What IS this annoying attraction?

[Anonymous]

So I am NOT one of those super sexy/sensual types who are very in tune with their own sexuality and that of others. And I'm married.

I have a colleague at work who's in another dept. and we don't work together. We only run into each other in the elevator or lobby. I know absolutely nothing about him, he isn't physically attractive, and my judgment, albeit unfair, is that I think he's a bit full of himself. But for some reason, when we do run into each other I get this strong sexual attraction and it's kind of uncomfortable, plus it baffles me since I really don't know anything about him and physically he's not my type. What is this attraction? Subconscious crush? And based on what? I should know what's going on but like I said I'm not generally in touch with this stuff.

I've had crushes on people (men and women) many times but it's always based on personal interactions. It doesn't make sense to me to be attracted to someone you don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I am NOT one of those super sexy/sensual types who are very in tune with their own sexuality and that of others. And I'm married.

I have a colleague at work who's in another dept. and we don't work together. We only run into each other in the elevator or lobby. I know absolutely nothing about him, he isn't physically attractive, and my judgment, albeit unfair, is that I think he's a bit full of himself. But for some reason, when we do run into each other I get this strong sexual attraction and it's kind of uncomfortable, plus it baffles me since I really don't know anything about him and physically he's not my type. What is this attraction? Subconscious crush? And based on what? I should know what's going on but like I said I'm not generally in touch with this stuff.

I've had crushes on people (men and women) many times but it's always based on personal interactions. It doesn't make sense to me to be attracted to someone you don't know.

The ones you don't know are the best because your mind fills in the blanks. It's after you get to know them that you see all their crap.

[Anonymous]

Pheromones.

[Anonymous]

I know that feeling. Chemistry is an elusive thing in actual relationships, and the same is true with crushes. I'm a guy, and there have been a couple of not-my-type women at work over the years who just exuded something powerful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pheromones.

This. There will always be people you are instantly sexually attracted to - at first sight without rhyme or reason. Blame it on pheromones which is actually just chemistry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I am NOT one of those super sexy/sensual types who are very in tune with their own sexuality and that of others. And I'm married.

I have a colleague at work who's in another dept. and we don't work together. We only run into each other in the elevator or lobby. I know absolutely nothing about him, he isn't physically attractive, and my judgment, albeit unfair, is that I think he's a bit full of himself. But for some reason, when we do run into each other I get this strong sexual attraction and it's kind of uncomfortable, plus it baffles me since I really don't know anything about him and physically he's not my type. What is this attraction? Subconscious crush? And based on what? I should know what's going on but like I said I'm not generally in touch with this stuff.

I've had crushes on people (men and women) many times but it's always based on personal interactions. It doesn't make sense to me to be attracted to someone you don't know.

He's acting like an alpha. You probably think you don't like arrogant guys. If your husband asked, you would tell him you are not attracted to arrogance. And, yet, maybe you are.

[Anonymous]

oh yay, the alpha poster is back.

[Anonymous]

OP, it happens, no big deal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh yay, the alpha poster is back.

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