If you are wealthy would you send your kids to a W school over private?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you want your kids in schools with non English speakers or those from dysfunctional families?

Because that’s life and some of us live in reality and prepare are kids for it. We aren’t afraid of it and don’t feel a need to coddle our kids until they depart for college.

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There are also plenty of "non English speakers" and kids from dysfunctional families in W schools, they just have more resources to get help and people don't seem to be afraid of them if they are White or Asian (maybe because Asian people are invisible to them).

[Anonymous]

You don’t think there are dysfunctional families in private schools? Maybe you’re not as weirdly as you think.

[Anonymous]

Weirdly = worldly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We could have afforded it easily (Biglaw) but I place Trump supporters and (non religious) private school parents living in average or better public school districts in the same category: people whose values I don’t share and who I will have nothing to do with.

The feeling is mutual!! How about that. I have absolutely no respect for families who have wealth and instead of spending it on a good education, they choose multiple homes, trips, etc. We have a net worth of $12M plus $1M annual income, and we have only one home and basic cars. We spent $120K on education last year between my college and HS students. Money well spent and they are great kids with wonderful friends. Wouldn't have it any other way and glad they are away from families like yours!!

+1. I don’t get what the point of this money is, if not for their kids. Famous poster Retired Biglaw Partner loves to brag about how little money he spent on his kids’ education which is just bizarre to me. What on earth was it all for, if not for your kids?

Lol I didn’t know I was famous!

My kids went to top ranked public schools, UVA, and top ranked LACs on merit aid. They all have masters degrees, good and productive jobs, and nice spouses. I covered the house in the nice suburb where there schools were located, paid for college, paid for beautiful weddings, provided down payments for houses, have a vacation home that they enjoy immensely, and between my spouse and me in my early retirement have provided them with so much free and loving childcare that they literally have never had to spend a dime on it themselves.

Yes, you’re right - I didn’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years to keep them away from the great unwashed with a single-eyed drive to get them into an expensive named-brand college that impressed my friends and looked good on a bumper sticker. I knew enough all along to know that, in the end, it would amount to nothing.

If that’s your definition of not “doing it all for the kids,” then I’m guilty as charged. But I’m pretty confident I’d be acquitted if any of them were on your jury.

People like PP show that public school parents can be just as insufferable and out of touch as private school parents. This guy actually thinks his kids didn’t grow up (and continue to be coddled!) in a privileged bubble just because he sent them to public school in some (historically redlined no doubt) wealthy neighborhood. Get over yourself, biglaw creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We could have afforded it easily (Biglaw) but I place Trump supporters and (non religious) private school parents living in average or better public school districts in the same category: people whose values I don’t share and who I will have nothing to do with.

The feeling is mutual!! How about that. I have absolutely no respect for families who have wealth and instead of spending it on a good education, they choose multiple homes, trips, etc. We have a net worth of $12M plus $1M annual income, and we have only one home and basic cars. We spent $120K on education last year between my college and HS students. Money well spent and they are great kids with wonderful friends. Wouldn't have it any other way and glad they are away from families like yours!!

+1. I don’t get what the point of this money is, if not for their kids. Famous poster Retired Biglaw Partner loves to brag about how little money he spent on his kids’ education which is just bizarre to me. What on earth was it all for, if not for your kids?

Lol I didn’t know I was famous!

My kids went to top ranked public schools, UVA, and top ranked LACs on merit aid. They all have masters degrees, good and productive jobs, and nice spouses. I covered the house in the nice suburb where there schools were located, paid for college, paid for beautiful weddings, provided down payments for houses, have a vacation home that they enjoy immensely, and between my spouse and me in my early retirement have provided them with so much free and loving childcare that they literally have never had to spend a dime on it themselves.

Yes, you’re right - I didn’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years to keep them away from the great unwashed with a single-eyed drive to get them into an expensive named-brand college that impressed my friends and looked good on a bumper sticker. I knew enough all along to know that, in the end, it would amount to nothing.

If that’s your definition of not “doing it all for the kids,” then I’m guilty as charged. But I’m pretty confident I’d be acquitted if any of them were on your jury.

People like PP show that public school parents can be just as insufferable and out of touch as private school parents. This guy actually thinks his kids didn’t grow up (and continue to be coddled!) in a privileged bubble just because he sent them to public school in some (historically redlined no doubt) wealthy neighborhood. Get over yourself, biglaw creep.

