I think I screwed it all up!

[Anonymous]

I had 3 days of LH surge (and 4 days of CM), using the CBE from Costco that you pee on.

1st day. LH Suge, both line were the same color, sex that night
2nd day. LH Surge the test line was darker than the control, sex that night
3rd day. LH Surge the test line was VERY dark, but I was sooooo tired, we did not have sex (stupid stupid idiot I am)
4th day. No LH Surge, had sex anyways.
5th day (today) temp shift.

I REALLY think I screwed it up. I should have had sex on day 3. I think this was prime time. I'm so mad at myself and feel so down today. I had a m/c back in April and still no new pregnancy. I have a history or m/c, so getting pregnant for me is only half the battle.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you screwed it up at all. The temp shift is usually the day AFTER ovulation and the LH surge is usually the day BEFORE ovulation so it looks like ovulation was the 4th day and you had sex that day so you had sex on the day of ovulation, which is great. If you read the instructions that came with your OPK you will see that the LH surge occurs 24 to 36 hours BEFORE ovulation. LH surge indicates that ovulation is about to occur not that it is occurring. Once ovulation occurs the LH surge is no longer there which is why your OPK showed no LH surge on the 4th day. Also, sperm survives in your body for up to 5 days so the sperm that you got from the 1st and 2nd day probably was still in your body on day 4 plus you got additional sperm on day 4, the day of ovulation so really you are covered, you did great. In the future, you can try a digital ovulation test that will give you a very clear yes or no for the LH surge without you having to determine if the line is dark enough or not. Babydust to you.

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP. I don't think you screwed-up at all, in fact, I think what you did was perfect! Remember, sperm can "live" for up to 5 days so even if you didn't have sex on that third night, your timing looks great. Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP. I don't think you screwed-up at all, in fact, I think what you did was perfect! Remember, sperm can "live" for up to 5 days so even if you didn't have sex on that third night, your timing looks great. Good luck to you!

OP here, I hope you all are right. I just feel so mad at myself. I guess, I've become very pessimistic. I know you say sperm can live up to 5 days, but part of me thinks that its some sick joke people are telling us just to get our hopes up and dash them down again. I know my thinking is not healthy, but sometimes I believe all these things give me a false sense of hope just to be crushed again when AF arrives.

We had an older gentlemen (from the midwest) over for dinner last night. He was mentioning that his DIL is pregnant for the first time at 31. I won't go into detail, but he mentioned that it was a good thing, since she was "no spring chick". My heart sank to the ground. I understand the context. He is older, from a generation where people had babies much younger and he lives in the midwest where people have babies younger. But I'm in my early 30s. I feel like a spring chick, especuially in this area!! I just feel like crap, I never thought of myself like that.

To make matters worse, I have a friend who just found out the devestating new that she has gone through rapid menopause in the last few months. She is now post menopausal and is 36!!!! She just had a baby 15 months ago. She is absolutly crushed. So in this span of time of trying to get pregnant again right away, he body freakishly went into menopause in a matter of months. I feel bad for her and it also is causing me great anxiety, as my mom started menopause in her very early 40s. My friend now has to go on HRT, which in itself can cause a ton of other problems down the line.

[Anonymous]

To OP: if you are that worried, you might want to go see a fertility specialist or talk to your ob/gyn about ways to increase your chances (your ob/gyn can give you fertility drugs). However, I know lots and lots of women who have had babies in their thirties very easily without any problems so don't worry, early menopause at 36 is very very rare; but if you are worried, a fertility specialist can do a test to see what your ovarian reserve is (how many eggs you have left). Anyway, I really don't think you should worry, you have gotten pregnant in the past, even though it was a miscarriage still you were able to get pregnant, which is a very good sign. If you got pregnant once before you for sure can get pregnant again. Try to relax, stress does not help, so just try to do things that will make you relax: like exercise, get a massage, go shopping...Also, it can take many months for a woman to get pregnant and that is completely normal, just b/c it takes a while does not mean that there is anything wrong with you. Take it easy, it will happen.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, consider next time (if you need it ) to pee in a cup/clean container rather than use the pee stream.. I learned this after a while and contacting manufacturer- it's MUCH more accurate and it made a huge difference in precision once I did this. hth