How rich do you have to be to afford a live in housekeeper?

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Anonymous wrote:Brady Bunch rich.

I appreciate you and that comment.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH grandparents are 91 and 93 and live in their home of 60 years. They pay a live-in nurse to take care of them, clean, shop, and cook - through an agency. This service is $950 a day. They do not need much medical care, and they are both mobile. I see it as a very expensive live-in housekeeper. We have no idea how much they are worth, they never talked about money, and grandpa has severe dementia so cannot really talk about assets.

That's insanely expensive. Where do they live? I know a couple who gets care in their home (both disabled) and they have two CNAs trading off - costs about $150K a year - and that's in Georgia, which is a lot cheaper than DC.

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To the people who say they wouldn’t want someone in their home: the difference between a cleaning service or weekly cleaning person and a housekeeper is that the housekeeper is really supposed to work around whatever is happening in the house that day. Our housekeeper very politely leaves the room if I’m in it, and works on something else. It’s actually less intrusive, in my experience, than weekly cleaners - who typically had to get a certain number of things done in a limited number of hours.

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Anonymous wrote:We had one for a few years when I had 4 kids under 5. A pair of twins at the end. We paid her 56k with living quarters but she ended up meeting someone and moving in with them maybe 4 months in. Which was totally fine because she still was close and came daily. She worked 5.5 hours 7 days a week or 8 hours a day 5 days a week. We kinda switched off depending on needs. Occasionally during my spouses work trips she might work 4 ten hours days or something. She didn’t do childcare but she was always cool with me taking my eldest out when the littles were napping and just would text me when she heard stiring on the monitor. I never was more then a few minutes away. But if I HAD to be somewhere like volunteering at the school or a doctors apointment I wouldn’t try and use naps and her at the house to do this etc. We had a year contract and extended it 6 months. We now use her 16 hours a week and another family uses her 24.

This sounds amazing!!!

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Anonymous wrote:My DH grandparents are 91 and 93 and live in their home of 60 years. They pay a live-in nurse to take care of them, clean, shop, and cook - through an agency. This service is $950 a day. They do not need much medical care, and they are both mobile. I see it as a very expensive live-in housekeeper. We have no idea how much they are worth, they never talked about money, and grandpa has severe dementia so cannot really talk about assets.

That's insanely expensive. Where do they live? I know a couple who gets care in their home (both disabled) and they have two CNAs trading off - costs about $150K a year - and that's in Georgia, which is a lot cheaper than DC.

Agree. It is Seattle. I think the agency is charging them for two people, even though it is one person caring for them. I also think the agency knew they wanted to stay in the house and saw the opportunity when an emergency took them from no care needed to both requiring care. Grandmother has bowel cancer and when released from emergency surgery knew she wanted to do everything to keep grandpa in the home he has lived in for 60 years.

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This was 25 years ago, but an elderly lady lived in our basement and helped with our child. She also helped cook and eat with us. We paid her $1k/month back then. She gets free housing and meals. Our HHI at the time were about $170k

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Anonymous wrote:To the people who say they wouldn’t want someone in their home: the difference between a cleaning service or weekly cleaning person and a housekeeper is that the housekeeper is really supposed to work around whatever is happening in the house that day. Our housekeeper very politely leaves the room if I’m in it, and works on something else. It’s actually less intrusive, in my experience, than weekly cleaners - who typically had to get a certain number of things done in a limited number of hours.

I grew up in NYC with a housekeeper, as did DH, and as adults we both prefer to have cleaning people come twice a week. They DO work around us.

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We have a $2m+ HHI but I’m a sahm. I don’t want someone in the house all the time.

We have friends with similar, some higher, some lower with a ton of household help. Many of these households have dual incomes so they outsource as much as possible. Depending on the live in, the cost isn’t so high since housing can be deducted from pay. I know my friends who had live in Nannies and housekeepers often paid them less than a full time nanny.

I had a neighbor with twins who had a staff of 6. She always had at least 2 Nannie’s at a time. Dad was always traveling internationally and mom was an investment banker. They had separate people to do different duties. I don’t know how much they earned. I’m sure a lot.

People with demanding jobs need more than full time help so live in covers them. Having a full time nanny and housekeeper isn’t uncommon or having 2 Nannie’s. I wouldn’t find a live in housekeeper any more impressive than just having a full time housekeeper.

I am astounded that someone with a household income of 2m+ doesn't know when to use an apostrophe and when not to. guess your husband is the smart one.

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We are the only people on our block that don’t have live in staff. I believe 2 of the homes have at least 2 and perhaps 3 staff residing at their home. Dog walking time means something different for me than for these other folks.

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Anonymous wrote:
We have a $2m+ HHI but I’m a sahm. I don’t want someone in the house all the time.

