Tucking in shirts

[Anonymous]

Tucking in my shirt is not a good look for me.

I'm high-waisted, so there's a long distance between my crotch and waist. I'd have to wear very low-rise pants to offset the grandma look, but then the pants either squeeze my love handles up and over the sides or they fall off.

Also, I have a FUPA (fat upper pelvic area), so everything gives me camel-toe.

So I never tuck in my shirts, but that makes me feel less pulled together. Thankfully, my office is casual, so I usually wear jeans and a longer top, like a tunic or a cardigan/jacket over a tank. But there are so many cute looks that require tucking in.

Further complicating things is that I can't really do belts around waist either because it's so high and I have a big chest, so I just create a shelf. So day after day, I wear tops over jeans, and I feel bored and frumpy.

Is anyone else in this position? Does anyone have any tricks to share?

[Anonymous]

I think you would have better luck if you had better fitting pants, in all honesty. If you are high waisted, get pants that sit an inch or two below your waist. The rise on the pants is the same for everyone, and will create a visual illusion that your waist is lower.

Camel toe is caused by pants that are cut wrong for your body, and if you are getting muffin top, buy pants that are in a bigger size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you would have better luck if you had better fitting pants, in all honesty. If you are high waisted, get pants that sit an inch or two below your waist. The rise on the pants is the same for everyone, and will create a visual illusion that your waist is lower.

Thanks for the response. All my pants sit at least an inch or two below my natural waist because even supposedly high-waisted pants aren't high enough for me. And there's just too much abdominal area showing when I tuck in my shirt. It never looks the way it does on everyone else!

Camel toe is caused by pants that are cut wrong for your body, and if you are getting muffin top, buy pants that are in a bigger size.

My stomach is flat (from a tummy tuck), but I have some excess skin on the sides (from weight loss). If also have no butt, so if I went up in size they're baggy in the butt/thighs and look sloppy.

Bah.

[Anonymous]

A good tailor may be your solution.

[Anonymous]

I haven't worn a tucked in shirt in years because they look ghastly on me. In addition I'm big busted, so most button down blouses gap in the wrong places anyway. I do longer tunics, tees, tanks, unsually with loose cardigans or jackets over the top. Works pretty well. I don't care if it's the same every day, as it is more flattering on my body type.

[Anonymous]

Yup. I'm in the same position, so I never tuck in shirts. Ever. I wear a lot of fitted button up shirts that have tailored bottoms, so they don't need to be tucked in but still look ok. I also wear a lot of knit tops that don't need to be tucked in. It's a pain.

[Anonymous]

OP, what if you tried changing up the silhouette so what you're doing looks more current? I think Skinny/tapered pants and a longer/flowier top could work. Something like this (may be a little bit casual for work but look at the silhouette, not the fabrics): http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/vince-sweater-ankle-pants/3466864?origin=category&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=0

Or, what about skinny/cropped pants and a fitted jacket? A jacket can make everything look more put together. http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-jacket-pants/3479477?origin=category&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=0

Or, how about a peplum top? Something like this: http://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=83640&vid=1&pid=326964022

Just play around with your silhouettes - think you can make non-tucked tops look good, but you have to mix it up.

[Anonymous]

I agree that tucked in shirts ONLY work if you are thin and have a small waist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if you tried changing up the silhouette so what you're doing looks more current? I think Skinny/tapered pants and a longer/flowier top could work. Something like this (may be a little bit casual for work but look at the silhouette, not the fabrics): http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/vince-sweater-ankle-pants/3466864?origin=category&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=0

Or, what about skinny/cropped pants and a fitted jacket? A jacket can make everything look more put together. http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-jacket-pants/3479477?origin=category&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=0

Or, how about a peplum top? Something like this: http://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=83640&vid=1&pid=326964022

Just play around with your silhouettes - think you can make non-tucked tops look good, but you have to mix it up.

Thanks for the pics. Peplum doesn't work on me, but otherwise these are what I do.

I'm relieved to hear that others avoid tucking in shirts too and find ways to work around it. Sometimes you feel like the only one!

[Anonymous]

I have the same issue and I rarely wear shirts tucked in. I have a big bust so most button-front shirts don't fit me well anyway, and I just generally hate all the constant adjustment that comes with tucking shirts in.

I wear a lot of sweaters and dressy knits, even in the summer (lighter weight, short sleeved or sleeveless), and shirts with "finished" bottom hems that are intended to be worn untucked.

If you're feeling bored and frumpy wearing the same thing day after day, you could probably spice up your wardrobe with a few new styles, but you don't need to resort to tucking in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I'm in the same position, so I never tuck in shirts. Ever. I wear a lot of fitted button up shirts that have tailored bottoms, so they don't need to be tucked in but still look ok. I also wear a lot of knit tops that don't need to be tucked in. It's a pain.

OP - I am small busted but have the same waist-flab (thanks DD) and smaller butt/thighs issue. When things fit in the waist, they look huge and droopy down below. Ugh.

How do we all feel about the above comment that fitted shirts with tailored bottoms are okay untucked? In, let's say, office casual environment. Most of the guys are wearing button down shirts, tucked, no tie.

If this is truly considered acceptable and not just sloppy... damn I have been missing out! I would do this every damn day except I'm scared that it looks sloppy and too Mommy-was-running-late-ish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I'm in the same position, so I never tuck in shirts. Ever. I wear a lot of fitted button up shirts that have tailored bottoms, so they don't need to be tucked in but still look ok. I also wear a lot of knit tops that don't need to be tucked in. It's a pain.

OP - I am small busted but have the same waist-flab (thanks DD) and smaller butt/thighs issue. When things fit in the waist, they look huge and droopy down below. Ugh.

How do we all feel about the above comment that fitted shirts with tailored bottoms are okay untucked? In, let's say, office casual environment. Most of the guys are wearing button down shirts, tucked, no tie.

If this is truly considered acceptable and not just sloppy... damn I have been missing out! I would do this every damn day except I'm scared that it looks sloppy and too Mommy-was-running-late-ish.

I was not the PP but I agree with this. However, by "tailored bottom," I don't mean the standard curved bottom with a narrow hem seam. I usually look for straight cut hems that are either invisibly stitched (like trousers) or that have a good inch+ between the bottom of the shirt and the hem seam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was not the PP but I agree with this. However, by "tailored bottom," I don't mean the standard curved bottom with a narrow hem seam. I usually look for straight cut hems that are either invisibly stitched (like trousers) or that have a good inch+ between the bottom of the shirt and the hem seam.

Could you or the PP post pics of what you mean? I was envisioning the curved bottom.

[Anonymous]

This is why I wear dresses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was not the PP but I agree with this. However, by "tailored bottom," I don't mean the standard curved bottom with a narrow hem seam. I usually look for straight cut hems that are either invisibly stitched (like trousers) or that have a good inch+ between the bottom of the shirt and the hem seam.

Could you or the PP post pics of what you mean? I was envisioning the curved bottom.

I can't quickly find any examples with button fronts, but otherwise these should give you an idea of the type of hem I meant:

http://www.anntaylor.com/ann/product/product%3A299480/AT-MHL-Florals/Wraparound-Waist-Short-Sleeve-Top/299480?colorExplode=false&skuId=13191948&catid=cata000010&productPageType=fullPriceProducts&defaultColor=5694

http://www.anntaylor.com/ann/product/AT-Apparel/AT-Blouses-Tops/Pleat-Neck-Bow-Top/303987?colorExplode=false&skuId=12975136&catid=cata000010&productPageType=fullPriceProducts&defaultColor=1276

Button front shirts with that style hem ARE very hard to find, so between that and my boobs I rarely wear them.