St. Albans acceptance rate = 25 to 30%?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid was waitlisted. I assume that he checked all of the boxes, but he's coming from public school and we (the parents) are not well connected or high profile. I didn't fully realize just how much the "whole package" likely mattered.

Please, I’ve seen well qualified students get passed up for students who will check a box. “Whole package” is not why you’ve got.

Please what? Not sure what you're trying to say. I had assumed my kid checked all of the oft-stated boxes – and he was WL. So I was obviously wrong. We clearly do NOT have "the whole package."

You're not necessarily wrong - your DC could have checked all the boxes and still be WL because at a school like STA there are more boys who check all the oft-stated boxes than there are spots. At that point, it's a crapshoot. Maybe your kid loves to play chess and do robotics but there are 5 others in the class who do that and they need an artsy kid. Maybe your kid is great at baseball and soccer but they need more chess kids in the class. Maybe you live in DC and they need a kid from MD or VA to round things out. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why your DC was not admitted.

Cements is even more that it’s a waste of time and effort.

Not for those who are admitted

The infinitely small amount who get in. To top it off, most wouldn’t ever have a chance even if they flew a rocket ship into space.

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Is it this hard at the other "Big 5"??

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

thank you for the feedback. Would it be better to use "STA rejected your son", to make clear that STA was the one who, in fact, rejected her son? "Your son didn't get into STA" sounds a bit passive.

For the purposes of providing the full picture, would it have also made more sense to say: "STA rejected your son instead of putting him on the wait list"? Is that too much information?

To provide full information in the most concise and grammatically correct manner, one might write: STA rejected your son rather than adding his name to the waitlist. Because, you see, technically it is not the son who is put on a waitlist. It is his name that is or is not placed on a waitlist.

We cannot be too careful about these things.

Sincerely,

Your English teacher

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Anonymous wrote:My kid was waitlisted. I assume that he checked all of the boxes, but he's coming from public school and we (the parents) are not well connected or high profile. I didn't fully realize just how much the "whole package" likely mattered.

Please, I’ve seen well qualified students get passed up for students who will check a box. “Whole package” is not why you’ve got.

Please what? Not sure what you're trying to say. I had assumed my kid checked all of the oft-stated boxes – and he was WL. So I was obviously wrong. We clearly do NOT have "the whole package."

You're not necessarily wrong - your DC could have checked all the boxes and still be WL because at a school like STA there are more boys who check all the oft-stated boxes than there are spots. At that point, it's a crapshoot. Maybe your kid loves to play chess and do robotics but there are 5 others in the class who do that and they need an artsy kid. Maybe your kid is great at baseball and soccer but they need more chess kids in the class. Maybe you live in DC and they need a kid from MD or VA to round things out. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why your DC was not admitted.

Cements is even more that it’s a waste of time and effort.

Not for those who are admitted

Right, it’s just a done deal for some without a process.

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

thank you for the feedback. Would it be better to use "STA rejected your son", to make clear that STA was the one who, in fact, rejected her son? "Your son didn't get into STA" sounds a bit passive.

For the purposes of providing the full picture, would it have also made more sense to say: "STA rejected your son instead of putting him on the wait list"? Is that too much information?

To provide full information in the most concise and grammatically correct manner, one might write: STA rejected your son rather than adding his name to the waitlist. Because, you see, technically it is not the son who is put on a waitlist. It is his name that is or is not placed on a waitlist.

We cannot be too careful about these things.

Sincerely,

Your English teacher

Watch out, she’ll obsessively rage at you.

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Anonymous wrote:I think St Albans prioritizes boys from private elementary schools - I think STA is looking for boys who will stay through graduation and families who are committed to private school early demonstrate they value paying all that money for the private school experience. Further, STA knows the curriculum, teachers and culture of these places. Wouldn’t you listen to the opinion of someone you know first-hand than someone you don’t know? Same with coming from Beauvoir. They really know those kids because they came from the Close.

But don’t take that to mean that these boys are not deserving. They often are great students who achieve a lot of success at STA. Another poster mentioned that they like certain public schools more than others and this is in the same vein. They have seen students succeed and add to the community from these schools so they too seem like a known quantities.

Bottom line, there are many more qualified boys than slots. There are deserving boys who are not offered admission, certainly. I am glad there are so many private schools in the area and hopefully one of those other phenomenal choices worked out for your kid.

We of course they prioritize boys from private schools, esp BVR. That’s called a hook. Schools those kids fit the mold because the ones who don’t have already been counseled out (lovely phrase) and the parents have money and one or two of the other hooks. That’s what they build a class on. That’s the business model.

Get you kid into a k-8 early when merit does not count and they’ll get that private school bump. A k-12 (and BVR+NCS/STA counts) is even better; they can coast through US.

True, kids don't generally have a resume at a young age at either public or private. But you also note that kids who are not cutting it, get asked to leave. So either they are meeting some standard or they are not. Also, you too can apply to BVR or another DC private - it isn't some innate feature. You can decide what makes the most sense for your kid and your family.

