don’t actually think I have a better product.

Quaker values

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Anonymous wrote:The frenemies comment is on point. I have a recent graduate of Sidwell and a couple of acquaintances who are deeply striving but work hard to pretend they are not. It's amusing to feel their envy. NOTE I am not suggesting envy is widespread or that Sidwell > all other schools -- just that these two women clearly wish their same-age kids could've attended a school like Sidwell, if only they had the money at the time and their kids would be admitted.

You seem terrible.

Agreed. What a deeply awful person.

no, you see, the awful people are the strivers that practically froth at the mouth when they perceive someone to have higher status anything. Only for these specific people do I take delight in watching their reactions. The rest of the time I don’t give a crap because if you read my post, I don’t actually think I have a better product.

your explanation makes you sound even worse and keeps reinforcing the Sidwell stereotype. just saying.