Does anyone have buyer's remorse regarding a home purchase?

[Anonymous]

We bought our first house based on an emotional decision, while other potential buyers were breathing down our neck. We thought that we couldn't pass up this wonderful home in an idyllic location. Then we regretted it soon afterward: while the house was beautiful, it was the wrong location, size and layout.

Anyone had the same experience? In this seller's market, I feel that we hardly have time to really think carefully about a particular house before we have to put in an offer, otherwise it might be gone.

[Anonymous]

Pretty much everyone has some buyers remorse.

[Anonymous]

Lots of people do:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/264362.page
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/210585.page
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/221264.page

[Anonymous]

You need to know what you want before looking and then be prepared to wait until you find it. Could be 1-2 years, but you have to control your emotions and wait.

[Anonymous]

It took us two years to find a house that was attractive, the right size, the right layout, the right location, and the right price. Not everyone has that much time! And most DCUMs would probably shoot themselves before they lived in our location, so there's that.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I've got some buyer's remorse. We upgraded homes this past year and moved for the schools. Unfortunately, I now find that the street is too busy and the lack of a driveway does, in fact, bother me. I also am very worried that the neighborhood is way snobbier than I anticipated, which is my biggest concern. When my oldest starts school next year I guess I will know for sure, but if the other families are as unpleasant as they seem to be on the playground, I bet we end up moving again in a few years. Ah well...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've got some buyer's remorse. We upgraded homes this past year and moved for the schools. Unfortunately, I now find that the street is too busy and the lack of a driveway does, in fact, bother me. I also am very worried that the neighborhood is way snobbier than I anticipated, which is my biggest concern. When my oldest starts school next year I guess I will know for sure, but if the other families are as unpleasant as they seem to be on the playground, I bet we end up moving again in a few years. Ah well...

We are also looking to move to a small place in a wealth area for the schools. I've been told that the area is snobby but I've just brushed it off thinking I'm friendly and we'll be fine. I'm curious about your experience? Why do you feel it is "snobby"?

[Anonymous]

It has been four years since I bought my house, and I still hate it.
I hate the kitchen, hate the huge tree too close to the house in the back, hate the ugly front, hate hate hate.

Only thing I like about it is its location.

[Anonymous]

well, we bought in 2006 so we are under water. The house itself I like, but I don't like the location. Schools suck, can't walk anywhere, and I wish we had held out for a walk out basement instead. We thought we would be able to move before the kids were school age but that plan has become increasingly more problematic. :/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've got some buyer's remorse. We upgraded homes this past year and moved for the schools. Unfortunately, I now find that the street is too busy and the lack of a driveway does, in fact, bother me. I also am very worried that the neighborhood is way snobbier than I anticipated, which is my biggest concern. When my oldest starts school next year I guess I will know for sure, but if the other families are as unpleasant as they seem to be on the playground, I bet we end up moving again in a few years. Ah well...

We are also looking to move to a small place in a wealth area for the schools. I've been told that the area is snobby but I've just brushed it off thinking I'm friendly and we'll be fine. I'm curious about your experience? Why do you feel it is "snobby"?

I guess it's just the vibe so far. I introduced myself to 3 moms on the sidewalk the other day, and one didn't even say hello, the others looked a bit "unimpressed" with me. The playground seems to be a meet-up for super-skinny, fashionable moms (of which I'm sort of neither) who are a bit chilly towards a newcomer. One neighbor suggested having us over, but the actual invitation never materialized. So, not really liking the neighborhood thus far.

[Anonymous]

There was always something for your home. There was no perfect house in the world. Buyer remorse will always happen. even with 2nd house, I still felt i did not make wise decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've got some buyer's remorse. We upgraded homes this past year and moved for the schools. Unfortunately, I now find that the street is too busy and the lack of a driveway does, in fact, bother me. I also am very worried that the neighborhood is way snobbier than I anticipated, which is my biggest concern. When my oldest starts school next year I guess I will know for sure, but if the other families are as unpleasant as they seem to be on the playground, I bet we end up moving again in a few years. Ah well...

