Says Being Rich Is The ‘Hardest Thing’ About Parenting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds myopic, wealthy people/including celebrities have often voiced this concern and there are various ways to handle it, if you are serious about wanting to stack your odds to help create grateful, unentitled, motivated and balanced people there are things that can be done. He doesn't have to invent the wheel. He's talking about it like it's a unique dilemma.

He was asked so he gave an honest answer. Is he supposed to make up something to make it sound more profound or should he just answer honestly?

When asked how he keeps his kids grounded, he said, “It’s probably the hardest thing for us as parents, you know, with myself and my wife.”

What do you think he should have answered?

Maybe he and his family should try and get involved with helping those less fortunate to teach empathy and how to do good with what you have.

Meh. It would never be good enough for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds myopic, wealthy people/including celebrities have often voiced this concern and there are various ways to handle it, if you are serious about wanting to stack your odds to help create grateful, unentitled, motivated and balanced people there are things that can be done. He doesn't have to invent the wheel. He's talking about it like it's a unique dilemma.

He was asked so he gave an honest answer. Is he supposed to make up something to make it sound more profound or should he just answer honestly?

When asked how he keeps his kids grounded, he said, “It’s probably the hardest thing for us as parents, you know, with myself and my wife.”

What do you think he should have answered?

Maybe he and his family should try and get involved with helping those less fortunate to teach empathy and how to do good with what you have.

Meh. It would never be good enough for you.

From previous post - it can be done

I not generally a fan of the Kennedy family but I remember an interview once with Maria Shriver where she talked about how this was drilled into her as a child and it's something she drills into her own kids and she's grateful for it because she thinks when you are born into money and privilege, it has a tendency to demotivate and make it hard to identify a life purpose. But charity work and helping people who are less fortunate is an endless enterprise, and it's hard. No matter how much money you have, doing that work will always pose challenges. It gives wealthy people something to really try at, and it contains actual hard-won victories instead of the often easy successes that the very privileged get used to acquiring.

Again, too a Kennedy fan generally but this did make me respect Shriver a bit and this seems like a smart way to deal with the problem Brady is talking about here. Most of the roadmaps for parenting assume lots of built in limitations on kids and families. The very wealthy and privileged don't have those, so you need to find ways to create them without feigning poverty (obnoxious, insulting, will backfire) or giving you kid a personality disorder (real risk). Focusing on charity and volunteer work as a familial duty and calling is a good way to do that.

This is also how British Royals handle a similar problem, and you can see how the people who embrace that calling tend to do better as people (mentally, in relationships, etc.) than those who don't. A lot of the dysfunction in that family is due to people who don't know what to do with their privilege.

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Well to be fair he says it’s the hardest thing for him and Gisele about parenting. Clearly it’s not hard for them to manage after school activity logistics or put food on the table or provide vacations. I think he actually sounds pretty self aware. Although I did want to be like, “if you’re worried that people cleans for your kids and make them food, you can dial that back and make them in charge of their own lunches and their own rooms”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well to be fair he says it’s the hardest thing for him and Gisele about parenting. Clearly it’s not hard for them to manage after school activity logistics or put food on the table or provide vacations. I think he actually sounds pretty self aware. Although I did want to be like, “if you’re worried that people cleans for your kids and make them food, you can dial that back and make them in charge of their own lunches and their own rooms”

He sounds much more self aware than the average Joe dopes on here wondering how to get laundry service, meal delivery, and deep cleaned dorms for college students. But, people who prefer a different quarterback will always find a way to fault.

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Anonymous wrote:Poor Tom, maybe a great QB but not too bright.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/tom-brady-being-rich-is-hardest-thing-about-parenting_n_62e045dbe4b06e213fc49251

In what way does he sound "not too bright"?

DP. One of my friends nannied for one of their kid’s friends family and he is in fact not bright and just a textbook dumb jock. Although she did say that he and Giselle are very nice.


That said there’s nothing wrong with being dumb! I hate how everyone assumes that every successful person is also intelligent.

It's almost as if having the highest SAT score isn't a guarantee of success and wealth. Who woulda thunk it?

Lol.. the moment book smart people realize they are stupid in every other way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tom Brady should have a chat with Warren Buffet.

