Socially awkward or red flag?: Guy said he wants to kidnap me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently went out with a guy I met through a mutual friend. The date went well, but I can't say there were any sparks. At the end of our date, twice he said he wanted to kidnap me. Even though I found it a bit cringe, I laughed it off and chalked it up to a poor choice of words and a way to express that he liked me a lot, which he has said numerous times. During an earlier call this afternoon (Odd, but for whatever reason, the phone calls feel flat), while we were planning another date, he repeated it. It annoyed me, and I'm having second thoughts about going out with him. Red flag or poor word choice?

You’re just not that into him. I’d punt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't do the second date. No sparks, no chemistry, plus he's socially awkward at best. Move on.

I think in the moment it would have been fine to say, maybe with a laugh, "Dude, you can't say that to a woman you just met!"

Agree with all this. Emphatically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listen to your gut.

Totally this. I'd be VERY wary.

[Anonymous]

It’s a Kink
Can be hot but both people have to be kinky and must be consensual by both parties
I’d say not see him again
It’s cringe to say it so soon

[Anonymous]

Sounds socially awkward.

A real kidnapper isn't going to give you so much advanced warning, are they?