Ever get an email from *the facebook police* mom?

[Anonymous]

What to do about the mom whose DD doesn't have fb. Every time my DD gets together with hers, I get an email reminding me that her snowflake doesn't do facebook. Got it. She has never seen my DDs fb. DD very responsible with her fb and there are no pics of her snowflake. How to tell her to back off? This is the third time she has "reminded" me. Was polite the first 2 times, now a little annoyed. What to say?

[Anonymous]

I am not sure I am clear.

These are older girls? Your daughter has facebook and the other mom reminds you that her daughter isn't allowed on facebook while at your house? These reminders annoy you.

Do I have it right?

[Anonymous]

No, she does not want pics of her daughter on fb. Whenever she sees my DD take a pic, assumes it is a pic of her DD.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they are in (different) HS.

[Anonymous]

"You seem to be very concerned with how my Imogene manages her Facebook page. Her father and I are very comfortable with the limits we've set and the responsibility she demonstrates, particularly with photos. Beyond that, is there something in particular you'd like to discuss? Because if not, I'm at a loss as to how this impacts your Esmerelda."

[Anonymous]

I'm a very forthright person so I would be honest and tell her her comments are getting a little old, that you and your DD understand her concerns, and that you will let her know if the rules are violated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You seem to be very concerned with how my Imogene manages her Facebook page. Her father and I are very comfortable with the limits we've set and the responsibility she demonstrates, particularly with photos. Beyond that, is there something in particular you'd like to discuss? Because if not, I'm at a loss as to how this impacts your Esmerelda."

Thank you. Much needed laugh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a very forthright person so I would be honest and tell her her comments are getting a little old, that you and your DD understand her concerns, and that you will let her know if the rules are violated.

Thank you. In my heart, I feel there is more to it...

[Anonymous]

That's just dumb. Unless she is going to follow her DD around and check the facebook page of every person that ever takes a picture of her there is no way she can control her DD's image being on facebook.

I'd be annoyed too. I actually like what 9:44 said. I *might* leave off the last sentence but I like the entire response.

Let us know if you respond and what she says.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a very forthright person so I would be honest and tell her her comments are getting a little old, that you and your DD understand her concerns, and that you will let her know if the rules are violated.

Thank you. In my heart, I feel there is more to it...

More to what? To her objections? What do you suspect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You seem to be very concerned with how my Imogene manages her Facebook page. Her father and I are very comfortable with the limits we've set and the responsibility she demonstrates, particularly with photos. Beyond that, is there something in particular you'd like to discuss? Because if not, I'm at a loss as to how this impacts your Esmerelda."

Very well written and expresses my thoughts perfectly! That is why I laughed

[Anonymous]

I don't have a FB page either and people are very careful what they post about me or being with me, etc but I had been in an abusive relationship and had to have a restraining order, etc
Could it be something similar for her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a very forthright person so I would be honest and tell her her comments are getting a little old, that you and your DD understand her concerns, and that you will let her know if the rules are violated.

Thank you. In my heart, I feel there is more to it...

More to what? To her objections? What do you suspect?

Telling somebody something that they already know or have to do is subtle or not so subtle bullying. Example -- Don't forget to take out the trash! Christmas is on the 25th! Did you forget to rake your leaves! School pick up time is 2;30! It is bullying b/c what can you reply? Just a throw out line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What to do about the mom whose DD doesn't have fb. Every time my DD gets together with hers, I get an email reminding me that her snowflake doesn't do facebook. Got it. She has never seen my DDs fb. DD very responsible with her fb and there are no pics of her snowflake. How to tell her to back off? This is the third time she has "reminded" me. Was polite the first 2 times, now a little annoyed. What to say?

Post the email as your status update.

[Anonymous]

I get that it is a little annoying, but in the grand scheme of things...., just delete the message when you get it. For whatever reason this is something that is important to the mother.