Aren’t most of Warren’s kids losers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tom Brady should have a chat with Warren Buffet.

Aren’t most of Warren’s kids losers?

At least they’re poor losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, since so many kids of the rich and famous are messed up I don't see where what he said was wrong. It does pose some unique problems.

Being dirt poor poses problems that are a lot harder to address

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds myopic, wealthy people/including celebrities have often voiced this concern and there are various ways to handle it, if you are serious about wanting to stack your odds to help create grateful, unentitled, motivated and balanced people there are things that can be done. He doesn't have to invent the wheel. He's talking about it like it's a unique dilemma.

He was asked so he gave an honest answer. Is he supposed to make up something to make it sound more profound or should he just answer honestly?

When asked how he keeps his kids grounded, he said, “It’s probably the hardest thing for us as parents, you know, with myself and my wife.”

What do you think he should have answered?

Maybe he and his family should try and get involved with helping those less fortunate to teach empathy and how to do good with what you have.

Meh. It would never be good enough for you.

From previous post - it can be done

I not generally a fan of the Kennedy family but I remember an interview once with Maria Shriver where she talked about how this was drilled into her as a child and it's something she drills into her own kids and she's grateful for it because she thinks when you are born into money and privilege, it has a tendency to demotivate and make it hard to identify a life purpose. But charity work and helping people who are less fortunate is an endless enterprise, and it's hard. No matter how much money you have, doing that work will always pose challenges. It gives wealthy people something to really try at, and it contains actual hard-won victories instead of the often easy successes that the very privileged get used to acquiring.

Again, too a Kennedy fan generally but this did make me respect Shriver a bit and this seems like a smart way to deal with the problem Brady is talking about here. Most of the roadmaps for parenting assume lots of built in limitations on kids and families. The very wealthy and privileged don't have those, so you need to find ways to create them without feigning poverty (obnoxious, insulting, will backfire) or giving you kid a personality disorder (real risk). Focusing on charity and volunteer work as a familial duty and calling is a good way to do that.

This is also how British Royals handle a similar problem, and you can see how the people who embrace that calling tend to do better as people (mentally, in relationships, etc.) than those who don't. A lot of the dysfunction in that family is due to people who don't know what to do with their privilege.

The Kennedys aren't exactly a clan you should hope you kids emulate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, since so many kids of the rich and famous are messed up I don't see where what he said was wrong. It does pose some unique problems.

Being dirt poor poses problems that are a lot harder to address

And? Was he asked what was the biggest issue facing parents everywhere was or something else? What answer could he give that would have been acceptable?

[Anonymous]

I have never had any desire to be financially wealthy. True wealth has nothing to do with money. I know for a fact that I would HATE to be followed around by the paparazzi, so I have also never had any desire to be famous. I prefer to fly under the radar. I have a lot more freedom than the majority, and freedom is worth more than anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor Tom, maybe a great QB but not too bright.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/tom-brady-being-rich-is-hardest-thing-about-parenting_n_62e045dbe4b06e213fc49251

In what way does he sound "not too bright"?

DP. One of my friends nannied for one of their kid’s friends family and he is in fact not bright and just a textbook dumb jock. Although she did say that he and Giselle are very nice.


That said there’s nothing wrong with being dumb! I hate how everyone assumes that every successful person is also intelligent.

It's almost as if having the highest SAT score isn't a guarantee of success and wealth. Who woulda thunk it?

Lol whut? No one thinks that SATs have anything to do with being good at posing or throwing a ball.

[Anonymous]

I really can't hate on Tom for that comment. He was being truthful and it indicates that he (and Giselle) are at least somewhat reflective. We should all have such problems, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tom Brady should have a chat with Warren Buffet.

Aren’t most of Warren’s kids losers?

At least they’re poor losers.

I think he gave each of his kids $1bn to have their own charitable foundations. I don't think any of them are losers in the scourge on society sense. One or two are musicians ...that to me doesn't equal to losers--they just had enough wealth and privilege to do what they loved in life.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it looks like modeling charity/philanthropy, in an ongoing way is one way to cultivate gratitude and empathy. And those traits help keep the uglier drives in check. You can't make them grateful but you can at least expose them to the real world and people who struggle and model yourself a level of thoughtfulness and empathy and gratitude. And service. Teach them to give, not receive all the time.