St. Anslems lawsuit alleges racism and harassment

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

Sounds like the Abbey has a real problem with bullying. Sad that the school failed so miserably to get it under control on all fronts.

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

Sounds like the Abbey has a real problem with bullying. Sad that the school failed so miserably to get it under control on all fronts.

In a small school, the presence of one extremely violent bully can change the dynamic of the class for everyone, as can the absence of such bully. It's sad Jane Doe cannot move on and let her son get the help he needs in an environment equipped to help him, which the Abbey apparently was not.

[Anonymous]

It's sad that Jane Doe can't move on? If a shred of what she said was true, you should be ashamed.

Too bad the rape victim can't just move on and have a healthier relationship. After all she was wearing a short skirt.

Are you serious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's sad that Jane Doe can't move on? If a shred of what she said was true, you should be ashamed.

Too bad the rape victim can't just move on and have a healthier relationship. After all she was wearing a short skirt.

Are you serious?

Sorry - but the institution has a decades long reputation of educating high-ability black boys w/o tokenism. Whatever happened here should be addressed (perhaps with an appropriate settlement) but there is really nothing more to dwell on besides not allowing another “one” to slip through, as that simply makes things harder for well-suited black students. Pay up and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:It's sad that Jane Doe can't move on? If a shred of what she said was true, you should be ashamed.

Too bad the rape victim can't just move on and have a healthier relationship. After all she was wearing a short skirt.

Are you serious?

Sorry - but the institution has a decades long reputation of educating high-ability black boys w/o tokenism. Whatever happened here should be addressed (perhaps with an appropriate settlement) but there is really nothing more to dwell on besides not allowing another “one” to slip through, as that simply makes things harder for well-suited black students. Pay up and move on.

Agree and this child was reportedly the aggressor of extremely violent and abusive behavior towards others, not exactly analogous to a rape victim wearing short skirts. Clearly the PP who wants shame others needs a bit of grammar school education on appropriate analogies.

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

Sounds like the Abbey has a real problem with bullying. Sad that the school failed so miserably to get it under control on all fronts.

In a small school, the presence of one extremely violent bully can change the dynamic of the class for everyone, as can the absence of such bully. It's sad Jane Doe cannot move on and let her son get the help he needs in an environment equipped to help him, which the Abbey apparently was not.

Yes exactly. Just one extremely violent bully can certainly change the dynamics of a small class which is why here - where it reportedly was several violent bullies who assaulted this black boy and taunted him with racist insults - it’s even more shocking that St Anselm’s Abbey School didn’t manage the small group better.

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

Sounds like the Abbey has a real problem with bullying. Sad that the school failed so miserably to get it under control on all fronts.

In a small school, the presence of one extremely violent bully can change the dynamic of the class for everyone, as can the absence of such bully. It's sad Jane Doe cannot move on and let her son get the help he needs in an environment equipped to help him, which the Abbey apparently was not.

Yes exactly. Just one extremely violent bully can certainly change the dynamics of a small class which is why here - where it reportedly was several violent bullies who assaulted this black boy and taunted him with racist insults - it’s even more shocking that St Anselm’s Abbey School didn’t manage the small group better.

Jane Doe: Stop posting.

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

Sounds like the Abbey has a real problem with bullying. Sad that the school failed so miserably to get it under control on all fronts.

In a small school, the presence of one extremely violent bully can change the dynamic of the class for everyone, as can the absence of such bully. It's sad Jane Doe cannot move on and let her son get the help he needs in an environment equipped to help him, which the Abbey apparently was not.

Yes exactly. Just one extremely violent bully can certainly change the dynamics of a small class which is why here - where it reportedly was several violent bullies who assaulted this black boy and taunted him with racist insults - it’s even more shocking that St Anselm’s Abbey School didn’t manage the small group better.

Why is this shocking?

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

Sounds like the Abbey has a real problem with bullying. Sad that the school failed so miserably to get it under control on all fronts.

In a small school, the presence of one extremely violent bully can change the dynamic of the class for everyone, as can the absence of such bully. It's sad Jane Doe cannot move on and let her son get the help he needs in an environment equipped to help him, which the Abbey apparently was not.

