Is it weird to invite DD's piano teacher to coffee?
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DD started piano lessons around 6 months ago and takes lessons at the teacher's house. For a few months now, after each lesson her teacher and I have been chatting a lot socially--often for a good 20-30 minutes afterwards, so we've already had some good conversations, and we've really hit it off. If we'd met in a different context I'm sure we'd already be getting to be friends, but I haven't wanted to invite her to coffee or to our house or anything because part of me feels like it's weird and a blurring of boundaries--although on the other hand, it's not like she's her classroom teacher. So would it be strange or is it fine and I'm over-thinking this?
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Anonymous
| I wouldn't think that's weird. Good friends are harder to find as we age, so if you click with someone, I say pursue the friendship. Someone has to make the first move. |
Anonymous
| Do it. |
Anonymous
| No, keep professional boundaries. |
Anonymous
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"I really shouldn't knock you off schedule, but I'd love to continue chatting. Let's plan a coffee date so we can do this properly. Okay if I call you tonight to set it up?"
She will be caught off guard and say yes, and if when you call tonight she either won't pick up or blows you off, then you have your answer. |
Anonymous
| Raise the idea but don't put her on the spot. ("I love to chat with you but hate to take up your time while you are working. Let me know if you ever want to go get coffee sometime.") |
Anonymous
| I think it's fine. |
Anonymous
| Do you want to sleep with this person, OP? |
Anonymous
OP here-I love this idea. Thanks! |
Anonymous
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go for it!
for what its worth, i love my preschool teachers and wish i could just hang out with them... |
Anonymous
| I agree on trying to set up a coffee date and watching her signs. If you are the same age & lifestyle, maybe you'll be good friends. I teach private lessons and often have a hard time getting away when lessons end, so I'd encourage you to pursue a separate context friendship, but to leave her home promptly when the lesson ends. I have clients I see professionally and personally, but I hate when someone wants to blur the two. |
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| Spooky |
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Creepy |
Anonymous
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OP here to follow up. I took the advice of the PP who suggested floating the idea. She said she'd love to, and we're getting together for coffee after Thanksgiving. So I'm glad I asked, and I'm excited to have a potential new friend! Thanks all.
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