S/O If you had a horrible roommate(s) at some point in your life, what did they do that made living

[Anonymous]

College - Moved her bum boyfriend in with us. She met the guy partying during spring break, they kept in touch and about a month later he flew up and never left. I don’t think he held a job and had kids all over the country. I googled him years later and he was serving time for his involvement in a car theft ring.

[Anonymous]

I was in a triple on a mixed gender floor. My roommate and I were asleep when roommate 3 came in. She threw everything off the bed and was really loud. A few hours later she was really snoring loud so I threw a sock at her. She then get up and we then realize it’s a guy. He proceeds to pee all over roommates shoes in the closet and all over the bottom of her clothes. And then he throws up and passes out. He’s buck naked!

My roommate and I were so pissed. We called the cops and kept him in the room until they arrived. We had to file a police report for the completely broken laptop that he threw off the bed, the pee on hundreds of dollars of shoes and the vomit all over the carpet. Kind of scary that he was in our room for so long, blacked out drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College: she brought guys home to our shared room and boned them all night long. I had to trade her for a different roommate nobody else liked (bc she was black and they were racists).

Adulthood: she smoked in the apt when I wasn't there, and burned the kitchen countertop.

Adulthood: she had two rescue dogs who had been abused - I love dogs - and she trained them to be afraid of everyone but her and walked around claiming she was such an excellent dog trainer. Yet she'd tell me I had to keep my bathroom door closed so her dogs wouldnt' root through the trash. And when I was cooking meatsauce on the front burner one evening she told me to move it to the back burner so her dog wouldn't jump up for it. Why not just train your dogs to behave better since you're such a great dog trainer? I grew up with a dog who never did those things. She also stole weird things from me - like the lid to a pot, a mac & cheese, etc.

I forgot two from adulthood!

#1: Sweet girl from Nebraska or South Dakota or someplace like that, came to the Big City for her Big Grownup Job straight out of college. Assured me she was very neat and clean and mature so even though I normally wanted older roommates, said okay to this 22 yr old. She promptly bought a car. In the city. And then had to pay monthly parking. Then her BGJ put her on a project which meant she had to be out of town every week from early Monday morning to late Friday evening. Every Friday evening she'd bake cookies to wind down. One day she came to me in tears and begged me to lower the rent because she was barely there, and also cried that she wasn't getting to drive her car at all. I tried to not laugh in her face as I explained that no, I could not lower her rent because the full rent still had to be paid and it's not like I could put someone else in her room during the week. After that she never offered me a cookie again.

#2: Very verbally assertive, assured me she had a good job and was going to school at night for her MBA through a program at work, would barely be home. Was not from this country but had done college here and we had no communication issues. Great. She started having her boyfriend over like four nights a week. They'd watch anime and eat for hours in the living room. Then one day she sent me an email. "Lauren, my parents are coming from China to visit for three months. Isn't that great? I'm so excited!" So I told her no, I moved out because I didn't want to live with parents. If I did, I'd live with my own. And then gently told her in this country having someone visit for a weekend is acceptable but a quarter of a year is not. So she cried and begged and said they had health issues that necessitated special food and being near a kitchen, I said no, get a hotel suite or something, but no. I agreed to two weeks.

Her parents came. They spoke no English. I taught myself how to say "Hello, my name is Lauren" in Cantonese. I asked a Chinese American friend at work if there was anything I should know about Chinese culture so as not to offend them. She told me to never trust that my kitchen was clean and to Clorox Wipe it each time completely before I cooked because they don't do food safety the same way Americans do. And confirmed two weeks was plenty generous. After three weeks, I noticed they were still there though I wasn't seeing them as much. I still said hello to them each night when I came home. Learned the mother understood a decent amount of English and spoke a smidge. At five weeks I confronted the roommate and told her I knew she was hiding her parents in her bedroom and this was unacceptable. She had to get them a hotel room or have them stay elsewhere. She got very upset and angry. We parted with zero resolution. The next day before Roommate was home, her mom knocked on my door and came into my bedroom and apologized to me for causing problems. I explained it was just a cultural difference and that she and her husband were very nice, but it was a lot, with Roommate's boyfriend sleeping over all the time and now them. Her eyes got VERY wide and I realized she hadn't known that and it was a secret.

Later, screaming happened in her bedroom. The next morning, I headed to work and Roommate ran into the hall after me screaming at me in English for telling on her. The mother was mortified and screaming in Chinese at her daughter, who screamed back at her. The mother apologized to me, and shoved the daughter back into her bedroom slamming the door. I went to work and told my friend what was going on. She confirmed the mother finding out about the boyfriend was a big deal, and the mother was not mad at me. The parents left a few days later.

OMG. This is awesome. Well done!

[Anonymous]

As the awful person in college who brought guys into the shared room sometimes, I just want to say how sorry I am. It was 30 years ago and I still feel awful. Also for borrowing your shirt without asking.

