Open Letter to Our Egg Donor

[Anonymous]

Dear Donor,

You, of course, have no idea who I am but I carefully selected you from hundreds of potential candidates. My husband and I had had such a terrible fertility journey. Three miscarriages. Horrible emotional pain and many physical complications. I know my age had a lot to do with our problem, but that's the one thing that I can't change. When we finally decided to try DE, it was honestly a really difficult decision for me. Initially, I felt like I was giving up a part of me and, well, I was. I will never have a biological child and that is something that's really hard to come to terms with - even now. I know that there must be a special feeling to look at your child and literally see yourself in them and that is something I will never have.

Even though we only saw a few photos of you, we thought you were beautiful, smart, confident and witty. Your personality really came through - even on a couple of pieces of paper. I thought about you non-stop through the fertility process, and whenever I see your college or some other reminder of you, I always send you a special thought and prayer.

Last Wednesday, when I was delivering our child, you were absolutely with me. I thought about you as I saw the doctors and nurses carry our baby to be cleaned off. I cried. My huband cried. I've been crying non-stop ever since. Of course, everyone keeps telling me its hormones - and it probably is. But I am so eternally grateful for your incredible sacrifice for us. Oh, I know there was a monetary exchange, but I also know that it takes a special person who is willing to go through this process just to give a couple she has never met a child.

It's weird to think about the bond we share. Your DNA but my body. The child would not be without me but certainly not without you. I wonder if you ever think about me too.

I promise you we will be good parents and give our baby all the love and nurturing a child could want. But, I also promise that I will keep you in my heart forever. You are such a wonderful person and I pray that life gives you nothing but happiness and joy.

Love,

Recipient (and now Mommy)

[Anonymous]

Congratulations Mom. Enjoy every minute.

[Anonymous]

Beautiful - congrats Mom!

[Anonymous]

That was beautiful. I'm all ready now. Your little one has a great mommy. Feel well during your recovery!

[Anonymous]

Lovely. I was a donor 10 years ago so this is especially meaningful for me. Congratulations!

[Anonymous]

Very, very nice.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations, OP! I'm so glad your story has such a beautiful, happy ending. What a lovely open letter to your donor.

[Anonymous]

Beautiful - your baby is lucky - as are you...congrats!

[Anonymous]

I love it! I'm also a donor mom, and it just keeps getting better.

But I couldn't be more thankful for our donor.

[Anonymous]

I'm a donor mom who used donor sperm and feel exactly the same way. Beautiful letter, and beautiful mother.

[Anonymous]

I'm an adoptee and a mom through adoption and birth, so I can only partially relate, but I really appreciate the beautiful sentiment. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

Beautiful. (And FWIW, I'm a bio Mom and one kid looks nothing like me and the other does - but I just don't get that feeling of - look at me, in them. They were themselves from the second that sperm hit that egg; I just brought them here. I really truly feel that.) Thank you for sharing!

[Anonymous]

What a lovely note. I would definitely be an egg donor but am far too old. Super nice post.

[Anonymous]

Bio mom of both of my kids. Neither looks like me - at all!

[Anonymous]

Congratulations to you. I am glad you finally found succcess after a difficult journey.