I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already

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Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, I'm going to Mil's for Thanksgiving. Should I turn her toilet paper roll to go over? Every time she comes over, she flips the toilet rolls in my bathroom so that the paper is under rather than over. I thought maybe I'd flip her toilet paper over from under to over then start her laundry, since she likes to do mine so much. She'll be busy cooking anyway.

I may be worse - I change the toilet paper to one I bring from home because I can’t stand one-ply!

This! My ILs are millionaires many times over and use toilet paper that seems like what we had in public school in 1990. I started bringing our own s few years in and thought that might clue them in but still going strong with the very weak toilet paper

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tea and Cheese sounds like a great snack to me!
People totally miss her point; that she noticed her SIL is not as gracious or welcoming as she used to be.

If you notice that, go elsewhere

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Anonymous wrote:Tea and cheese poster here. I am glad I entertained you all but sorry I inadvertently derailed the thread somewhat.
All I wanted to say that it’s not too much to welcome the guests (even if they are early! Which is, I agree, a major inconvenience, but they are old!) and offer them tea or coffee or whatever. Then it is perfectly fine to retreat!
Offering lunch would be nice, but not expected from a typical “modern woman”.
Did the ILs commit a faux pas? Yes. Did they do it on purpose? I doubt it! They are old and anxious. OP might be there one day as well.

Except that you also wanted to make clear that it wasn’t enough for your brother to welcome you in this way but rather berate your SIL for not being the one to do it.

That’s your interpretation.
My point is that whoever opens the door won’t die of being polite and maybe even - gasp!- offering tea or coffee!

Normal Americans don’t offer tea and coffee to a guest immediately upon their arrival…maybe a glass of water at most. this sounds like a cultural issue.

Okay even better! Just say hi and ask if they want anything to drink! No need to do anything else. They are there to see the son, not DIL

I entertain MY guests, DH entertains his. Best I can do is point you to which bathroom to use

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Anonymous wrote:A bit off topic b/c it’s not related to T-giving, but my local MIL decided to stop by one day unannounced. DH and I were out on a walk. We came home to find she had let herself into our house and exclaimed, “I was so worried about you, I didn’t know where you were!” WTAF. And she was NOT elderly so no excuse there.

Yikes! How did she get in?

She had a key for emergency purposes. Which we did not “renew” when we moved a couple of miles away.

My MIL demanded a key each time we moved. The same week we went to settlement, she was there with her hand out and said “key.” I wish I had thought in advance to give her another key, one that does not work.

Excuse me what? At settlement? You didn’t change the locks? So potentially the mom of the prior owners and any other former key holders have a key to your house? I changed all the locks asap

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Anonymous wrote:So this isnt TDay related, but I just remembered one time that my mom and her husband invited me and DH out to dinner. We were supposed to meet at the restaurant at 6, and got there at like 550. THEY HAD ALREADY ORDERED AND WERE EATING! Like wtf?? We werent late, they just showed up at like 5 and wanted to order? So we ordered and by the time our food came they were finished, and they just watched us eat.
So f-king bizarre.

Just curious who paid? Like did they do that to get separate checks?

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Anonymous wrote:May I please retroactively submit a petty vent from Thanksgiving 2018? Great. Thank you.

DH and I proudly hosted our families - 23 total guests, ages 10-81. We carefully 3 adjoined tables in an L shape so we could all essentially eat together although one table spilled over into the (open) living room. I set a beautiful table. MIL sat down for the meal and first question to me was, “if money were no object, what room do you think you’d want to renovate first?” I was stunned and before I could say anything she added, “when I can’t sleep I dream that I won the lottery and I’m re-doing your house. I’d start with this (dining room) right here.”

Never change, Susan. Now MIL has a diagnosed cognitive deficit and so all previous nasty comments and remarks are to be viewed
as an early warning sign we missed…

I just got uninvited from thanksgiving 1 hour ago and you made my night! Honorable mention!!!

Ouch! How did they uninvite you? Over the phone?

Yes over the phone. claimed I never said for sure I was coming and that it is going to be difficult because the cousin I don’t like just confirmed she is coming.

[Anonymous]

Eight nightmare words: Pumpkin pie made with Splenda instead of sugar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eight nightmare words: Pumpkin pie made with Splenda instead of sugar.

