Do you prefer to attend a daytime (lunch) wedding or an evening (dinner) wedding?

[Anonymous]

Yeah I'm going with the consensus, I dislike lunch weddings. DH and I like to get a babysitter, go out and dance. I'm just not getting on the dance floor at 1pm. Maybe if the whole thing was more cocktail style at a lunch wedding it would make sense.

I wouldn't mind a dinner wedding on a Sunday. DH and I still go out on Sunday night sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll be the outlier and also blunt. I have been to a dozen lunchtime weddings over the years and not one of them have been fun. Most have been in a different state. It feels wrong to be drinking wine at 11am and worse to find yourself back in your hotel room after the festivities are over at 2pm.

We had a brunch wedding and people still tell me how much they loved it, a decade later. Given the current renaissance of brunching, seems like people are more than happy to drink bloodies and mimosas at 11.

Sure Jan. No one is talking about a decade old brunch wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer not to go to a wedding on a Sunday but if I had to pick I’d choose lunch.

Why a Sunday? Sunday is typically for religious services. Saturdays are for weddings and celebrating with parties with family and friends.

Not OP but we had our wedding on a Sunday evening because we are Jewish.

Say you don’t know any Jewish people without saying….

[Anonymous]

So many people think wedding are “their night out”

I prefer day wedding but it’s really not about me, I’ll go and enjoy whatever you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anybody who tells you they had a daytime wedding and the guests enjoyed themselves have a bunch of family members and friends who are afraid to tell them the truth.

People do not let loose at daytime weddings. Nobody wants to drink a signature cocktail at 11 AM and then be forced onto a sunlit dance floor or into a photo booth at noon.

I feel like guests commit to a nighttime wedding. They enjoy the cocktail hour and a leisurely dinner, they are on the dance floor enjoying the music, they are getting drinks and planning the after party. They are committed to enjoying the wedding and festivities for the night because that is what is on their agenda. Now, a daytime wedding? No matter how nice a brunch is, I can guarantee your guests will not be totally focused on the bride and groom and the event. They will be thinking about how much time they will have when they leave your wedding to get to ikea or take the kids to the pool or what to make for dinner. Your wedding is not their main focus.

Honestly is this so bad? Not “letting loose” (making a fool of yourself) and having time for an IKEA run after? Maybe not every wedding needs to be a 6 hour drunk fest. Although people seem to drink plenty at brunch.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I've actually ever been to a brunch wedding, in all my years of going to weddings! I'm not a huge fan of brunch in general, so I'd probably prefer the evening event.

[Anonymous]

I love lunch weddings! No long wait between ceremony and dinner/reception. It’s more about talking and catching up with people rather than loud music. And afterward, you can take a nap and go out to whatever restaurant or bar with friends that are in town if you’d like! I’m also an early sleeper, so love mornings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love lunch weddings! No long wait between ceremony and dinner/reception. It’s more about talking and catching up with people rather than loud music. And afterward, you can take a nap and go out to whatever restaurant or bar with friends that are in town if you’d like! I’m also an early sleeper, so love mornings.

Me too esp on Sunday. Weddings are allowed to be low-key. I love to dance too but if the band is extremely loud and there's nowhere to talk to friends who have traveled and you haven't seen for a while then it's not that fun.

A brunch with mimosas, and omelet station, fancy tea service and a string quartet would be absolutely charming. Or a river cruise brunch could be fun!

Don't listen to the basic people on here who think all weddings have to be the same.

[Anonymous]

One of the many problems with a daytime wedding is that you typically have to get out of the event room at a certain time so they can turn the room for the couple who smartly decided to do an evening wedding. Being pushed out of a space is never fun, as the host or a guest.

[Anonymous]

Lunch because I want to be in bed at a reasonable hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah I'm going with the consensus, I dislike lunch weddings. DH and I like to get a babysitter, go out and dance. I'm just not getting on the dance floor at 1pm. Maybe if the whole thing was more cocktail style at a lunch wedding it would make sense.

I wouldn't mind a dinner wedding on a Sunday. DH and I still go out on Sunday night sometimes.

I think we can all agree - no one wants to dance or get drunk in the middle of the day. Don't take an evening wedding and move it to lunchtime. It has to be a different thing - brunch, lawn games, pretty setting, etc.

Also, I have to say, don't wear evening gowns or tuxes for your daytime wedding, either!

[Anonymous]

On a Sunday, lunch. Time to get home, maybe before dark, unwind, get ready for Monday.
Otherwise dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah I'm going with the consensus, I dislike lunch weddings. DH and I like to get a babysitter, go out and dance. I'm just not getting on the dance floor at 1pm. Maybe if the whole thing was more cocktail style at a lunch wedding it would make sense.

I wouldn't mind a dinner wedding on a Sunday. DH and I still go out on Sunday night sometimes.

I think we can all agree - no one wants to dance or get drunk in the middle of the day. Don't take an evening wedding and move it to lunchtime. It has to be a different thing - brunch, lawn games, pretty setting, etc.

Also, I have to say, don't wear evening gowns or tuxes for your daytime wedding, either!

I agree with us. If you are dead set on doing a daytime wedding, it needs to be for a short period of time, don’t make it formal, and maybe skip the big Dancefloor and open bar because people really are likely not to be in the mood to get a little crazy on a Sunday at noon. I guess you can save money that way though!? Basically I would run it very similarly to how you would a baby shower or bridal shower. The timeline, vibe, are probably more aligned to one of those showers anyway than a “wedding wedding.”

[Anonymous]

I was married at noon, had a buffet lunch reception. All my little cousins were able to come and they had a fantastic time dancing. My relatives and friends were not really the “cutting loose” types anyway, so people did have a few drinks but there was absolutely no cutting loose going on. So I think it depends on your prospective attendees.

[Anonymous]

I hate weddings so I *like* a champagne brunch that will be over soon!