Girls in middle school: underwear/locker room question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is a rising 7th grader and new to her middle school. She will have PE every day and change in the locker room. She is very small for her age and barely starting to develop. Do girls wear brassieres at that stage? She says they're uncomfortable and she doesn't see why she needs an extra piece of clothing. On the other hand, I don't know what the social situation is like, and whether there is any undercurrent to wearing, or not wearing, such items. For the rest of the school day, I don't want there to be any show-through in the A/C, in case she gets teased. Her good friend only wears sporty clothes, with sport bras, and DD likes the cottage look.

Any advice is much appreciated. I know this seems like such a minor detail, but suddenly I'm wondering!

What is the cottage look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7th grade is pretty late for not wearing a bra. Not to be crude but can’t you see her nipples through her shirt sometimes?

NP but no this isn’t a problem. Nipples often show through even with a bra. Nipples are normal. I won’t force my DD to wear some foam padded/molded round boob shaped monstrosity bc of nipple fear. Unlined bras are much more comfortable.

Unlined bras feel better to you, cool. However. Most people who say bras don’t feel good haven’t found the right fit. There is a lot to be said for well-fitting, supportive bra.

That said, it doesn’t sound like your DD needs support at this stage. I was a late bloomer, too, but I still wanted a bralette. I wanted to blend in and not be noticed- and I didn’t like the look of my nipped through clothes. If your DD doesn’t care, no problem. She’ll let you know if/when she is worried about others opinions/comments.

[Anonymous]

what underwear do 7th graders use?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Firstly, even if you're 75, you should not be using the word "brassiere". Just retire that word.

Secondly, my kids said by the spring of 6th grade, EVERY girl was wearing a bralette whether or not they needed one, except for the one really weird girl.

Thirdly, she can just wear whatever kind of top they have to wear on gym days so she doesn't have to change. My DD got two white t-shirts and wore them all day. She didn't care because "Nobody sweats in gym, and anyway it's my 2nd to last class of the day."

75 year olds are the OG hippies from back in the day. They didn’t even wear brassieres.

I buy those J Crew cropped tanks or cropped camisoles from Urban Outfitters. I look for thick t-shirts baggy that she doesn’t have to wear anything to cover her breast buds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son wore athletic clothes to school every day and did not change for PE even once the entire time he was in middle school. 8th grade was last year in FCPS. They may not even change clothes.

Some of the worst B.O. emanates from 8th grade boys.