12 year old has grown just under 3 inches and put on no weight in 2.5 years

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for your thoughts. I'm getting this checked out asap. Its been worrying me for a year, but ped/Dh kind of told me not to worry. Now DH is worried. We are white...

DS just looks so young compared to his peers, like his face hasn't really changed either. He looks like he's 10.

Its hard to get him to eat more. I am trying but will be more determined about it.

He sleeps about 9.5 to 10 hours a night.

OP I would not get too worried about this but seems worth it to see a pediatric endocrinologist. My 12yo saw one over the summer. Turns out his bone age is more than 2 years behind, which is fine but good to know about. He will be very late to puberty. He looks like he’s about 9/10. I would see if you can encourage your DS to eat more—add butter to stuff, have him microwave sausages for breakfast, do PB on toast, maybe more pizza than you would normally if he likes that. Give him ice cream regularly. Energy bars are good. Cream cheese on crackers. Some kids do need to be reminded to eat more than others. Also if you and/or DH were late to puberty this matters too. There is huge variability at this age, but not gaining weight in 2 years is something I would focus on and just try to up the calories where you can. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:OK, its not normal for a 12 yo boy to just be "a little stinky" after exercise. 12 yo boys STINK after hard exdercise, even the ones who wear deoderant (is he wearing deoderant?)

That is not a kid-in-puberty appetite. He could be hitting puberty really late...but not gaining weight at all in a few years is not normal for any age child.

My just-turned-13 yo boy eats easily 3 times that much food in a day.

I would get him checked out by a pediatric endocrinologist.

Hold up. Some populations - East Asians, particularly Koreans, don’t have the BO gene. We smell sweaty after working out but we don’t have body odor. Maybe OP’s son is East Asian?

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/people-without-underarm-protection/

+1. My 12 year old will get stinky (mostly old sweat but not BO) after a couple of days of hard exercise and no shower. One hard exercise session doesn't do it. I have some Asian genes and stink very little and my totally white husband also stinks very little. It's just genetics.

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So, all your kid's weight is from his bones.

I think proper nutrients and water, being outside, will help a person grow especially if they are children. I really think being outside as a child helps you grow in height. When you are outside, you are reaching for something, jumping, walking, running. The sun and fresh air helps your cells grow. I'm not saying they NEED to do sports but all the extensions help them grow in length.
And eating properly and eating a good amount will help them grow as well.
If your child is snacking alot or hungry in between meals, he/she did not eat enough. They don't have to avoid all the sugar and fat, they just have to monitor that sugar and fat is not in excess.

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Has anyone mentioned having the doctor run a celiac panel? My DC's growth slowed (height and weight) as a first sign of celiac disease. They had none of the usual stomach issues.

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Anonymous wrote:So, all your kid's weight is from his bones.

I think proper nutrients and water, being outside, will help a person grow especially if they are children. I really think being outside as a child helps you grow in height. When you are outside, you are reaching for something, jumping, walking, running. The sun and fresh air helps your cells grow. I'm not saying they NEED to do sports but all the extensions help them grow in length.
And eating properly and eating a good amount will help them grow as well.
If your child is snacking alot or hungry in between meals, he/she did not eat enough. They don't have to avoid all the sugar and fat, they just have to monitor that sugar and fat is not in excess.

I'm sure you meant well, but this is just not particularly helpful in this context.

OP, I am in a similar situation with a kid who stopped growing because of eating less due to ADHD meds. In addition to your conversation with your pediatrician, you could consider working with a nutritionist as well. We briefly worked with Elizabeth Davenport, who works with Sandra Pinney, who our pediatrician recommended. (https://www.pinneydavenportnutrition.com/). Elizabeth had a lot of ideas and suggestions. It wasn't ultimately all that successful for us, but we got a lot of ideas. I'll also note that I had a question about anxiety when I read your original post. Some kids restrict the foods they're willing to eat in part due to anxiety and a desire for some control. I think that can lead to disordered eating for some kids, but not all anxious kids with eating issues end up disordered eaters. Just another thing to consider.

Best of luck to you. I know this is really hard. By even being concerned, you're showing that you're an engaged and caring parent who is doing their best for their kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here.
At this trajectory he would be 5 feet at age 16. We are not tall (5’3@ and 5’9” but he was predicted to be about 5’9” when he was little (he was like 90th percent height and weight as a toddler).

He is very thin. He eats but not like his friends eat. I’m trying things like chocolate milk etc.

Growth at that age does not follow a trajectory. There are huge spurts. Mine grew 5 to 6 inches two years in a row (13 and 14). Then 2.5 more and stopped.

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Many of the 12 yo boys I see are scrawny and skinnier/weigh less than the girls. I think when they hit 13, they start changing.

Some boys are just late bloomers. Also check for celiacs. Does he ever have stomach aches? Please also remember that you and your DH are quite petite and he will likely be as well! And that’s ok! Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:We changed pediatricians (because we moved) but I'm reviewing records and my son has consistently dropped further and further down the height and esp weight chart.

at almost 10 he was 53" and 67 lbs (about 50% in height and weight)

at 12 he is 56" and 68 lbs (25% height and 5% weight).

would you see a pediatrician? someone else?

Those are pretty concerning stats. My not even 2 year old son is 38 pounds and 38" tall. My 7 year old is 49" and 52 pounds and a girl. I would definitely see someone asap. We are Asian FWIW.