Further, I disagree with "coast through US." Boys are all working pretty hard. Successful kids start at all entry points. The idea that only the high school admits are smart or, conversely, the BVR kids win all the awards is false. These are evolving humans who are multi-dimensional. Each class looks different. Each kid is different. This thread is trying to distill everything into unhelpful tropes.

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Anonymous wrote:I think St Albans prioritizes boys from private elementary schools - I think STA is looking for boys who will stay through graduation and families who are committed to private school early demonstrate they value paying all that money for the private school experience. Further, STA knows the curriculum, teachers and culture of these places. Wouldn’t you listen to the opinion of someone you know first-hand than someone you don’t know? Same with coming from Beauvoir. They really know those kids because they came from the Close.

But don’t take that to mean that these boys are not deserving. They often are great students who achieve a lot of success at STA. Another poster mentioned that they like certain public schools more than others and this is in the same vein. They have seen students succeed and add to the community from these schools so they too seem like a known quantities.

Bottom line, there are many more qualified boys than slots. There are deserving boys who are not offered admission, certainly. I am glad there are so many private schools in the area and hopefully one of those other phenomenal choices worked out for your kid.

We of course they prioritize boys from private schools, esp BVR. That’s called a hook. Schools those kids fit the mold because the ones who don’t have already been counseled out (lovely phrase) and the parents have money and one or two of the other hooks. That’s what they build a class on. That’s the business model.

Get you kid into a k-8 early when merit does not count and they’ll get that private school bump. A k-12 (and BVR+NCS/STA counts) is even better; they can coast through US.

True, kids don't generally have a resume at a young age at either public or private. But you also note that kids who are not cutting it, get asked to leave. So either they are meeting some standard or they are not. Also, you too can apply to BVR or another DC private - it isn't some innate feature. You can decide what makes the most sense for your kid and your family.

Further, I disagree with "coast through US." Boys are all working pretty hard. Successful kids start at all entry points. The idea that only the high school admits are smart or, conversely, the BVR kids win all the awards is false. These are evolving humans who are multi-dimensional. Each class looks different. Each kid is different. This thread is trying to distill everything into unhelpful tropes.

One can assume they have kids who “are not cutting it” if they admit a lot merely because of connection.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it this hard at the other "Big 5"??

STA is probably the hardest admit in DC (in my experience). There are just so few truly "open" (unconnected) spots. We applied multiple times. On the final time we added in Sidwell, Potomac and GDS (first time for these) and my kid was admitted to all 4 and we literally had coaches and teachers courting us (calling on behalf of admissions) from those other schools. my son had straight As and is a top athlete.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it this hard at the other "Big 5"??

STA is probably the hardest admit in DC (in my experience). There are just so few truly "open" (unconnected) spots. We applied multiple times. On the final time we added in Sidwell, Potomac and GDS (first time for these) and my kid was admitted to all 4 and we literally had coaches and teachers courting us (calling on behalf of admissions) from those other schools. my son had straight As and is a top athlete.

Similar to our experience.

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Anonymous wrote:There is definitely a "look". I don't think my husband and I share it but my son has it.
Most parents do although less in the upper school. By then everyone is either haggard or has the alien/plastic surgery look.

My kid is clean cut and denied. He’s already at a boys school. I don’t know what else they want but it must be necessary to have a connection or be a minority.

I posted earlier that they wanted a certain " look". That does not mean "clean cut". It means an air of unstriving affluence. So it does have to do with the parents + students. It is like summing up horses for a race. Your breeding is being summed up.

I know during Covid interviews with candidates were done via zoom and I know some parents were not given a zoom opportunity or meeting so very communication. I do not know what you mean by breeding, that comes across to me as having a connection which is an undeniable factor.

I don't think breeding captures it, though I see the class-based point PP was trying to make. Where pp hits the nail on the head is with "unstriving affluence." It's a carriage thing. You work hard, you are a serious student, but you don't come across as a relentless striver--nor would you, because your family situation is such that you don't need to be.

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

thank you for the feedback. Would it be better to use "STA rejected your son", to make clear that STA was the one who, in fact, rejected her son? "Your son didn't get into STA" sounds a bit passive.

For the purposes of providing the full picture, would it have also made more sense to say: "STA rejected your son instead of putting him on the wait list"? Is that too much information?

To provide full information in the most concise and grammatically correct manner, one might write: STA rejected your son rather than adding his name to the waitlist. Because, you see, technically it is not the son who is put on a waitlist. It is his name that is or is not placed on a waitlist.

We cannot be too careful about these things.

Sincerely,

Your English teacher

Watch out, she’ll obsessively rage at you.

