Babysitter (not a nanny) doesn’t do her dinner dishes.

[Anonymous]

I would prefer that she put the dishes in the sink. People always load the dishwasher wrong and I prefer to do it myself. This behavior seems normal and acceptable to me.

[Anonymous]

This babysitter is 25 and basically just sits there in case the baby wakes up while eating a take out dinner she ordered that her employer paid for and she can’t wash her dishes? OP said the dish drainer and dish soap were right there.

Was the babysitter too busy doing nothing?

[Anonymous]

You bought her dinner, have the baby asleep, and are undoubtedly paying well since she’s 25 and a nurse - and she can’t hand wash her own dinner dishes?!

Yeah, that would bug me too.

PS. What were you paying an hour, OP?

[Anonymous]

A plate, utensils and a glass wouldn’t bother me because I have a certain way of stacking the dishes as long as she rinsed them off first. Now if she made herself a meal and left a sink full of pots and pans, then I would ask her to wash them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she a teenager? She probably thinks she's being polite and not messing with your belongings unnecessarily.

OP here. She’s 25 and an RN. The dish drainer and dish soap are right there if she doesn’t feel comfortable putting them in the dishwasher.

Clearly, this is annoying me!

This is a “you” problem.

+1

[Anonymous]

Leaving them on the table or something would be rude. Putting them in the sink is fine. If you prefer that she put them in the dishwasher, then ask her to do that.

But it sounds like you don't want her to put them in the dishwasher, you want her to hand-wash them. And that's a strange request in my mind.

[Anonymous]

In the sink is within the range of acceptable. I don't have the best pipes, so I don't want dishes going in the dishwasher that aren't fully rinsed. Just leave them in the sink, and put some water in them and I'll stack them when I come home. Just the fact that you're all bent out of shape on this tells me you're fussy to begin with and she doesn't want to do them "wrong" after you gave her a million instructions on exactly how to burp the baby or whatever.

You paid an RN to be in the house to watch an infant in case the infant chokes or there's a fire or flood. You got to leave the house, presumably with a partner, for a night out. You can move a plate and some utensils to the dishwasher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:THe fact that a 25 yr old RN can't figure out how to clean up after herself worries me more. Is this who you want taking care of you? Eek.

My main concern is why does a RN need a second job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the sink is within the range of acceptable. I don't have the best pipes, so I don't want dishes going in the dishwasher that aren't fully rinsed. Just leave them in the sink, and put some water in them and I'll stack them when I come home. Just the fact that you're all bent out of shape on this tells me you're fussy to begin with and she doesn't want to do them "wrong" after you gave her a million instructions on exactly how to burp the baby or whatever.

You paid an RN to be in the house to watch an infant in case the infant chokes or there's a fire or flood. You got to leave the house, presumably with a partner, for a night out. You can move a plate and some utensils to the dishwasher.

+1 My DH is in charge of the dishes and very fussy about everything. He would prefer the dishes left in the sink. However, if it’s bugging you, just tell the sitter what you want her to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:THe fact that a 25 yr old RN can't figure out how to clean up after herself worries me more. Is this who you want taking care of you? Eek.

My main concern is why does a RN need a second job?

Maybe she has school loans she’s trying to pay off. Maybe she sends money to her family to help them out. Maybe she realizes that instead of sitting home and watching tv, she can go to OPs house and get free dinner and be paid to watch tv instead. Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:THe fact that a 25 yr old RN can't figure out how to clean up after herself worries me more. Is this who you want taking care of you? Eek.

My main concern is why does a RN need a second job?

What a strange question!!

[Anonymous]

I've had a second job my entire life. When I am 65 I will take it down to one. Some of us have multiple interests in life and could never do just one thing.

Btw I am also a nurse -- I work three 12-hour shifts. On 3 other days I am a personal trainer. I take Sundays off.

[Anonymous]

I didn't grow up with a dishwasher and I knew people were particular about what can go in them and how to load them, so I probably did the same as a teenager/college-aged sitter.

[Anonymous]

Communication, woman. Do you expect your DH to read your mind too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she a teenager? She probably thinks she's being polite and not messing with your belongings unnecessarily.

OP here. She’s 25 and an RN. The dish drainer and dish soap are right there if she doesn’t feel comfortable putting them in the dishwasher.

Clearly, this is annoying me!

She's there to babysit not do dishes. You could ask her to put dirty dishes, glass or cup, and flatware that she uses in dishwasher but this means that it is empty or has dirty dishes. Babysitters, no matter their age or educational background, just babysit, nothing more.