At what age did you allow an occasional properly-placed swear word in your home?

[Anonymous]

For the above poster that said cursing is "ghetto" i'm a (several) bar licensed attorney working for an extremely prestigious fintech and swear as though my life depends on it. My parents never banned cursing and I quickly learned context/audience. I never ever cursed AT my parents, teachers, etc. My oldest is 5 and now parrots back some colorful language I sometimes use, and he uses it perfectly and in an appropriate setting- I don't react.

They're words. I read a long time ago that in parenting you get to pick 3-4 things you care deeply about for your kids, for me it's education, health, intellectual curiosity and deep happiness. Cursing is like 1000000000th on the list of things I give a s---- about

[Anonymous]

Apparently at about 18 months. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This.

Swearing is just so ghetto.

Using the word "ghetto" is a racist segregation tactic. To me, that has more negative impact than saying f***.

Not to mention the fact that there was a ton of swearing in prep schools and lily white fraternities back when "ghetto" was a more accepted term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just heard the 10 year old ask the 13 year old what a geometry proof was like. The 13 year old answered "like a donkey being shoved up your ass"

That seemed properly placed.

HAHAHAHAHAHA

[Anonymous]

In our house, they started using swear words in 5th-6th grade and I would correct them (more than my husband did, he didn't care). Obviously with their peers they were using them as if they were getting ready to run out of time to use them. Starting in middle school and into high school I gradually wound down the corrections. I now remind the one that graduated and the one that is almost graduating that amongst friends and family to make an emphasis, fine. But it's not a good look if over-used and certainly they need to be careful where they are using swear words in public. Particularly at work.

[Anonymous]

Never. DH and I don't swear, even to each other. DH tells our kids that people who swear can't think of any better words to use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This.

Swearing is just so ghetto.

Using the word "ghetto" is a racist segregation tactic. To me, that has more negative impact than saying f***.

Oh God. It’s ghetto. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This is our home too. It happens, I will call them out on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just heard the 10 year old ask the 13 year old what a geometry proof was like. The 13 year old answered "like a donkey being shoved up your ass"

That seemed properly placed.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

I've never worried about this. My kids can use the words that they want in order to express themselves. Though, as I noted in another thread, that doesn't mean that they can tell me to "go F yourself" or anything like that.