If one of your children is gifted/advanced

[Anonymous]

Are your other children also? Just curious how often all all the kids of a family are advanced or if it is usually individual talent vs parenting

You are either a troll or a dolt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is quite gifted, especially in math/science. The other has a completely average IQ. The gifted one is not nearly as adept socially while the non-gifted one clearly has a career in some sort of caring area -- teaching, therapy, social work. They're both older teenagers so it's very clear what each path will be. They will be equally successful in their own ways because although their IQ's are 45 points apart, they each have very strong talents.

The one with the lower IQ definitely benefits from the fact that they have had a very strong education and hangs around with very educated people. We discuss pretty sophisticated topics around the dinner table and they have been exposed to a lot of museums, music, travel, etc. So I think the level of achievement has been higher than "should' have been because of this.

The IQ is thought to be due to a loss of oxygen during an emergency C-section. There were many delays and years of therapies of various types. I have no worries about their future potential now, but I did during those years.

I find the topic very interesting as we are 2 high-achieving parents educationally and it's kind of weird to have a kid who isn't and on the other hand I'm so impressed with the other skills that I really don't care about that with this kid.

who talks like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Are your other children also? Just curious how often all all the kids of a family are advanced or if it is usually individual talent vs parenting

You are either a troll or a dolt.

No, just gifted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is quite gifted, especially in math/science. The other has a completely average IQ. The gifted one is not nearly as adept socially while the non-gifted one clearly has a career in some sort of caring area -- teaching, therapy, social work. They're both older teenagers so it's very clear what each path will be. They will be equally successful in their own ways because although their IQ's are 45 points apart, they each have very strong talents.

The one with the lower IQ definitely benefits from the fact that they have had a very strong education and hangs around with very educated people. We discuss pretty sophisticated topics around the dinner table and they have been exposed to a lot of museums, music, travel, etc. So I think the level of achievement has been higher than "should' have been because of this.

The IQ is thought to be due to a loss of oxygen during an emergency C-section. There were many delays and years of therapies of various types. I have no worries about their future potential now, but I did during those years.

I find the topic very interesting as we are 2 high-achieving parents educationally and it's kind of weird to have a kid who isn't and on the other hand I'm so impressed with the other skills that I really don't care about that with this kid.

who talks like this?

Gifted people.

[Anonymous]

No. Only the oldest is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your other children also? Just curious how often all all the kids of a family are advanced or if it is usually individual talent vs parenting

Your children are not gifted or advanced so a moot point.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I were both considered gifted as children. One of our kids was tapped for the gifted program at school based on test scores - we had no idea he even took a test. We consider him average and just thought he was on grade level.

Our younger child who starts kindergarten in the fall is WAY smarter than the older child. He learns things faster, memorizes better and just seems to have a more intuitive understanding of math. Our older child is bright and learns things he is taught. Our younger child observes the world, asks questions, and finds patterns or rules that he applies in novel scenarios.

I am an only child. My husband is oldest of 3. All three are smart, but in very different ways. One is a PhD engineer, one is a writer / PR exec, and one is successful in advertising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were both considered gifted as children. One of our kids was tapped for the gifted program at school based on test scores - we had no idea he even took a test. We consider him average and just thought he was on grade level.

Our younger child who starts kindergarten in the fall is WAY smarter than the older child. He learns things faster, memorizes better and just seems to have a more intuitive understanding of math. Our older child is bright and learns things he is taught. Our younger child observes the world, asks questions, and finds patterns or rules that he applies in novel scenarios.

I am an only child. My husband is oldest of 3. All three are smart, but in very different ways. One is a PhD engineer, one is a writer / PR exec, and one is successful in advertising.

Everyone is considered gifted as a child. None of those careers means one is gifted. You will still be okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were both considered gifted as children. One of our kids was tapped for the gifted program at school based on test scores - we had no idea he even took a test. We consider him average and just thought he was on grade level.

Our younger child who starts kindergarten in the fall is WAY smarter than the older child. He learns things faster, memorizes better and just seems to have a more intuitive understanding of math. Our older child is bright and learns things he is taught. Our younger child observes the world, asks questions, and finds patterns or rules that he applies in novel scenarios.

I am an only child. My husband is oldest of 3. All three are smart, but in very different ways. One is a PhD engineer, one is a writer / PR exec, and one is successful in advertising.

Everyone is considered gifted as a child. None of those careers means one is gifted. You will still be okay.

