Evite invitation - "not viewed", what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Evite often ends up in junk.

Reach out with a personal note to these parents using the same email address, let them know about the invitation, resend as necessary/requested.

This isn’t that hard.

Oh man, thanks for this. Just searched my email for Evite and found a party invite from four days ago.

[Anonymous]

My kid went to a new program in ES and everyone else was new too. In the invite for DC's birthday, I mentioned that the whole class was invited including parents and siblings because I wanted to give parents a chance to meet each other in the new school. Guess what? All 25 kids and their parents attended because no parent wanted to be left out. FOMO.

BTW - I typically used to send invites at least 4 weeks in advance and ask for a RSVP early. I normally get 90% attendance. But, all of this was pre-pandemic, so who knows how this will work out now...

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t open the link until I was ready to RSVP.

But evites are spam, so they often end up in spam folders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When is the party? I've been on the party circuit for many years and have heard many people say they deliberately don't open the invitation right away because they know they aren't ready to commit and they know the host can see they've opened it.

Could also have gone to spam; either way, send an email to follow up.

That is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sent a birthday invitation (Evite) two weeks ago and I have 6 parents who have yet to view my invitation. These are email addresses given by DS's kindergarten teachers. I have seen a couple of the same parents who signed up to bring different items to the class, so I know the email addresses are legit.

I don't know understand why the invitation wasn't even viewed. I have another 6 parents who have viewed but not responded. At least that is more common. Should I print out copies of the invitation and send it to school for those who have yet to view invitation? Honestly, I feel very discouraged and am thinking of canceling the whole thing. It's a real pain to organize a party and if DS doesn't mind, I'd rather take him out somewhere. The real issue is DS has been asking for a party.

It really beats me too. I invited the entire K class of 20. 6 never got viewed. Not a Viewed + no reply, simply Not viewed. It ended up as 4 Not viewed by party date. The only thing I can think of is that parents could see the date of the party without actually clicking/opening the Evite??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When is the party? I've been on the party circuit for many years and have heard many people say they deliberately don't open the invitation right away because they know they aren't ready to commit and they know the host can see they've opened it.

Could also have gone to spam; either way, send an email to follow up.

That is ridiculous.

You obviously haven’t seen all the other threads on DCUM saying “they didn’t rsvp but I know that they opened it!!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When is the party? I've been on the party circuit for many years and have heard many people say they deliberately don't open the invitation right away because they know they aren't ready to commit and they know the host can see they've opened it.

Could also have gone to spam; either way, send an email to follow up.

That is ridiculous.

You obviously haven’t seen all the other threads on DCUM saying “they didn’t rsvp but I know that they opened it!!”

And my response to that is “Annnndddd?”

[Anonymous]

I find this damn thing so weird because I have never had an Evite end up in my spam folder with Gmail.

Anyway, I hope you hear back from your parents when you email them directly. Sometimes I don’t open the email right away because I don’t know my calendar and then I forget it. I would appreciate the reminder.

[Anonymous]

That was an unfortunate auto correct. Trying again

I find this SPAM thing so weird because I have never had an Evite end up in my spam folder with Gmail.

Anyway, I hope you hear back from your parents when you email them directly. Sometimes I don’t open the email right away because I don’t know my calendar and then I forget it. I would appreciate the reminder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I don’t view if I don’t want to go. Send a reminder. Force them.

That is inconsiderate. If you don’t want to go just RSVP “NO”. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

OP, what happened with the party? I hope people responded and celebrated your child's birthday!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sent a birthday invitation (Evite) two weeks ago and I have 6 parents who have yet to view my invitation. These are email addresses given by DS's kindergarten teachers. I have seen a couple of the same parents who signed up to bring different items to the class, so I know the email addresses are legit.

I don't know understand why the invitation wasn't even viewed. I have another 6 parents who have viewed but not responded. At least that is more common. Should I print out copies of the invitation and send it to school for those who have yet to view invitation? Honestly, I feel very discouraged and am thinking of canceling the whole thing. It's a real pain to organize a party and if DS doesn't mind, I'd rather take him out somewhere. The real issue is DS has been asking for a party.

What’s happening is they know if they open it, you’ll see they opened it and they’ll have to make a decision right away so instead they are just ignoring it for now. I’d be annoyed if someone then printed out the évite and hand delivered it to me. Has the RSVP date passed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was an unfortunate auto correct. Trying again

I find this SPAM thing so weird because I have never had an Evite end up in my spam folder with Gmail.

Anyway, I hope you hear back from your parents when you email them directly. Sometimes I don’t open the email right away because I don’t know my calendar and then I forget it. I would appreciate the reminder.

Ditto. Gmail does not send Evites to Spam in my experience. I have 3 kids who are now 15, 14, 12 and have probably received 400 Evites over the years and none have gone to spam. The spam excuse is just that: an excuse.
Gmail's algorithm for spam emails does not change on a daily basis.

[Anonymous]

OP, when is the party?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I see an Evite invitation. I mean to open it but get distracted with work. Then it slides down the inbox out of view and I totally forget about it. Not intentionally but can happen frequently when we get 10000 emails daily from work, school, sports, spam, etc. People have a lot going on. Send a reminder if you need. If no response after 2nd email, assume that they are not attending.