Also it's kind of awful to make 18 year olds whose hormones are going buck wild, share rooms with strangers.

But that's not to let myself off the hook. I'm on the hook. I'm so sorry!!!

[Anonymous]

My college roommate told me that interracial dating was wrong but that she didn't hate me for doing it.

Um, thanks?

[Anonymous]

College--freshman year roommate was a slut (like actually became a porn star post-college), sophomore year was ok but such a slob and senior year tried to steal my boyfriend.

Post-college--this girl was not just messy but dirty. She would just leave whatever she had used on the floor--dishes, utensils, maxi pads (yes!) just on the floor. We ended up with flies in the apartment and at one point ran out of forks because they were in her room. Total nut!

[Anonymous]

College: opened my mail and stole my credit cards

[Anonymous]

College: roommate one year was basically a human mattress. Brought in random guys all hours of the night including side you men in their late 20s who lived off campus. “Borrowed” my jeans all the time while having genital herpes outbreaks. Also stole cash, cds (late 90s), clothing, and makeup from me. I was constantly on edge and worried for my safety at night. My grades suffered.

I’m no helicopter parent but I’ll happily pay for my own kids to get a single dorm so they don’t have to deal with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 90s, college. Was sharing a small 2 bedroom house with a male friend (I'm female). Partway through the year he professed his deep and abiding love for me. I had no clue, was completely blindsided, and told him I didn't reciprocate. We lived awkwardly together for the rest of the lease. When it ended, he left town (he wasn't a student). Later that summer the owner of the rental sent me a large bill because I had been giving my rent money to my roommate who was in charge of paying the rent (the landlord would only accept one check). After I spurned him, my roomie kept cashing my checks but didn't actually pay the rent. I tried to track him down but he had basically vanished, so I was stuck re-paying a ton of the rent. I was an extremely poor college student already working multiple jobs, so it was pretty tough.

Yeah that kind of “deep and abiding love” you were right to spurn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 90s, college. Was sharing a small 2 bedroom house with a male friend (I'm female). Partway through the year he professed his deep and abiding love for me. I had no clue, was completely blindsided, and told him I didn't reciprocate. We lived awkwardly together for the rest of the lease. When it ended, he left town (he wasn't a student). Later that summer the owner of the rental sent me a large bill because I had been giving my rent money to my roommate who was in charge of paying the rent (the landlord would only accept one check). After I spurned him, my roomie kept cashing my checks but didn't actually pay the rent. I tried to track him down but he had basically vanished, so I was stuck re-paying a ton of the rent. I was an extremely poor college student already working multiple jobs, so it was pretty tough.

Yeah that kind of “deep and abiding love” you were right to spurn

The landlord should have told you a few days after the first missed check!! I would t be surprised if landlord and male roommate were in cahoots.

[Anonymous]

My dorm roommate was in a monogamous relationship and yet seemed to have no clue when they might have sex. I'd come back to the room and certainly wouldn't enter because they were getting busy. Or he would stay overnight. I could find somewhere to go but she made this much more difficult than it needed to be. I think she though it made her seen virtuous or something that she didn't expect it to happen! Grow up. Do some planning. And clue me in.

[Anonymous]

I ended up taking summer classes one year and lived in an on campus apartment with 3 girls I sort of knew but not very well. Our campus had an active Greek life with theme parties and I liked to attend and generally didn’t know anyone that well that summer so was trying to make friends. The girls I lived with neither drank nor attended parties. We each had separate bedrooms and a shared bathroom. They watched me leave one evening in a cowgirl type get up for a country party and the next day sat me down to lecture me on going to parties and the evils of boys. Note, I did not bring anyone home and I was not a drunk nor did I go out on weeknights. This was a Friday night and I was 20 years old.

[Anonymous]

She had an eating disorder and I would wake up to her throwing up.

The breaking point was when she accused my boyfriend of stealing something because a friend who she lent money to claimed he had put it under the door. She even called the police who told me flat out they talked to him and didn't believe he had ever put it under the door. A few weeks later, my jewelry was stolen (obviously revenge)...

[Anonymous]

My male roommate seduced my drunk boyfriend. We had come back to our apt wasted. I went to bed and roommate and boyfriend stayed up. I woke up and found them the next morning.

[Anonymous]

Grad school. 27 year old manchild, who had been raised by his mother and grandmother - both of whom babied him and never made him do a thing.

Took hour long showers 2x a day, never cleaned up after himself in common areas, used kitchen things that didn't belong to him and left them to pile up in the sink. Then would complain when we put his dishes in a bucket for him to do later (so we could use the sink). Would leave his laundry in the machines and would complain when others moved it because god forbid they needed to do their own laundry.

When we all moved out, he left a mess for others to clean and skirted his responsibilities (return modem/router).

Needed repeated reminders to pay his portion of the rent on time. Constantly.

He was like a 4 year old, who had zero concern or consideration for others. Total manchild.