Do people give gifts for middle school “graduation”?

[Anonymous]

I am throwing a party.

[Anonymous]

I’ve giving my son some money to go out with friends that weekend. I think they are planning a trip to TopGolf or to to the mall. It’s more about celebrating school is done for the year than an 8th grade graduation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would give a gift. Eight grade graduation is not the same as moving from 1st grade to 2nd grade. I don’t know why it would be awkward if Auntie wants give them something.

What degree is received after completing 8th grade? It's only moving from 8th grade to 9th grade. The only notable thing is that there may be a change in school.

I think the 5th grade promotion thing is the WORST.

You have a black heart. I love clapout.

[Anonymous]

No. Maybe grandma and grandpa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8th grader is finishing middle school, and going on to high school at the same school. They have an assembly type thing, and I thought I would “celebrate” by taking him and his sibling out for ice cream or making his favorite dinner. Something like that.

But, I have a sibling who likes to give gifts, more often than I do, and sometimes that can lead to awkwardness. So, now I am wondering if this is an event at which people who like to give gifts do so. Not to your own kids but to other people’s kids that you are close to.

Yes.

[Anonymous]

We celebrate middle school graduation because for a lot of my family members they didn’t make it to the 8th grade. So yes it’s a small but important milestone for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We celebrate middle school graduation because for a lot of my family members they didn’t make it to the 8th grade. So yes it’s a small but important milestone for us.

EVEN NOW?????? WTF ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:+1 to ice cream after the promotion ceremony. That's it.

OP here,

I am not asking what I should do for my own kid. I’ll do ice cream or make cookies or something along those lines. I am wondering about what my sibling will do for my kid.

My sister gave my son a nice Polo shirt.

My oldest got vineyard vines t-shirts then.

[Anonymous]

I am in California and families I saw walking to the middle school graduation had cellophane/grocery store flowers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We celebrate middle school graduation because for a lot of my family members they didn’t make it to the 8th grade. So yes it’s a small but important milestone for us.

EVEN NOW?????? WTF ?

Grandparents were on reservation, and parents ended up in the foster care system, and got ‘lost.’ Parents didn’t end up actually parenting so many of my siblings/cousins get kicked out way before their 18th birthday. It’s a long miserable cycle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! Hopefully she agrees with all of you and won’t do it.

I’m curious why you don’t want your child to get a gift from your sibling? My kid just graduated 8th grade- there was a big ceremony on the football field, so a little different. I invited my siblings. They gave gifts, and so did grandparents. Gifts (usually money) is the norm among my child’s friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! Hopefully she agrees with all of you and won’t do it.

I’m curious why you don’t want your child to get a gift from your sibling? My kid just graduated 8th grade- there was a big ceremony on the football field, so a little different. I invited my siblings. They gave gifts, and so did grandparents. Gifts (usually money) is the norm among my child’s friends.

This is the oldest grandchild. If she gives to him, then she'll pressure everyone to give to her kids. She'll say "we're doing gifts, remember, Larlo got gifts." And she'll send out a wish list and all the gifts will be like $50. Then all the people who will give to her oldest will also give to my youngest who is in the same grade. And suddenly, when his brother got one $20 bill from one aunt, he'll have $500 worth of present, and it will feel unfair. And then it will repeat for all the younger cousins.

It's not the end of the world, but I'd rather avoid it. Like I said, it's awkward.

[Anonymous]

I think graduation from middle school is a big deal and should be celebrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! Hopefully she agrees with all of you and won’t do it.

I’m curious why you don’t want your child to get a gift from your sibling? My kid just graduated 8th grade- there was a big ceremony on the football field, so a little different. I invited my siblings. They gave gifts, and so did grandparents. Gifts (usually money) is the norm among my child’s friends.

This is the oldest grandchild. If she gives to him, then she'll pressure everyone to give to her kids. She'll say "we're doing gifts, remember, Larlo got gifts." And she'll send out a wish list and all the gifts will be like $50. Then all the people who will give to her oldest will also give to my youngest who is in the same grade. And suddenly, when his brother got one $20 bill from one aunt, he'll have $500 worth of present, and it will feel unfair. And then it will repeat for all the younger cousins.

It's not the end of the world, but I'd rather avoid it. Like I said, it's awkward.

Your sister sounds like my cousin. She always does things for her own advantage, she' so needy for attention to herself and now her kids. I fell into her trap when the kids were young, Thank God for COVID isolation time...I got a much needed break.

If this is the case, just tell her "No, he has everything he needs and doesn't really want anything for graduation.".... and change the subject really quick! lol.

[Anonymous]

This is a family relationship issue, not a teen issue. Wrong forum.