You consider your child average because he is. This gifted nonsense gets thrown around so much, so overstated. All my friends kids are “gifted.” He’s gifted, she’s gifted, they are gifted, I’m gifted, you’re gifted, my grandma’s gifted, my neighbor’s uncle’s 1st cousin is gifted, my dog walker is gifted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were both considered gifted as children. One of our kids was tapped for the gifted program at school based on test scores - we had no idea he even took a test. We consider him average and just thought he was on grade level.

Our younger child who starts kindergarten in the fall is WAY smarter than the older child. He learns things faster, memorizes better and just seems to have a more intuitive understanding of math. Our older child is bright and learns things he is taught. Our younger child observes the world, asks questions, and finds patterns or rules that he applies in novel scenarios.

I am an only child. My husband is oldest of 3. All three are smart, but in very different ways. One is a PhD engineer, one is a writer / PR exec, and one is successful in advertising.

Everyone is considered gifted as a child. None of those careers means one is gifted. You will still be okay.

You consider your child average because he is. This gifted nonsense gets thrown around so much, so overstated. All my friends kids are “gifted.” He’s gifted, she’s gifted, they are gifted, I’m gifted, you’re gifted, my grandma’s gifted, my neighbor’s uncle’s 1st cousin is gifted, my dog walker is gifted.

You say that because you don't know very many people. Not everyone is gifted (academically, i.e., high IQ which usually means fast processing speed). Some people are, most people aren't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were both considered gifted as children. One of our kids was tapped for the gifted program at school based on test scores - we had no idea he even took a test. We consider him average and just thought he was on grade level.

Our younger child who starts kindergarten in the fall is WAY smarter than the older child. He learns things faster, memorizes better and just seems to have a more intuitive understanding of math. Our older child is bright and learns things he is taught. Our younger child observes the world, asks questions, and finds patterns or rules that he applies in novel scenarios.

I am an only child. My husband is oldest of 3. All three are smart, but in very different ways. One is a PhD engineer, one is a writer / PR exec, and one is successful in advertising.

Everyone is considered gifted as a child. None of those careers means one is gifted. You will still be okay.

You consider your child average because he is. This gifted nonsense gets thrown around so much, so overstated. All my friends kids are “gifted.” He’s gifted, she’s gifted, they are gifted, I’m gifted, you’re gifted, my grandma’s gifted, my neighbor’s uncle’s 1st cousin is gifted, my dog walker is gifted.

You say that because you don't know very many people. Not everyone is gifted (academically, i.e., high IQ which usually means fast processing speed). Some people are, most people aren't.

Yes, I don’t know very many people, great logic there on how you’ve come up with that conclusion.
High IQ does not correlate to fast speed processing. Slow processors can and do have high iqs as well.
You might be the first person I know who is not gifted. Congrats.

[Anonymous]

Teacher here, the “gifted” program is a misnomer. The children recognized for it are bright or talented. Gifted is a unique trait and I may have seen one truly gifted child who was also autistic. He went on to one of the top specialized schools in the country and not sure what happened since.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.

Those are not traits determining one’s giftedness.

One sibling was identified as gifted, other siblings weren't. You don't consider being tested and identified as gifted as relevant? The rest is context.

Gifted people do not need a test to determine.

Yes they do. Your kids just weren’t invited to test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were both considered gifted as children. One of our kids was tapped for the gifted program at school based on test scores - we had no idea he even took a test. We consider him average and just thought he was on grade level.

Our younger child who starts kindergarten in the fall is WAY smarter than the older child. He learns things faster, memorizes better and just seems to have a more intuitive understanding of math. Our older child is bright and learns things he is taught. Our younger child observes the world, asks questions, and finds patterns or rules that he applies in novel scenarios.

I am an only child. My husband is oldest of 3. All three are smart, but in very different ways. One is a PhD engineer, one is a writer / PR exec, and one is successful in advertising.

Everyone is considered gifted as a child. None of those careers means one is gifted. You will still be okay.

You consider your child average because he is. This gifted nonsense gets thrown around so much, so overstated. All my friends kids are “gifted.” He’s gifted, she’s gifted, they are gifted, I’m gifted, you’re gifted, my grandma’s gifted, my neighbor’s uncle’s 1st cousin is gifted, my dog walker is gifted.

This is so true.

[Anonymous]

So my kids are young so a lot of this is still TBD but my 1st grader is "probably" gifted (obviously hasn't been tested but has elicited comments from multiple teachers) while my 2 yr old appears completely average. However my 2 year old shows much more determination and patience than the 6 yo during a "failure" so I wouldn't be surprised if she ends up going further than my first.