Recurring Miscarriages. Chin up or try another strategy?

[Anonymous]

So, i've had 5 miscarriages and 1 healthy pregnancy. Been to 12 dr's -- no apparent reason, though one of the m/cs was found to be the result of a trisomy.

My dr., whom I trust, says it is just really, really bad luck, and when I feel ready, I should try again. Thing is, I'm 36, so I have to try again soon, and I wonder how often I can keep doing this while still being a positive person, a decent mom.

What have others done if they've been in a similar situation? Should I pay the boatload of bucks to do IVF and make sure the egg they insert doesn't have any chromosomal problems? Adoption? Just chin up? Maybe I just need a pep talk.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for your losses. There is a similar discussion in the Infertility Forum. You can find the link here: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/281085.page

I have a similar story...3 miscarriages within a year after 2 healthy and uneventful pregnancies. Dr blamed them on AMA and said to keep trying since we could get pregnant easily and that eventually a good one would stick. The latter two were found to have trisomies. The first came back with no issues but my Dr wasn't convinced the lab didn't take appropriate steps to avoid cross contamination with my own genetic material in the sample.

After the 3rd miscarriage, my Dr suggested IVF with PGD. We just completed our first and ONLY round with success. We are currently 7 weeks pregnant with twin girls. Though we are by no means out of the woods as yet, I was convinced that this was the right approach for us when the 3day PGD results showed that only 2 of 9 gorgeous embryos were genetically "normal."

The costs of IVF are huge as are the cost of adoption. Having 2 children at home, we were open to both but felt that IVF was worth a shot since our insurance covered most of it. For us it was about pursuing the path of least regret.

Whatever you decide, I am wishing you the best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Has your doctor ordered chromosomes on you and your husband to make sure one of you doesn't carry a rearrangement/translocation?

[Anonymous]

I also did PGD - out of 10 gorgeous embryos - only 5 were genetically normal. Makes for a much higher percentage of a successful IVF transfer if their are no chromosomal abnormalities.

[Anonymous]

22:55 -
How do you know the gender already at 7 weeks?!
Did you mean 7 months?

[Anonymous]

22:55 here - no, 7 weeks. All of the chromosomes are checked with PGD, including the gender chromosomes so we were able to find out the sex early (though they couldn't give us that information until after the transfer since the practice we used - - Shady Grove - - is gender neutral).

[Anonymous]

22:55 here - I mean 7 weeks. With PGD, all of the chromosomes are checked, including the gender so we were able to find out early (though they wouldn't give us that information until after the transfer b/c the practice we used (Shady Grove) is gender neutral).

[Anonymous]

sorry for the double post...didn't look like the response went through the first time.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your losses Op. Fwiw, I would definitely pursue another strategy. If you haven't yet seen an RE, I would definitely start there. Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

PP here. With 5 losses and 36, I think you're chin has been up enough!