Is it weird to be curious about how much money people make?

[Anonymous]

DP. The spouse is not a high earner but is in PE? That’s a very, very well paid job.

This. PE can pay very well.

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I am not curious because other people's income is none of my business.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. For context, a friend just bought in a 1.5 mil house in a desirable zip code, got engaged with what looked like an expensive ring, got married earlier this year in a 70k-80k ceremony and is planning an international honeymoon all the while furnishing the house with expensive furniture. I’m just curious what 30 year old can afford back to back expenses like that. The spouse is not a high earner. And there doesn’t appear to be family money on either side. So I obviously wonder what income bracket he must be in to be living like that at only 30.

Well, what's his job? I was once in a friend group in my late 20s/early 30s that most of us had pretty good DC jobs, were living in apartments, some of us owned very stupid houses, etc. But one guy owned a 4-bedroom house in the better part of the city, drove a Land Rover, and had a wine cellar! And actually that was modest compared to what he could afford, as it turned out. That's when I realized that DC corporate lawyers can make $500K+ per year. I had no idea, not having had anyone like that in my family or circle before.

It's totally OK to be curious. But never pry. The guy I described above was very cool, the money disparity among friends was likely very uncomfortable for him, but he'd come from a very modest background which is why I think he was in our group. If the rich friend grew up rich, I think it's much less likely he ever meets the poors.

Op here. He’s in PE. His spouse is in a normal field and her parents are solidly MC. His parents are MC as well.

DP. The spouse is not a high earner but is in PE? That’s a very, very well paid job.

How much do they make?

My sister is in PE. A couple of years ago she told me that entry for an analyst in DC (not NYC) was $300,000. It goes up from there.

Yes I used to work in Pe as well. This is for the lowest people. Most make millions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m always curious. When I meet someone professionally or personally, one of the first things I do is check online to see how much their house is worth. (Also looking to see what neighborhood, whether it’s cute, but mainly price.)

For people in my professional space, I’m curious about salary as a means of benchmarking.

Zillow will tell you their ballpark remaining mortgage as well. Fwiw most pole put down 20%. Quite eye opening.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PPs that curiosity is normal. I’m curious about lots of stuff I’d never bring up.

But my husband is a bit preoccupied with how much people make and I don’t think it’s crass but it is a little much. Maybe give your husband a test and discuss it with other people?

But definitely don’t feel bad about being curious!

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. For context, a friend just bought in a 1.5 mil house in a desirable zip code, got engaged with what looked like an expensive ring, got married earlier this year in a 70k-80k ceremony and is planning an international honeymoon all the while furnishing the house with expensive furniture. I’m just curious what 30 year old can afford back to back expenses like that. The spouse is not a high earner. And there doesn’t appear to be family money on either side. So I obviously wonder what income bracket he must be in to be living like that at only 30.

Well, what's his job? I was once in a friend group in my late 20s/early 30s that most of us had pretty good DC jobs, were living in apartments, some of us owned very stupid houses, etc. But one guy owned a 4-bedroom house in the better part of the city, drove a Land Rover, and had a wine cellar! And actually that was modest compared to what he could afford, as it turned out. That's when I realized that DC corporate lawyers can make $500K+ per year. I had no idea, not having had anyone like that in my family or circle before.

It's totally OK to be curious. But never pry. The guy I described above was very cool, the money disparity among friends was likely very uncomfortable for him, but he'd come from a very modest background which is why I think he was in our group. If the rich friend grew up rich, I think it's much less likely he ever meets the poors.

Op here. He’s in PE. His spouse is in a normal field and her parents are solidly MC. His parents are MC as well.

He probably makes millions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not curious because other people's income is none of my business.

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I really don’t care at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. For context, a friend just bought in a 1.5 mil house in a desirable zip code, got engaged with what looked like an expensive ring, got married earlier this year in a 70k-80k ceremony and is planning an international honeymoon all the while furnishing the house with expensive furniture. I’m just curious what 30 year old can afford back to back expenses like that. The spouse is not a high earner. And there doesn’t appear to be family money on either side. So I obviously wonder what income bracket he must be in to be living like that at only 30.

Well, what's his job? I was once in a friend group in my late 20s/early 30s that most of us had pretty good DC jobs, were living in apartments, some of us owned very stupid houses, etc. But one guy owned a 4-bedroom house in the better part of the city, drove a Land Rover, and had a wine cellar! And actually that was modest compared to what he could afford, as it turned out. That's when I realized that DC corporate lawyers can make $500K+ per year. I had no idea, not having had anyone like that in my family or circle before.

It's totally OK to be curious. But never pry. The guy I described above was very cool, the money disparity among friends was likely very uncomfortable for him, but he'd come from a very modest background which is why I think he was in our group. If the rich friend grew up rich, I think it's much less likely he ever meets the poors.

Op here. He’s in PE. His spouse is in a normal field and her parents are solidly MC. His parents are MC as well.

He probably makes millions.

PP who previously brought up that PE pays well. I know several people in it. At 30, I doubt he’s making millions (you usually need to have carry, have made partner to do that, middle market vs megafund). But I would assume several hundred thousand per year. Enough to swing the house (with a mortgage), wedding, ring for sure.

[Anonymous]

I’m in HR for public traded multinational company. I know how much everyone makes, their salary their stock, their sign on bonus. and I know the market data for jobs for all other companies in our vertical as well as companies our size. So no I’m not curious. If you tell me your job title in my dice I know your total comp within a range of 10-15%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not curious because other people's income is none of my business.

This is not how curiosity works.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. It helps you figure out how much you should be worth. And where you can go to earn more money.

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Anonymous wrote:I am curious about how everyone I know makes. My neighbors, friends, acquaintances, colleagues, bosses, family.

My husband thinks I’m super crass and nosy.

Stop embarrassing your husband with your sick curiosity. Shame on you.

Lol this poster is the wooooorst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in HR for public traded multinational company. I know how much everyone makes, their salary their stock, their sign on bonus. and I know the market data for jobs for all other companies in our vertical as well as companies our size. So no I’m not curious. If you tell me your job title in my dice I know your total comp within a range of 10-15%

Can you tell me how much executive directors at major pharma companies make? How is their comp broken down: base, bonus, RSUs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m always curious. When I meet someone professionally or personally, one of the first things I do is check online to see how much their house is worth. (Also looking to see what neighborhood, whether it’s cute, but mainly price.)

For people in my professional space, I’m curious about salary as a means of benchmarking.

I do the same, check where they live and what property they have.

[Anonymous]

I really don't care what people earn. I hate it when people pry into our business. If people knew how much money we have they would be jealous or ask for money or both.

I don't want to know how much sex they have either.