We are also looking to move to a small place in a wealth area for the schools. I've been told that the area is snobby but I've just brushed it off thinking I'm friendly and we'll be fine. I'm curious about your experience? Why do you feel it is "snobby"?

I guess it's just the vibe so far. I introduced myself to 3 moms on the sidewalk the other day, and one didn't even say hello, the others looked a bit "unimpressed" with me. The playground seems to be a meet-up for super-skinny, fashionable moms (of which I'm sort of neither) who are a bit chilly towards a newcomer. One neighbor suggested having us over, but the actual invitation never materialized. So, not really liking the neighborhood thus far.

Well, if I move into your neighborhood, I will gladly say hello to you, arrange a play date, a moms night out, and invite you over for dinner or a glass of wine in my tiny house or apartment (whichever we end up moving into). It sounds like you're a friendly person and you'll eventually meet like minded people. It's easy to get discouraged with behavior like that though, I get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've got some buyer's remorse. We upgraded homes this past year and moved for the schools. Unfortunately, I now find that the street is too busy and the lack of a driveway does, in fact, bother me. I also am very worried that the neighborhood is way snobbier than I anticipated, which is my biggest concern. When my oldest starts school next year I guess I will know for sure, but if the other families are as unpleasant as they seem to be on the playground, I bet we end up moving again in a few years. Ah well...

We are also looking to move to a small place in a wealth area for the schools. I've been told that the area is snobby but I've just brushed it off thinking I'm friendly and we'll be fine. I'm curious about your experience? Why do you feel it is "snobby"?

I'm not the previous poster, but we thought about moving to a wealthy area, but would have been considered poor. We decided this would not be a good environment for our kids to grow up. We assumed the wealthier families would look down on us and our kids would be negatively impacted. We opted for an area where we fit in financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've got some buyer's remorse. We upgraded homes this past year and moved for the schools. Unfortunately, I now find that the street is too busy and the lack of a driveway does, in fact, bother me. I also am very worried that the neighborhood is way snobbier than I anticipated, which is my biggest concern. When my oldest starts school next year I guess I will know for sure, but if the other families are as unpleasant as they seem to be on the playground, I bet we end up moving again in a few years. Ah well...

We are also looking to move to a small place in a wealth area for the schools. I've been told that the area is snobby but I've just brushed it off thinking I'm friendly and we'll be fine. I'm curious about your experience? Why do you feel it is "snobby"?

I'm not the previous poster, but we thought about moving to a wealthy area, but would have been considered poor. We decided this would not be a good environment for our kids to grow up. We assumed the wealthier families would look down on us and our kids would be negatively impacted. We opted for an area where we fit in financially.

I guess that would depend on the disparity, but if there are housing options in said area that fit your budget, then there must be others living there that are similar. There will always be snobs, but I just can't imagine that an entire area would be that unfriendly to us just because we're not as well off. I hope my optimism is not me being naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've got some buyer's remorse. We upgraded homes this past year and moved for the schools. Unfortunately, I now find that the street is too busy and the lack of a driveway does, in fact, bother me. I also am very worried that the neighborhood is way snobbier than I anticipated, which is my biggest concern. When my oldest starts school next year I guess I will know for sure, but if the other families are as unpleasant as they seem to be on the playground, I bet we end up moving again in a few years. Ah well...

We are also looking to move to a small place in a wealth area for the schools. I've been told that the area is snobby but I've just brushed it off thinking I'm friendly and we'll be fine. I'm curious about your experience? Why do you feel it is "snobby"?

I'm not the previous poster, but we thought about moving to a wealthy area, but would have been considered poor. We decided this would not be a good environment for our kids to grow up. We assumed the wealthier families would look down on us and our kids would be negatively impacted. We opted for an area where we fit in financially.

THIS!!! I grew up in McLean and we were dirt poor. Our house was always in shambles because my parents couldn't afford basic home maintemce. I had a friend over only once during my childhood. My parents would've been much smarter to have bought an affordable home that they could maintain.

My dad always had money for his BMW, but never any money for new clothing, a sport or school field trips.