Writing lines a punishment for sports

[Anonymous]

Your daughter is not engaging in silly behavior, she’s been actively defiant multiple times and showing a lack of respect for the adult in this situation. The fact that you’re appalled by writing sentences and think this behavior is ok just says it all. Your defiant 1st grader will turn into an even more defiant 11th grader if she doesn’t learn to follow rules and how to respect authority. You’re in for a long 11 years if you think this behavior is at all acceptable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is not engaging in silly behavior, she’s been actively defiant multiple times and showing a lack of respect for the adult in this situation. The fact that you’re appalled by writing sentences and think this behavior is ok just says it all. Your defiant 1st grader will turn into an even more defiant 11th grader if she doesn’t learn to follow rules and how to respect authority. You’re in for a long 11 years if you think this behavior is at all acceptable

The behavior sounds very normal for a child of that age. It also is not acceptable for the gymnastics team that she is on. The OP needs to accept that her daughters behavior needs to change for this activity. Kids in more competitive programs need to learn to concentrate and control their behavior at an earlier age then many of their peers.

DS is in a language immersion program. The Teachers were all very clear that the kids would need to do a good job of concentrating and listening in first grade because of the extra work that needs to be done. The Teachers are strict. The class drops in size pretty quickly because not every kid is capable of being that focused at 6. There is nothing wrong with the kids, the expectations are higher and not every 6 year old can meet those expectations.

Your daughter might not be ready for this level of commitment. I suspect that the Coach is coming close to telling you that she is going to have to leave the program because of her behavior. Remind your daughter that she needs to stay focused and follow the rules otherwise she cannot stay in this class.

[Anonymous]

Time to take her out of the class. Find her something where she can be silly without wasting other people's time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Time to take her out of the class. Find her something where she can be silly without wasting other people's time.

+1

Her behavior is normal, but it isn't appropriate for this class.

I would do what the PP suggested to show her you mean business and give her one last shot at staying in the class. She clearly needs an immediate consequence for her behavior. YOU go to practice, and when she starts misbehaving, take her home. Give her three strikes and that's it.

[Anonymous]

I broke my ankle because a friend was “fidgeting” in gymnastics class. This is serious and OP needs to see that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is not engaging in silly behavior, she’s been actively defiant multiple times and showing a lack of respect for the adult in this situation. The fact that you’re appalled by writing sentences and think this behavior is ok just says it all. Your defiant 1st grader will turn into an even more defiant 11th grader if she doesn’t learn to follow rules and how to respect authority. You’re in for a long 11 years if you think this behavior is at all acceptable

+1 your kid needs help and you need to learn how to discipline

[Anonymous]

It sounds like when you speak to her, OP, she does behave for a couple of classes. I think you need to speak to her before every class and remind her of expectations and that she may not be able to keep taking the class if she breaks the rules.

Otherwise, find a looser class. I don't think writing lines is a great punishment, but I get why the coach doesn't want her touching other kids or messing around on the equipment when she isn't supervised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why haven't you talked to your daughter about her behavior?

Is she always this fidgety? Does she have adhd?

I have never had any complaints from school, other than she has used a few choice words(she can fiery)
I do talk to her about it and she mostly just ignores the conversation and says she will listen next time. She will usually do better for the next couple of practices and then she’s back to doing what she wants instead of listening.

She is disrupting the other kids with her behavior. Other parents are paying fir these classes and the coach should not be spending time dealing with your child at the expense of others. She's not mature enough for the class and not taking it seriously. Do everyone a favor and pull her out.

[Sissi2mom]

OP you should not dismiss this. Your daughter is disrespecting the teacher and disrupting the class. It is not acceptable. The other kids are presumably the same age and are not acting like your daughter.

I can’t believe this is even a question…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d pull her out and tell her she’s not mature enough for gymnastics but maybe she can try again in a year or so.

Don’t shame the kid!
This isn’t the right fit for her right now- and that is fine. At her age, the class should be fun and engaging. If this coach is too firm with developmentally inappropriate expectations- move her to something she can feel good about and enjoy. I agree in helping kids meet expectations. But sometimes those expectations are not in line with a child’s development. Get her out of there! Find something that meets her where she is.

Wondering if you, the parent, we’re really in to gymnastics. And secretly hoping your kid would be too. Just because it isn’t a fit now, doesn’t mean it won’t always be. But forcing the issue is only going to backfire somewhere down the line.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rising 1st grader is on a preteam at gymnastics and she loves it but isn’t always the best behaved. Doing cartwheels when she isn’t supposed to, getting on the trampoline, tickling other girls etc. Coach has had several conversation with her, had her sit out, and if so extra conditioning. Friday after practice she told me that she wants her to write “I will not good off at practice” 10 times at being it to the next practice because she just doesn’t seem to be taking the other reprimands seriously and the other girls on her team are not having this issue. I was kind of shocked by the request to make a 6yr old write lines for just silly behavior. My daughter absolutely loves the class and doesn’t not want to quit so I guess we will do the lines, but I feel this is really outdated and not going to be very effective.

Potential to injure/concuss other children isn't "just silly". You need to get wiggles out by having an adult tickle fight with her and then telling her you are the only one she can tickle and only in your house's bed. Then have her do 200 jumps on your home trampoline/garage sale mattress. Then 30 cartwheels. Then have her run laps until her heart rate elevates. Warn her that the coach is being extra generous, but one more screw up and you'll lose the money and will get removed from the lessons. Tell her for good reason because she is a DANGER to the other students. Only after fatigue and wiggles out and focus on, should you take her to practice. Also fix YOUR attitude OP and consider magnesium supplements for DD.

No, the coach is not outdated, but rather EXTREMELY patient and lenient as she would have gotten kicked out of many teams/squads by now. -Coached first-grade cheer w/stunts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are correct that writing lines is outdated and will be completely ineffective. Your daughter isn’t mature enough for this particular class. Sounds like she would prefer less structure like at a Little Gym or My Gym where the expectation is fun not skill. I’d put her in a different program for now. When she is more emotionally and socially mature, you can try more serious classes if she’s still interested.

This.