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Anonymous wrote:We changed pediatricians (because we moved) but I'm reviewing records and my son has consistently dropped further and further down the height and esp weight chart.

at almost 10 he was 53" and 67 lbs (about 50% in height and weight)

at 12 he is 56" and 68 lbs (25% height and 5% weight).

would you see a pediatrician? someone else?

Those are pretty concerning stats. My not even 2 year old son is 38 pounds and 38" tall. My 7 year old is 49" and 52 pounds and a girl. I would definitely see someone asap. We are Asian FWIW.

yeah, my 10 year old is 64 inches and 125 lbs. This is very athletic/muscular though.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We changed pediatricians (because we moved) but I'm reviewing records and my son has consistently dropped further and further down the height and esp weight chart.

at almost 10 he was 53" and 67 lbs (about 50% in height and weight)

at 12 he is 56" and 68 lbs (25% height and 5% weight).

would you see a pediatrician? someone else?

Those are pretty concerning stats. My not even 2 year old son is 38 pounds and 38" tall. My 7 year old is 49" and 52 pounds and a girl. I would definitely see someone asap. We are Asian FWIW.

yeah, my 10 year old is 64 inches and 125 lbs. This is very athletic/muscular though.

My SIL used to say this but her kid was fat. 10-year olds don't have the testosterone to have big muscles.

That's a ton of weight for a 10-year old.

The average weight of a 10-year old is 70 pounds. Yours is 45 pounds over the average which is crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:We changed pediatricians (because we moved) but I'm reviewing records and my son has consistently dropped further and further down the height and esp weight chart.

at almost 10 he was 53" and 67 lbs (about 50% in height and weight)

at 12 he is 56" and 68 lbs (25% height and 5% weight).

would you see a pediatrician? someone else?

Those are pretty concerning stats. My not even 2 year old son is 38 pounds and 38" tall. My 7 year old is 49" and 52 pounds and a girl. I would definitely see someone asap. We are Asian FWIW.

yeah, my 10 year old is 64 inches and 125 lbs. This is very athletic/muscular though.

My SIL used to say this but her kid was fat. 10-year olds don't have the testosterone to have big muscles.

That's a ton of weight for a 10-year old.

The average weight of a 10-year old is 70 pounds. Yours is 45 pounds over the average which is crazy.

35 pounds over. But that is a lot for a kid.

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Anonymous wrote:We changed pediatricians (because we moved) but I'm reviewing records and my son has consistently dropped further and further down the height and esp weight chart.

at almost 10 he was 53" and 67 lbs (about 50% in height and weight)

at 12 he is 56" and 68 lbs (25% height and 5% weight).

would you see a pediatrician? someone else?

Those are pretty concerning stats. My not even 2 year old son is 38 pounds and 38" tall. My 7 year old is 49" and 52 pounds and a girl. I would definitely see someone asap. We are Asian FWIW.

yeah, my 10 year old is 64 inches and 125 lbs. This is very athletic/muscular though.

My SIL used to say this but her kid was fat. 10-year olds don't have the testosterone to have big muscles.

That's a ton of weight for a 10-year old.

The average weight of a 10-year old is 70 pounds. Yours is 45 pounds over the average which is crazy.

35 pounds over. But that is a lot for a kid.

NP here. But her 10 year old is also way taller than the average 10 year old. Not saying he can’t be or isn’t overweight, but he’s also very, very tall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, all your kid's weight is from his bones.

I think proper nutrients and water, being outside, will help a person grow especially if they are children. I really think being outside as a child helps you grow in height. When you are outside, you are reaching for something, jumping, walking, running. The sun and fresh air helps your cells grow. I'm not saying they NEED to do sports but all the extensions help them grow in length.
And eating properly and eating a good amount will help them grow as well.
If your child is snacking alot or hungry in between meals, he/she did not eat enough. They don't have to avoid all the sugar and fat, they just have to monitor that sugar and fat is not in excess.

Do…do you think OP’s son is a plant?

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Anonymous wrote:We changed pediatricians (because we moved) but I'm reviewing records and my son has consistently dropped further and further down the height and esp weight chart.

at almost 10 he was 53" and 67 lbs (about 50% in height and weight)

at 12 he is 56" and 68 lbs (25% height and 5% weight).

would you see a pediatrician? someone else?

Those are pretty concerning stats. My not even 2 year old son is 38 pounds and 38" tall. My 7 year old is 49" and 52 pounds and a girl. I would definitely see someone asap. We are Asian FWIW.

yeah, my 10 year old is 64 inches and 125 lbs. This is very athletic/muscular though.

My SIL used to say this but her kid was fat. 10-year olds don't have the testosterone to have big muscles.

That's a ton of weight for a 10-year old.

The average weight of a 10-year old is 70 pounds. Yours is 45 pounds over the average which is crazy.

35 pounds over. But that is a lot for a kid.

NP here. But her 10 year old is also way taller than the average 10 year old. Not saying he can’t be or isn’t overweight, but he’s also very, very tall.

5’4” and 125 pounds isn’t overweight, even for a 10 year old.

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I have a 5’4 10 yo (will be 12 in May). He is 110 and sturdy, not thin. 125 is a lot since it’s not muscle at this age really.