What age to get up for school on their own?

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Anonymous wrote:My Kindergartener gets herself up, gets dressed and eats breakfast on her own. She still needs us to walk her though because it's required by the school. She uses a Hatch alarm that I set and I have multiple alarms go off with Alexa too (wake up/get dressed, brush teeth, eat, put on shoes and go to the door). We're up and getting ready too but there hasn't been one time that she's not waiting by the door for us.

You truly have a unicorn child!! Our 9 yo wakes himself up but would still be dawdling or playing video game if we let them be. We are not morning people and it's a mad scramble to get out the door to catch the bus.

No she doesn’t. My kids have been doing that too for years.

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My 4th grader gets up, brushed his teeth and makes his breakfast on his own. I THINK he could get out of the house without me telling him, but we haven't had to try it.

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Anonymous wrote:Never. When I was growing up HS started early (7:15) and no one in my family got up with me, spoke to me, or helped me in any way. Many mornings in winter it was pitch black. It was so sad and depressing and I would never do that to my kids.

I had this same experience growing up. Leaving the house while it was still dark outside. Everyone else was still asleep. The house was cold. It was depressing, and I’ve always told myself I will never do that to my kids. I wake up when they need to wake up for school.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are in 7th, 4th, and 1st. I wake up with all of them - but I don’t do too much at all in terms of the 7th and 4th grader in the morning. They eat breakfast and get dressed on their own.

Pretty much the same. I wake up my 4th grader. My 5th grader does that by herself. Then they are on their own. Once they are vertical, my job is done. I’m f they miss the bus (they never have), I told them they’d have to walk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never. When I was growing up HS started early (7:15) and no one in my family got up with me, spoke to me, or helped me in any way. Many mornings in winter it was pitch black. It was so sad and depressing and I would never do that to my kids.

I had this same experience growing up. Leaving the house while it was still dark outside. Everyone else was still asleep. The house was cold. It was depressing, and I’ve always told myself I will never do that to my kids. I wake up when they need to wake up for school.

I, too, get up when my kid needs to get up. I don't necessarily make breakfast or lunch (although I will sometimes), it's just so there is another person awake and it's less depressing.

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My kid is 14. I wake him up at 6 (he can't do it on his own even with an alarm; he is the definition of a deep sleeper), but then he gets ready and grabs breakfast on his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Kindergartener gets herself up, gets dressed and eats breakfast on her own. She still needs us to walk her though because it's required by the school. She uses a Hatch alarm that I set and I have multiple alarms go off with Alexa too (wake up/get dressed, brush teeth, eat, put on shoes and go to the door). We're up and getting ready too but there hasn't been one time that she's not waiting by the door for us.

Lol, wait until you have a teenager who has to leave the house while it’s still dark out.

I'm in Loco. It's the elementary students who are leaving while it's dark. High school starts at 9:30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Kindergartener gets herself up, gets dressed and eats breakfast on her own. She still needs us to walk her though because it's required by the school. She uses a Hatch alarm that I set and I have multiple alarms go off with Alexa too (wake up/get dressed, brush teeth, eat, put on shoes and go to the door). We're up and getting ready too but there hasn't been one time that she's not waiting by the door for us.

Poor kid. You are so clearly annoyed you have to walk her to school. What other parenting tasks do you despise?

That poor kid probably thinks her parents are so useless she needs to take care of her own crap on her own!

1st pp here with the independent Ker. She's type A like my DH and I. We're awake (I'm generally nursing the baby) and I don't see why she can't dress herself? She's actually proud of her own independence. She's also super excited still that she gets to go to school after 2 years of preschool being closed. She really missed all of preschool.

Also, she's not a unicorn. I know plenty of 5 year olds that dress themselves and are ready and waiting.

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my 7th grader is not good in the morning (even though she goes to sleep at 9:30) so I ensure she gets out the door by 7am. Otherwise she would just sleep.

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As soon as they want and by late elementary latest. By middle school I expect you to do it yourself.

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I'm still having to wake my high school freshman up. I also help make sure he has everything gathered up and ready to go to school. His ADHD meds really don't kick in for about half an hour after he takes them, so I have to prod a lot. My goal for 10th grade is to require a lot more morning independence including setting his alarm and getting up and ready without me hassling him the entire time.

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My 7th grader is up, has herself fed, and out the door to catch the bus before I'm even out of bed!

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Anonymous wrote:This year - 8th grade (age 13/14). Makes her lunch the night before, sets an alarm for 6:05, makes breakfast, chills out by herself, and is out the door at 6:55 to catch the bus to school.

DH and I stay up late (work/hanging out together) and sleep in a bit more - we tend to get up after she leaves, at 7:15 to wake our younger DC (whose school starts later).

We've asked our older DC if she minds and she said absolutely not. She seems to really likes the quiet time by herself - no chit chat or other stuff before she's ready to start her day.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. When I was growing up HS started early (7:15) and no one in my family got up with me, spoke to me, or helped me in any way. Many mornings in winter it was pitch black. It was so sad and depressing and I would never do that to my kids.

+1

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I get up at the same time as my freshman. He’s not super talkative in the morning but we all sit together, listen to WTOP, have a quick breakfast/coffee etc. He’s gone all day and I enjoy those few minutes in the morning before he leaves for the bus.