Yes exactly. Just one extremely violent bully can certainly change the dynamics of a small class which is why here - where it reportedly was several violent bullies who assaulted this black boy and taunted him with racist insults - it’s even more shocking that St Anselm’s Abbey School didn’t manage the small group better.

Why is this shocking?

Because I’d expect that a private school with such small classes like St Anselms Abbey School would be able to demonstrate even the most basic ability to manage its classes of boys so that alleged racist and violent bullying doesn’t go unchecked by the school.

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Anonymous wrote:St. Anselm’s has a long history of serving high ability black boys well. This episode means very little against that backdrop. Hopefully, this matter can be settled reasonably with lessons learned.

This episode means very much against any backdrop.

Not really at all — it’s a non-systemic matter at an institution that has been great for a certain population of boys, especially intellectually ambitious boys of color. It will continue to be great for such boys.

Regarding this matter, do what needs to be done in terms of $ settlement or personnel changes, then move on.

Yes - mid tier black boys need not apply.

Nobody “mid-tier” is likely to be admitted to St. Anselm’s or do well in the extremely demanding academic program. This has nothing to do with race.

Exactly. And, in the rare case when there is a slip through admissions, they will struggle, as did this child.

Exactly. If you can’t cut it academically, the Abbey community will bully you with racist and ableist torments until you decide to quit, as did this child. The system worked as intended here.

Do you have any first hand knowledge of this sort of activity?

Yes.

I also have first hand knowledge of the Abbey community dismissing this racist and ableist bullying behavior as acceptable because the black boy at issue “slipped through the cracks” in admissions and wasn’t one of the “intellectually ambitious boys of color” who generally do not become targets.

I do not know what situation or scenario you are referring to, but I have a great deal of experience with the Abbey and the opposite holds true. Additionally, there are reports of this John Doe being extremely violent, especially with students smaller than him, and bullying other students.

Yes, I understand this to be the case as well.

The violence and bullying by John Doe was reportedly against smaller students and other students of color.

Sounds like the Abbey has a real problem with bullying. Sad that the school failed so miserably to get it under control on all fronts.

In a small school, the presence of one extremely violent bully can change the dynamic of the class for everyone, as can the absence of such bully. It's sad Jane Doe cannot move on and let her son get the help he needs in an environment equipped to help him, which the Abbey apparently was not.

Yes exactly. Just one extremely violent bully can certainly change the dynamics of a small class which is why here - where it reportedly was several violent bullies who assaulted this black boy and taunted him with racist insults - it’s even more shocking that St Anselm’s Abbey School didn’t manage the small group better.

Why is this shocking?

Because I’d expect that a private school with such small classes like St Anselms Abbey School would be able to demonstrate even the most basic ability to manage its classes of boys so that alleged racist and violent bullying doesn’t go unchecked by the school.

But that's the point, perhaps is isn't unchecked?

[Anonymous]

My kid was kicked out of two private schools for silly reasons (playing house in pre-k with a girl and at the next school for no disclosed reason) and I pulled him out of a third when a teacher stopped accepting his homework and then failed him for not doing it. I literally watched him email pdfs to her after she wouldn’t take it in class and she still claimed he didn’t do the work, so I pulled him out before it went on his academic record.

I didn’t sue. I asked for a refund of remaining tuition from the second school and threatened to sue unless they refunded me. I claimed insurance from the third school.

He ended up graduating with honors from high school and is thriving in college now.

I am always suspicious of these lawsuits when the child is alive. Don’t the parents have more important things to do than sue over a poor placement? Especially if the child is special needs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A copy of the complaint is here. Really tough to read through the allegations. The pictures from the group text thread they allege classmates used to bully this student were gross. A much different picture of the brotherhood that most here portray.

https://www.cohenmilstein.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/2025_06_17_Doe-v.-St.-Anselms-Complaint-final.pdf

A text thread? Seriously?

In 7th grade, my kid left the group text for his class because kids were being mean and he didn’t like it. Before that, he didn’t have a phone.

Teach your snowflake to delete texts. It will serve him well in the future, payout or not.

[Anonymous]

There was a status conference yesterday in DC Superior Court according to the docket. Anyone attend or know of any updates coming out of that session with the judge?