Fat free pie crust

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, I'm going to Mil's for Thanksgiving. Should I turn her toilet paper roll to go over? Every time she comes over, she flips the toilet rolls in my bathroom so that the paper is under rather than over. I thought maybe I'd flip her toilet paper over from under to over then start her laundry, since she likes to do mine so much. She'll be busy cooking anyway.

I may be worse - I change the toilet paper to one I bring from home because I can’t stand one-ply!

This! My ILs are millionaires many times over and use toilet paper that seems like what we had in public school in 1990. I started bringing our own s few years in and thought that might clue them in but still going strong with the very weak toilet paper

It may be due to the age of the house. Many a plumber has told us only to use the one ply stuff, which will dissolve once wet. If you bring the three ply paper, you may create a drain blockage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:May I please retroactively submit a petty vent from Thanksgiving 2018? Great. Thank you.

DH and I proudly hosted our families - 23 total guests, ages 10-81. We carefully 3 adjoined tables in an L shape so we could all essentially eat together although one table spilled over into the (open) living room. I set a beautiful table. MIL sat down for the meal and first question to me was, “if money were no object, what room do you think you’d want to renovate first?” I was stunned and before I could say anything she added, “when I can’t sleep I dream that I won the lottery and I’m re-doing your house. I’d start with this (dining room) right here.”

Never change, Susan. Now MIL has a diagnosed cognitive deficit and so all previous nasty comments and remarks are to be viewed
as an early warning sign we missed…

I just got uninvited from thanksgiving 1 hour ago and you made my night! Honorable mention!!!

Ouch! How did they uninvite you? Over the phone?

Yes over the phone. claimed I never said for sure I was coming and that it is going to be difficult because the cousin I don’t like just confirmed she is coming.

Sounds like a win to me! What will you do with your free day?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eight nightmare words: Pumpkin pie made with Splenda instead of sugar.

Fat free pie crust

Finger licking food preparers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, I'm going to Mil's for Thanksgiving. Should I turn her toilet paper roll to go over? Every time she comes over, she flips the toilet rolls in my bathroom so that the paper is under rather than over. I thought maybe I'd flip her toilet paper over from under to over then start her laundry, since she likes to do mine so much. She'll be busy cooking anyway.

I may be worse - I change the toilet paper to one I bring from home because I can’t stand one-ply!

This! My ILs are millionaires many times over and use toilet paper that seems like what we had in public school in 1990. I started bringing our own s few years in and thought that might clue them in but still going strong with the very weak toilet paper

This is as rude as the person who changed their hosts thermostat heating.

Maybe your in laws have a septic tank. Maybe nothing gives thanks quite like a sewer backup spewing sludge all over the basement floor.

[Anonymous]

My mother, sister, niece and nephew were scheduled to come and spend the night on Thursday with us. The kids are my kids only cousins and we never see them because my sister never makes them available. My mother also lives 1 mile from my sister and is totally enmeshed in their lives (picks the kids up from school regularly, babysits them, does all sorts of activities with them, etc..they see each other daily). Also my mother owns the house my sister lives in (just some background info).

My mother calls last night (Wednesday) and said she’s sorry but they won’t be making it because my sister thinks it’s too much for her kids to deal with having their cousins and sharing the attention of my mother. Her kids at 10 and 8, I have teens. My mother said it wouldn’t work for them after all and to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I asked my mother if she would come then by herself and she said no, she couldn’t leave my sister alone on Thanksgiving.

I hung up and cried.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eight nightmare words: Pumpkin pie made with Splenda instead of sugar.

Fat free pie crust

Sweet potatoes from a can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother, sister, niece and nephew were scheduled to come and spend the night on Thursday with us. The kids are my kids only cousins and we never see them because my sister never makes them available. My mother also lives 1 mile from my sister and is totally enmeshed in their lives (picks the kids up from school regularly, babysits them, does all sorts of activities with them, etc..they see each other daily). Also my mother owns the house my sister lives in (just some background info).

My mother calls last night (Wednesday) and said she’s sorry but they won’t be making it because my sister thinks it’s too much for her kids to deal with having their cousins and sharing the attention of my mother. Her kids at 10 and 8, I have teens. My mother said it wouldn’t work for them after all and to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I asked my mother if she would come then by herself and she said no, she couldn’t leave my sister alone on Thanksgiving.

I hung up and cried.

I’m so sorry.