Of course they can. And the posters who live in-bounds for W schools—which is the topic of this thread—live in privileged bubbles too. They bought into their lives just like private school families did.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had this debate (fight) with DH and his parents for years. I prefer the W-school public experience for my privileged kids because DH went to well regarded privates and never learned how to relate to anyone other than UC/UMC people. It’s painful to watch and I don’t want that for my kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's about money but also exposing kids to the real world in a controlled situation.

I am worth millions, personally, but it's in assets, not income. My income is actually quite low. I never wanted to spend my capital on private school, but I was prepared to spend a small portion of it on a house in a wealthy school cluster, since after my kids are done with school, I still have real estate. I have one kid with special needs and one without. For my kid with SN, I feel that our W public with services and accommodations + close parenting + tutoring and therapies has been the optimal solution. The one without is gifted and would have thrived in any school.

I'm also a product of reputable private schools, and getting out of that bubble into the real world was quite an experience. I'd rather my kids go to a wealthy public where they have gentle exposure to actual Life.

Neither W schools nor private schools are anything close to the real world.

Then you live in a bubble. Public school has its share of real world struggles that are very rare in expensive privates. Even in Bethesda/Potomac/Chevy Chase.

what real world strugglers? I am geniunely curious.

I never attended a public school and neither did my wife. We went to prek - college all private in Bethesda. We can financially afford private but I can't wrap my head around the costs now.

My school was like 15k when I went, not its over $50k. Sure, incomes are a bit higher, but not relatively speaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We could have afforded it easily (Biglaw) but I place Trump supporters and (non religious) private school parents living in average or better public school districts in the same category: people whose values I don’t share and who I will have nothing to do with.

The feeling is mutual!! How about that. I have absolutely no respect for families who have wealth and instead of spending it on a good education, they choose multiple homes, trips, etc. We have a net worth of $12M plus $1M annual income, and we have only one home and basic cars. We spent $120K on education last year between my college and HS students. Money well spent and they are great kids with wonderful friends. Wouldn't have it any other way and glad they are away from families like yours!!

+1. I don’t get what the point of this money is, if not for their kids. Famous poster Retired Biglaw Partner loves to brag about how little money he spent on his kids’ education which is just bizarre to me. What on earth was it all for, if not for your kids?

Lol I didn’t know I was famous!

My kids went to top ranked public schools, UVA, and top ranked LACs on merit aid. They all have masters degrees, good and productive jobs, and nice spouses. I covered the house in the nice suburb where there schools were located, paid for college, paid for beautiful weddings, provided down payments for houses, have a vacation home that they enjoy immensely, and between my spouse and me in my early retirement have provided them with so much free and loving childcare that they literally have never had to spend a dime on it themselves.

Yes, you’re right - I didn’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years to keep them away from the great unwashed with a single-eyed drive to get them into an expensive named-brand college that impressed my friends and looked good on a bumper sticker. I knew enough all along to know that, in the end, it would amount to nothing.

If that’s your definition of not “doing it all for the kids,” then I’m guilty as charged. But I’m pretty confident I’d be acquitted if any of them were on your jury.

People like PP show that public school parents can be just as insufferable and out of touch as private school parents. This guy actually thinks his kids didn’t grow up (and continue to be coddled!) in a privileged bubble just because he sent them to public school in some (historically redlined no doubt) wealthy neighborhood. Get over yourself, biglaw creep.

Jealousy is not cute

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had this debate (fight) with DH and his parents for years. I prefer the W-school public experience for my privileged kids because DH went to well regarded privates and never learned how to relate to anyone other than UC/UMC people. It’s painful to watch and I don’t want that for my kids.

If you think your kids will be exposed to middle class or lower middle class kids in W schools, you’re delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weirdly = worldly

The private school experience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We could have afforded it easily (Biglaw) but I place Trump supporters and (non religious) private school parents living in average or better public school districts in the same category: people whose values I don’t share and who I will have nothing to do with.

The feeling is mutual!! How about that. I have absolutely no respect for families who have wealth and instead of spending it on a good education, they choose multiple homes, trips, etc. We have a net worth of $12M plus $1M annual income, and we have only one home and basic cars. We spent $120K on education last year between my college and HS students. Money well spent and they are great kids with wonderful friends. Wouldn't have it any other way and glad they are away from families like yours!!

+1. I don’t get what the point of this money is, if not for their kids. Famous poster Retired Biglaw Partner loves to brag about how little money he spent on his kids’ education which is just bizarre to me. What on earth was it all for, if not for your kids?

