Putting off TTC for a month

[Anonymous]

I really want a second child but feel overwhelmed right now. My mother died in December and we just moved last weekend. On one hand, I don't think it would be that big of a deal to not try for a month. But then I worry that any month I'm not trying is wasted. I'm getting old (33) and had a miscarriage in August, so getting pregnant easily is not a sure thing for me. Anyone take a break from TTC? What do you think I should do?

[Anonymous]

Take a break. The last thing you need right now are the extra hormones that would come with a pregnancy, or -- god forbid -- the additional obstacle of another miscarriage.

33 really isn't that old. A month or two to get yourself in the right mental place will be well worth it in the grand scheme of things.

[Anonymous]

And stress isn't going to help anything. Maybe take longer than a month. Agree: 33 isn't "old.: I'm 33 and even I realize that isn't anywhere near "old" when it comes to conception.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry that you lost your mom. I echo what PPs have said about waiting. My husband lost his mom over a year ago and his dad has had health issues. I really feel like the stress has taken its toll on our ability to conceive #1. Let yourself grieve and get through the next few months and see where you are then. You have had a successful pregnancy with #1, so that bodes well for your fertility. I agree that some time will help you be in a better frame of mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And stress isn't going to help anything. Maybe take longer than a month. Agree: 33 isn't "old.: I'm 33 and even I realize that isn't anywhere near "old" when it comes to conception.

This is OP. You're right. 33 isn't old. I think all the stress is making me feel tired and "old." Also, losing my mom a few decades sooner than I expected really brought home how short and precious life is. I'm really afraid of wasting time because it goes so fast.

[Anonymous]

One thing you might do is try an ovulation predictor kit to make sure you are ovulating and get a sense of your fertile days so you can have accurate information when you start trying. Best of luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And stress isn't going to help anything. Maybe take longer than a month. Agree: 33 isn't "old.: I'm 33 and even I realize that isn't anywhere near "old" when it comes to conception.

This is OP. You're right. 33 isn't old. I think all the stress is making me feel tired and "old." Also, losing my mom a few decades sooner than I expected really brought home how short and precious life is. I'm really afraid of wasting time because it goes so fast.

Well, you're right - 33 isn't "old" but when it comes to fertility well, you never know. I conceived my first at 31 and gave birth two months shy of my 32nd birthday. Now I'm 35 and a half, have been trying since August and. . . .nothing. I guess those four years really made a difference in terms of my fertility. DH is 37 so his swimmers aren't exactly spring chickens either.

OP, a month is probably not a big deal but I wouldn't wait for very long. The older we get, it seems the longer it takes. Good luck - and sorry for the loss of your mother. That is really hard.

[Anonymous]

So look at your charts and make a guess. When those days role around, have sex every other day, or not. A month isn't the end of the world. I would continue charting because data is useful.