We have friends with similar, some higher, some lower with a ton of household help. Many of these households have dual incomes so they outsource as much as possible. Depending on the live in, the cost isn’t so high since housing can be deducted from pay. I know my friends who had live in Nannies and housekeepers often paid them less than a full time nanny.

I had a neighbor with twins who had a staff of 6. She always had at least 2 Nannie’s at a time. Dad was always traveling internationally and mom was an investment banker. They had separate people to do different duties. I don’t know how much they earned. I’m sure a lot.

People with demanding jobs need more than full time help so live in covers them. Having a full time nanny and housekeeper isn’t uncommon or having 2 Nannie’s. I wouldn’t find a live in housekeeper any more impressive than just having a full time housekeeper.

I am astounded that someone with a household income of 2m+ doesn't know when to use an apostrophe and when not to. guess your husband is the smart one.

She did say her husband earns $2M and she earns $0. Though with assortative mating, one would assume she was also a professional before kids and would know basic spelling and grammar.

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Anonymous wrote:
We have a $2m+ HHI but I’m a sahm. I don’t want someone in the house all the time.

We have friends with similar, some higher, some lower with a ton of household help. Many of these households have dual incomes so they outsource as much as possible. Depending on the live in, the cost isn’t so high since housing can be deducted from pay. I know my friends who had live in Nannies and housekeepers often paid them less than a full time nanny.

I had a neighbor with twins who had a staff of 6. She always had at least 2 Nannie’s at a time. Dad was always traveling internationally and mom was an investment banker. They had separate people to do different duties. I don’t know how much they earned. I’m sure a lot.

People with demanding jobs need more than full time help so live in covers them. Having a full time nanny and housekeeper isn’t uncommon or having 2 Nannie’s. I wouldn’t find a live in housekeeper any more impressive than just having a full time housekeeper.

I am astounded that someone with a household income of 2m+ doesn't know when to use an apostrophe and when not to. guess your husband is the smart one.

PP, open your eyes a bit..... In some European countries the apostrophe is actually used differently. For example, the NL. I'm sure when I made my American-isms there some unworldy Dutch person prpbably thought the same about me. DC is very cosmopolitan, just sayin... maybe be a bit more open?

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We have live-in help but are considering moving to a part time non-live-in situation, primarily for a bit more privacy.

We have HHI of around $1m, both parents demanding careers with (pre-covid) tons of travel. Three kids, one small.

Our nanny cooks, cleans, drives kids around, and generally works M-F 12-7:30 p.m. She used to do shopping but now we instacart.

She's been with us a dozen years and says she is looking forward to retiring whenever we don't need her any more (we've been putting away money in a SEP-IRA for her, in addition to her salary).

We recently posted for a college student babysitter from 3-6 p.m. M-F at $30 per hour and got no inquiries. So it's not clear how easy it would be to transition.

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Anonymous wrote:We have live-in help but are considering moving to a part time non-live-in situation, primarily for a bit more privacy.

We have HHI of around $1m, both parents demanding careers with (pre-covid) tons of travel. Three kids, one small.

Our nanny cooks, cleans, drives kids around, and generally works M-F 12-7:30 p.m. She used to do shopping but now we instacart.

She's been with us a dozen years and says she is looking forward to retiring whenever we don't need her any more (we've been putting away money in a SEP-IRA for her, in addition to her salary).

We recently posted for a college student babysitter from 3-6 p.m. M-F at $30 per hour and got no inquiries. So it's not clear how easy it would be to transition.

We live near AU and had lots of success with getting help from students there. If you are nearby, post something there. A bet you get some takers.

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Anonymous wrote:
We have a $2m+ HHI but I’m a sahm. I don’t want someone in the house all the time.

We have friends with similar, some higher, some lower with a ton of household help. Many of these households have dual incomes so they outsource as much as possible. Depending on the live in, the cost isn’t so high since housing can be deducted from pay. I know my friends who had live in Nannies and housekeepers often paid them less than a full time nanny.

I had a neighbor with twins who had a staff of 6. She always had at least 2 Nannie’s at a time. Dad was always traveling internationally and mom was an investment banker. They had separate people to do different duties. I don’t know how much they earned. I’m sure a lot.

People with demanding jobs need more than full time help so live in covers them. Having a full time nanny and housekeeper isn’t uncommon or having 2 Nannie’s. I wouldn’t find a live in housekeeper any more impressive than just having a full time housekeeper.

Imagine thinking knowing grammar rules makes your rich.

I am astounded that someone with a household income of 2m+ doesn't know when to use an apostrophe and when not to. guess your husband is the smart one.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an acquaintance who has a live in housekeeper, he bragged about paying her a 100k a year salary. This guy works in tech and lives in a 2.5m home in DC. She cooks all the meals and cleans daily. What sort of income/NW do folks have who can afford this?

No idea, but I've had live in staff. It is annoying AF to have someone always in your home. No amount of money would I have this arrangement ever again.

We now have someone comes 5 days a week 5hrs a day.