| My husband watches about 5 hours of tv a day. I think that's excessive. In fairness, he has about 1.5 hour commute each way so he says he needs to relax. But I still think 5 hours is too much because nothing else gets done. How much tv do you watch? What do you accomplish each day besides going to work? |
| I watch a lot of tv while I am doing chores, but I live alone and like the background noise. I also only end up watching max 2 hrs/day because I don't spend that much time at home anyhow. I am usually out and about doing stuff or sleeping. |
| It's not up to you to tell your husband how much TV he can watch. You can and should, however, talk to him about the things that are not getting done around the house. Don't make it about the TV b/c that's not the real issue. If he wasn't watching TV he could easily be playing on the internet or doing a hobby or reading the paper, and your problem would be the same. |
| Sounds like your DH is depressed and/or overwhelmed with your lives. I think the TV issue is probably a red herring, and it's probably worth talking about what you guys can do to make your lives work better for him. Maybe it's time to move closer to work, or for him to find a new job. Or maybe he needs therapy and a work-out plan. Get the conversation started, though! |
I guess if his viewing is interfering with other things then it is too much. I watch betweent 15 - 45 minutes of TV a day.
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+1. Remember, you're his wife, not his mother. You need to discuss the division of labor in the house, not what he does with his spare time. |
| Who gives a SHIT, he's an adult! Do you not have children to worry about when it comes to this?? |
I don't tell him how much TV to watch. But I ask him can he try to cut back sometimes so he can help. I think that's a fair question. I work 2 jobs and am the primary care giver of our kids. I don't have time to sleep because there is always something to do. He can watch TV, but 5 hours is a lot. Why not 3 hours and use the other 2 to help me with something? The leaves have been in a pile for a month. 30 minutes a day and they could be gone. |
Your response highlights some of the communication problems you guys are obviously having. PPs are telling you to focus on asking him to do the leaves, rather than focusing on the amount of tv. Also, it sounds like both of you are overwhelmed, he's depressed, and you're angry/resentful. The TV is really not the issue--just a symptom of a bigger problem. Couples counseling really is worth the time and money. |
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An adult watches too much tv when it interfers with their ability to get things that they want to do done.
I watch about two hours of tv a night. I pretty much turn it on when the kids go to bed and have it on until i go to bed. But during that time, I'm folding laundry, cleaning the living room or our bedroom, or sewing (my hobby). |
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I don't really understand how he has time to watch 5 hours of TV a day? My DH gets home at 6:00 and we go to sleep around 11:00, that would not even leave time for eating dinner!
Do you have children? Does your DH ignore them completely? |
If my DH got home at 6, he would watch TV from 630 until after midnight. He sits in the room with the kids while he is watching tv. Sometimes he has on headphones and his dvd player. |
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That seems like a lot. I probably watch 2 hours a night - about 30 minutes with my daughter and another 1.5 hours before I inevitably pass out on the couch because I'm so tired, but can't make myself go to bed at 10. I typically do other stuff while watching, like fold laundry or file bills or do the crossword/sudoku.
(single mom, no spouse to consider.) |
| OP, God bless you. If my husband watched 5 hrs of TV a night I would go nuts. What a bore! I bet he is really out of shape and sloppy. |
| He sounds depressed |