DS insists he did and tries to take credit for something a friend did - weird?
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Ok this is likely not a big deal but since he's never done something like it before I'm curious to know what you think.
So, at one DS basketball game, at the end of the third quarter, another boy shot and made a basket after the buzzer went off, and if counted would've put his team on top by one point, and all the boys were screaming and jumping hysterically thinking they've won the game. Of course they didn't as the basket didn't count and there's one more quarter to play. But they're all caught in the moment and celebrated - which is normal for 8/9 year olds playing rec ball. They eventually lost by 10 points I think. Now the weird part - several weeks and games had past, yet the other day when this topic came up sort of out of the blue, DS insisted he was the one who made that shot, while I'm not even sure he was on the court when the play went down. I thought he's just joking or got mixed up, but he was so insistence that he'd been the boy who almost won the game with that shot. Isn't this an odd thing to do for a 3rd grader? Is it that he wanted to be the 'hero' so much he had internalize this fantasy and now couldn't tell it from reality? Any feedback is much appreciated. Tks. |
Anonymous
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Not that odd for a third grader. I think you're right about internalizing the fantasy.
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Anonymous
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I was at that game. Here is the proof on who made the shot.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QKam0zfEDHs |
Anonymous
Alright, thanks. now I wonder what else he fantasized... |
Anonymous
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I've been listening to some NPR podcasts about memory and it's absolutely fascinating - they are much more "changing" than we think. They said something to the affect of: Every time we access a memory, it gets colored by what we're currently doing/feeling, so it changes a bit. Then we "store it away" in it's new changed state, and then it changes AGAIN the next time it's accessed. So it's always changing. I'm sure your son thought about how cool it would have been to make that basket 1,000 times and now, in his memory, he has! Totally normal.
I have a childhood memory of playing with my Mom's dog Taffy on her front lawn - only Taffy had died more than 10 years before I was born! It's a totally clear, true memory in my mind. Fascinating!! |
Anonymous
| Does it have more to do with the age or the person? This is fascinating. |
Anonymous
great stuff! tks! perhaps i should fascinate the same and see how long my own memory gets changed 
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