Please be more specific in your pronoun usage. By 'she' do you mean the mother of the son rejected by STA? Perhaps you should write, for clarity, "Watch out, the mother of the boy rejected by STA will obsessively rage at you."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think St Albans prioritizes boys from private elementary schools - I think STA is looking for boys who will stay through graduation and families who are committed to private school early demonstrate they value paying all that money for the private school experience. Further, STA knows the curriculum, teachers and culture of these places. Wouldn’t you listen to the opinion of someone you know first-hand than someone you don’t know? Same with coming from Beauvoir. They really know those kids because they came from the Close.

But don’t take that to mean that these boys are not deserving. They often are great students who achieve a lot of success at STA. Another poster mentioned that they like certain public schools more than others and this is in the same vein. They have seen students succeed and add to the community from these schools so they too seem like a known quantities.

Bottom line, there are many more qualified boys than slots. There are deserving boys who are not offered admission, certainly. I am glad there are so many private schools in the area and hopefully one of those other phenomenal choices worked out for your kid.

We of course they prioritize boys from private schools, esp BVR. That’s called a hook. Schools those kids fit the mold because the ones who don’t have already been counseled out (lovely phrase) and the parents have money and one or two of the other hooks. That’s what they build a class on. That’s the business model.

Get you kid into a k-8 early when merit does not count and they’ll get that private school bump. A k-12 (and BVR+NCS/STA counts) is even better; they can coast through US.

True, kids don't generally have a resume at a young age at either public or private. But you also note that kids who are not cutting it, get asked to leave. So either they are meeting some standard or they are not. Also, you too can apply to BVR or another DC private - it isn't some innate feature. You can decide what makes the most sense for your kid and your family.

Further, I disagree with "coast through US." Boys are all working pretty hard. Successful kids start at all entry points. The idea that only the high school admits are smart or, conversely, the BVR kids win all the awards is false. These are evolving humans who are multi-dimensional. Each class looks different. Each kid is different. This thread is trying to distill everything into unhelpful tropes.

I didn’t say the kids who aren’t cutting it. I said those who don’t fit the mold. There are those who do coast through in the back of the pack and never have to compete for their spot past the kinder playdate. Can you imagine what would happen if they did?

And yes, anyone can apply to BVR but it’s mostly the hooked who get in and gain another hook for future admittance thus perpetuating the cycle.

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

thank you for the feedback. Would it be better to use "STA rejected your son", to make clear that STA was the one who, in fact, rejected her son? "Your son didn't get into STA" sounds a bit passive.

For the purposes of providing the full picture, would it have also made more sense to say: "STA rejected your son instead of putting him on the wait list"? Is that too much information?

To provide full information in the most concise and grammatically correct manner, one might write: STA rejected your son rather than adding his name to the waitlist. Because, you see, technically it is not the son who is put on a waitlist. It is his name that is or is not placed on a waitlist.

We cannot be too careful about these things.

Sincerely,

Your English teacher

Watch out, she’ll obsessively rage at you.

Please be more specific in your pronoun usage. By 'she' do you mean the mother of the son rejected by STA? Perhaps you should write, for clarity, "Watch out, the mother of the boy rejected by STA will obsessively rage at you."

Nice try gaslighting. Still weirdly obsessing over that mom who you are trying to “get back at.”

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

That mom never raged, like you demonstrated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

thank you for the feedback. Would it be better to use "STA rejected your son", to make clear that STA was the one who, in fact, rejected her son? "Your son didn't get into STA" sounds a bit passive.

For the purposes of providing the full picture, would it have also made more sense to say: "STA rejected your son instead of putting him on the wait list"? Is that too much information?

To provide full information in the most concise and grammatically correct manner, one might write: STA rejected your son rather than adding his name to the waitlist. Because, you see, technically it is not the son who is put on a waitlist. It is his name that is or is not placed on a waitlist.

We cannot be too careful about these things.

Sincerely,

Your English teacher

Watch out, she’ll obsessively rage at you.

Please be more specific in your pronoun usage. By 'she' do you mean the mother of the son rejected by STA? Perhaps you should write, for clarity, "Watch out, the mother of the boy rejected by STA will obsessively rage at you."

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

thank you for the feedback. Would it be better to use "STA rejected your son", to make clear that STA was the one who, in fact, rejected her son? "Your son didn't get into STA" sounds a bit passive.

For the purposes of providing the full picture, would it have also made more sense to say: "STA rejected your son instead of putting him on the wait list"? Is that too much information?

To provide full information in the most concise and grammatically correct manner, one might write: STA rejected your son rather than adding his name to the waitlist. Because, you see, technically it is not the son who is put on a waitlist. It is his name that is or is not placed on a waitlist.

We cannot be too careful about these things.

Sincerely,

Your English teacher

Watch out, she’ll obsessively rage at you.

Please be more specific in your pronoun usage. By 'she' do you mean the mother of the son rejected by STA? Perhaps you should write, for clarity, "Watch out, the mother of the boy rejected by STA will obsessively rage at you."

The mom never raged but it’s apparent you still are.