Lol I didn’t know I was famous!

My kids went to top ranked public schools, UVA, and top ranked LACs on merit aid. They all have masters degrees, good and productive jobs, and nice spouses. I covered the house in the nice suburb where there schools were located, paid for college, paid for beautiful weddings, provided down payments for houses, have a vacation home that they enjoy immensely, and between my spouse and me in my early retirement have provided them with so much free and loving childcare that they literally have never had to spend a dime on it themselves.

Yes, you’re right - I didn’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years to keep them away from the great unwashed with a single-eyed drive to get them into an expensive named-brand college that impressed my friends and looked good on a bumper sticker. I knew enough all along to know that, in the end, it would amount to nothing.

If that’s your definition of not “doing it all for the kids,” then I’m guilty as charged. But I’m pretty confident I’d be acquitted if any of them were on your jury.

People like PP show that public school parents can be just as insufferable and out of touch as private school parents. This guy actually thinks his kids didn’t grow up (and continue to be coddled!) in a privileged bubble just because he sent them to public school in some (historically redlined no doubt) wealthy neighborhood. Get over yourself, biglaw creep.

+1 it’s 90% a private school experience on the public dime. Shameful, not something to be proud of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We could have afforded it easily (Biglaw) but I place Trump supporters and (non religious) private school parents living in average or better public school districts in the same category: people whose values I don’t share and who I will have nothing to do with.

The feeling is mutual!! How about that. I have absolutely no respect for families who have wealth and instead of spending it on a good education, they choose multiple homes, trips, etc. We have a net worth of $12M plus $1M annual income, and we have only one home and basic cars. We spent $120K on education last year between my college and HS students. Money well spent and they are great kids with wonderful friends. Wouldn't have it any other way and glad they are away from families like yours!!

+1. I don’t get what the point of this money is, if not for their kids. Famous poster Retired Biglaw Partner loves to brag about how little money he spent on his kids’ education which is just bizarre to me. What on earth was it all for, if not for your kids?

Lol I didn’t know I was famous!

My kids went to top ranked public schools, UVA, and top ranked LACs on merit aid. They all have masters degrees, good and productive jobs, and nice spouses. I covered the house in the nice suburb where there schools were located, paid for college, paid for beautiful weddings, provided down payments for houses, have a vacation home that they enjoy immensely, and between my spouse and me in my early retirement have provided them with so much free and loving childcare that they literally have never had to spend a dime on it themselves.

Yes, you’re right - I didn’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years to keep them away from the great unwashed with a single-eyed drive to get them into an expensive named-brand college that impressed my friends and looked good on a bumper sticker. I knew enough all along to know that, in the end, it would amount to nothing.

If that’s your definition of not “doing it all for the kids,” then I’m guilty as charged. But I’m pretty confident I’d be acquitted if any of them were on your jury.

People like PP show that public school parents can be just as insufferable and out of touch as private school parents. This guy actually thinks his kids didn’t grow up (and continue to be coddled!) in a privileged bubble just because he sent them to public school in some (historically redlined no doubt) wealthy neighborhood. Get over yourself, biglaw creep.

+1 it’s 90% a private school experience on the public dime. Shameful, not something to be proud of.

Yep. If you really wanted your kid to be exposed to the real world, you wouldn’t support de facto redlining by buying into Potomac, Bethesda, etc.

These W schools are about as “real world” as the private schools. Delusional to think otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had this debate (fight) with DH and his parents for years. I prefer the W-school public experience for my privileged kids because DH went to well regarded privates and never learned how to relate to anyone other than UC/UMC people. It’s painful to watch and I don’t want that for my kids.

If you think your kids will be exposed to middle class or lower middle class kids in W schools, you’re delusional.

Why would you want that exposure? Why not be around wealthy high achievers? It will get your kid to think big--like be a CEO not a GS-13.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had this debate (fight) with DH and his parents for years. I prefer the W-school public experience for my privileged kids because DH went to well regarded privates and never learned how to relate to anyone other than UC/UMC people. It’s painful to watch and I don’t want that for my kids.

If you think your kids will be exposed to middle class or lower middle class kids in W schools, you’re delusional.

Why would you want that exposure? Why not be around wealthy high achievers? It will get your kid to think big--like be a CEO not a GS-13.

Understanding how the real world works? Empathy?

Bubbles aren't particularly healthy places to hang out.

[Anonymous]

I feel like Churchill and Whitman are the stand out of the W schools.