Has Has Baby Impacted Your Relationship?

[Anonymous]

Wondering about others experiences of how having a baby has changed their relationships...mainly with spouse, but also with friends and family. What, if anything, has helped with the transition and inevitable challenges.

[Anonymous]

Have you read any of these forums? The answer to your question is pretty much in 75% of what is posted on DCUM. About 90% of the Relationship forum.

[Anonymous]

Babies are supposed to impact your relationships....

[Anonymous]

DH's selfishness and laziness is no longer endearing.

[Anonymous]

it ends the sexual relationship with your spouse and it basically ends the friendships you have with people who don't have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it ends the sexual relationship with your spouse and it basically ends the friendships you have with people who don't have children.

Lies! This only happens to people who weren't that into the sexual side of the relationship to begin with and were crappy friends all along.

[Anonymous]

I'd say that 75 percent of couples experience a drastic decline in their sexual lives and most of the rest also are a good bit less active than they used to be. And this is just a small part of the decline in relationship satisfaction.

So, yes, watch out. It takes a lot of hard work and a proper alignment of the stars to get a marriage going at a good level after kids.

[Anonymous]

We had less sex when the babies were around, and we went out less because we tended to be so tired all the time. But kids are 3 and 5 now and we go out with friends a lot, and we have great sex often again.

[Anonymous]

OP, there's no way having a baby will NOT impact your relationship. Because you and your spouse will be fundamentally different as individuals after the baby comes.

[Anonymous]

Lets see. 2 m.o. now. No sex in 5 months.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course! You and your spouse will face greater joys and greater challenges than you ever knew. Instead of having time to yourselves, it will be all baby all the time (or sleeping). Depending on how you guys handle stress as a couple and as individuals, it will bring you together or tear you apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course! You and your spouse will face greater joys and greater challenges than you ever knew. Instead of having time to yourselves, it will be all baby all the time (or sleeping). Depending on how you guys handle stress as a couple and as individuals, it will bring you together or tear you apart.

8 months into the adventure I'd say depending on the day it actually does both. What it will do in the long term remains to be seen.

[Anonymous]

DCUM--The Cliffnotes Edition:

So you had a baby. Expect the following:

No more sex. More arguments. 50/50 chores now become 90/10. Friends without kids kick you to the curb. Frequency of in-law visits increase based on how little you care for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it ends the sexual relationship with your spouse and it basically ends the friendships you have with people who don't have children.

Lies! This only happens to people who weren't that into the sexual side of the relationship to begin with and were crappy friends all along.

Utter rubbish.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it did. It made everything even better.