What do preschools do to address biting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My toddler is going in daycare and has been bitten a couple of times. It seems like a major overreaction to kick a kid out of daycare for this. The daycare should help teach the kid to not bite, not send them to another place where the kid bite new kids. This problem is dealt with like many others: read books about the issue, talk about it a lot (we bite food, not friends), identify and limit triggers, and have an appropriate consequence. That’s what daycares do for…. everything.

Daycares have to handle it because the parents can’t come and get the biter. Preschool sends the child home for the parents to handle it. But regardless, no little kid should beYes repeatedly bit and feel afraid. Even daycares should shadow the biter help me just to stop the biter.

How exactly do you think the parents will “handle” it? There aren’t ways to handle this except for what I’ve mentioned above and a daycare teacher is way more likely to be able to respond appropriately compared to a parentz

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Masks would help!

Lol!

[Anonymous]

Particularly if the biting is ONLY happening at school, the parents have limited ability to do anything. The daycare teachers need to closely supervise and help the kid learn to channel other frustrations.

My kid was bit once or twice in the 2's room, and she bit a classmate once or twice she was in the 3-4 room. It was a bigger class and she went from being the oldest to the youngest, and was behind and frustrated. But, she was wearing a mask, so it didn't result in an actual bite. We only found out because she told us. confirmed with the teacher it had happened because I thought it was weird they didn't let us know, but they said since there was no mark and not even an actual bite (due to mask), they didn't think it was needed. (They said they had it covered with supervision, and there wasn't much we could do at home.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biter needs to be by the teacher side, non stop, for a couple of weeks. He needs to be her shadow. This is to avoid any future biting incidents. If he continues to bite, after two weeks of shadowing the teacher, then he needs to leave the program. But the teachers need to do their part for a couple of weeks first.

+1

The judgy folks on this thread should tone it down. No parent wants their 3 yo to be a biter and this type of behavior is often tied to a language delay. Have a bit of compassion and give the parents some time to see if they can resolve the issue. It sounds like this has been going on for days, not weeks.

+2

I am kind of shocked by these reactions, to be honest. This is so typical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biter needs to be by the teacher side, non stop, for a couple of weeks. He needs to be her shadow. This is to avoid any future biting incidents. If he continues to bite, after two weeks of shadowing the teacher, then he needs to leave the program. But the teachers need to do their part for a couple of weeks first.

+1

The judgy folks on this thread should tone it down. No parent wants their 3 yo to be a biter and this type of behavior is often tied to a language delay. Have a bit of compassion and give the parents some time to see if they can resolve the issue. It sounds like this has been going on for days, not weeks.

+2

I am kind of shocked by these reactions, to be honest. This is so typical.

+1. It's developmentally appropriate. I had a biter and she is normally very, very sweet and well-behaved. It is just the age for a lot of kids

[Anonymous]

The schools do nothing but gaslight you and tell you it is normal behavior and the mothers of biters tell you that you're a horrible person if you expect your kid not to come home with bruising and broken skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are all over-reacting. Biting is developmentally appropriate at this age. At our preschool they tell the biter, "we don't bite friends, we only bite food" and distract the child.

I remember being upset because DC #1 was frequently being bit, and then DC #2 turned out to be a biter! Nothing we could do but remind DC #2 about only biting food and wait for it to pass.

You’re nuts. First, if biting were “developmentally appropriate” the majority of kids will be doing it. It happens but is certainly not “developmentally appropriate”. Second, your school or daycare should have been in constant contact with the biter to protect other children. You were really mislead, PP. Your preschool sucked.

No the act of aggression/assertion is developmentally appropriate. Some kids hit, some kids bite, some kids push, some kids yell, some kids are cruel with their words, some kids stomp and scream, some kids kick, some kids withdraw and run away. Its called flight or fight. Having to share a toy or not being able to be first or not being able to play with the toy you want when you want it is literally end of world to a toddler/preschooler. They are not capable of seeing other viewpoints. There are not capable of understanding that other people think and have thoughts like they do.

It is on the teachers to provide the buffer and redirect. This is why understanding that it happens to ALL kids (in different ways and in different ages) is important in teaching them to when they feel X to do Y.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our daycare rule was kid is sent home for first bite and kicked out for second. Three bites in a week is unacceptable.

This is RIDICULOUS. Kids bite!

How old are these kids? 1 or 2 years old?

The teacher needs to be next to the biter pretty much all the time. This is a child who should not be left alone, out of reach, close to other kids. The only way the biter learns NOT to do this is to be interrupted and taught NO BITE each time they try.

Any decent daycare/preschool should have a system for this, because it is 100% normal behavior. You need to ask that your kid be kept away from the biter. If they act like they can't do that, I'd look for a new place to send your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our daycare rule was kid is sent home for first bite and kicked out for second. Three bites in a week is unacceptable.

This is RIDICULOUS. Kids bite!

How old are these kids? 1 or 2 years old?

The teacher needs to be next to the biter pretty much all the time. This is a child who should not be left alone, out of reach, close to other kids. The only way the biter learns NOT to do this is to be interrupted and taught NO BITE each time they try.

Any decent daycare/preschool should have a system for this, because it is 100% normal behavior. You need to ask that your kid be kept away from the biter. If they act like they can't do that, I'd look for a new place to send your child.

OP Top private schools don’t take biters or kick them out asap.

[Anonymous]

My son but his cousin once when he was 2/2.5 and when I was worried about signing him up for preschool, people on this site told me he was not ready for school and to keep him home. I sent him to preschool and he never bit, kicked, hit another kid (does hit his sisters sometimes still).
This was 2 years ago. He never bit nor has he ever bit another child at school. Biting is not normal… it may happen once, but my son’s preschool would have never accepted it I am sure. I feel bad for your DD and for the biter kid as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Masks would help!

Lol!

You do know this thread is from last year.

Why did you bring it back to life just to type "lol"?