Feeling Hopeless
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Anonymous
| You could have it worse. You don't have cancer. You're not 85. You're probably not in a wheelchair. It's another setback. I don't think hopeless is the right word. You're disappointed you had to cancel your February event. You're worried about your kid and what the school situation is. No one knows how this will turn out. You need to accept that sometimes there is uncertainty. Everything always works out in the end. You might also have seasonal depression. Don't overgeneralize that you're having a nervous breakdown. Take things day by day. You're sad and disappointed and worried. It's okay. Tomorrow is another day. Soon it will be spring. Things will change for the better. |
Anonymous
| Make dates to catch up with old out of town friends or family by phone. It helps with the feelings of isolation. |
Anonymous
Not to derail the thread, but being “in a wheelchair” is not hopeless, either. My daughter has cerebral palsy and is a wheelchair user, and it’s a wonderful tool that helps her live life fully. And she is full of hope and joy. |
Anonymous
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I’ve been meeting with my therapist monthly for check ins since last year. This has helped immensely.
I finally started going to dinner and coffee with friends a couple times per month last spring. That social interaction made a world of difference. Felt good to get dressed up, put on makeup and perfume, and have something fun to look forward to. We took five vacations within the US last year. All but one involved flights. Each was 4-5 days, incorporating long weekends. That was so much fun and great memories with my kid. This is how I regained my sanity last year when I hit my breaking point with hopelessness. I was starting to feel trapped, so I got out and just started living my life again. |
Anonymous
| Move away from DC. It is crazy town. |
Anonymous
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You can’t avoid this pandemic by pretending it’s not there. These are rough times for our nation. We are living through the kind of national crisis that is going to be on the scale of WWII or the Great Depression in our history. This moment is not to be taken lightly. But just because it’s hard does not mean it is without joy or that it will never end. Look at the truly astonishing advances in science that are already protecting us from the kind of tragedies that were ripping through this country back in March 2020. And now with new therapeutics on the scene - my nurse friend says they just got the new pfizer pill for her very ill patients today, with more coming in the next weeks and months - things are changing for the better.
That said, the truth is that until all these meds and vaccines get to everyone on the earth (or enough people), we will still have to live with waves of variants ripping through our communities. That’s probably going to take a few years. So, reset your expectations for when we can live normally again. And then focus on what you have. You are not alone and this country is pulling off some amazing stuff and we’re doing it together, even in the midst of a lot of griping and fighting. But in the big picture, it is happening. Have faith in all of us. We are doing it. It’s going to be ok. |
Anonymous
Isn’t that the exact same attitude that people who deny the reality of diabetes and heart disease have? Isn’t the common thread of these ideas just basic denial? Does a person still get diabetes even if they don’t believe that drinking so much soda will kill you? Does your denial actually protect you? The one thing this pandemic has done is reveal how totally ignorant people can be when they want to. |
Anonymous
Nope. In many other parts of the country, people are aware there's a pandemic, vaxxed, taking some precautions, but still living life with the understanding that getting Covid is inevitable and not an automatic death sentence. |
Anonymous
Not only that, but in this area people still act like if you get Covid it’s your “fault” even if you are exposed at school or work. |
Anonymous
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Being stuck inside, and stuck at home so much, I’ve turned to TikTok and FB for companionship and comfort.
But recently, especially all the shared news there - it just seems to work the opposite, and make me even more hopeless and angry. |
Anonymous
+100 |
Anonymous
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Hang in there OP. I’ve lost two family member/friends to covid and two to suicide in the past two years. It’s all connected. My child is in crisis and I’m heartbroken. It’s all so much, you are not alone. Mist days I’m just fine but every once in a while I lose it.
Try to connect with others. Take pleasure in small things. Be kind to yourself and others. Nurture others where you can and nurture yourself. You’re resilient and you will get the this. Hugs. |
Anonymous
I feel you OP, you are definitely not alone. It's crazy sometimes to think that this is *still* going on. And I'm genuinely sad that you felt like you had to put so many disclaimers in your post to try to fend off the people that like to rush into these threads and remind you about others who have it worse. I really wish these posters could get themselves under control. There's always someone somewhere who has it worse. It doesn't change or invalidate anyone else's situation. |
Anonymous
This is so very true! Living here - the sad part is you become numb to it. Living here is like being Pavlov’s frog: you are slowly being boiled alive, until you finally expire. Get out while you can. |