Not a Sidwell parent here, and Imma not gonna lie some of you do come across as both tone-deaf and entitled. But speaking as a parent who has now gone through two college admission cycles for two very different kids (one of whom went through DCPS -- and no, my kid was not less equipped for their Ivy than your Sidwell student -- and one of whom is finishing up at a different and smaller private high school in DC and just getting results back now), I can't overstate how helpful Naviance ways in trying to build a list of options. The idea that I wouldn't have been able to look at it except in scheduled meetings with counselors seems nutty to me. I guess I'm glad we couldn't afford Sidwell. |
This. Parent of a Sidwell alum who, despite having a very good chance of acceptance...and despite our pleas, flat out refused to apply to any Ivies. The thought of spending 4 more years with arrogant, entitled and self-absorbed classmates (or the like), was too much to digest. That being said...multiple acceptances from very good schools were received. DC chose a school in New England and is happy and thriving. |
Agree. |
I think TJ probably provides better and more rigorous education than SFS for free not only better top 20 college admissions. |
Hence the whining and complaining. Entitled parents produce entitled kids. |
But how would your DC know that the Ivies are full of arrogant, entitled, and self-absorbed classmates. That may have been the case in the past, but I don't think so anymore. There are more humble kids there now. |
I’m surprised that as an adult, you wouldn’t try and disabuse your kid of the notion that everyone at any school is the same and try to teach them not to stereotype, etc. I have had kids at Ivy and at a small New England college, and actually find the privilege significantly more apparent at the non-Ivy, probably due to the smaller school size. It is far more similar in that respect to our Big3 than the Ivy is. Also, practically no kid has a “very good chance” of acceptance to an Ivy, no matter how high stats they are. |
You understand that maybe a quarter of the readers of this forum live in Virginia, right? Not everyone has access to a TJ. |
No. It’s more like 50% northern Va, 35% md and 15 dc. |
Aren’t schools like Sidwell supposed to prepare kids to be successful in college? How is it that these kids, months from going to college, need someone to micromanage their college application process? “A college counselor that created a spreadsheet where items went from red to green as they were completed”—are you f**king kidding me? |
Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. |
I made the original comment re Naviance and I completely agree—it was hugely helpful for our older kids’ college searches. Our kids’ high school provided 3 years worth of data (each HS selects the filters they want to use) and several of the patterns were really illuminating. People sometimes claim that Naviance is unhelpful because it doesn’t show info about hooks, but that always seems strange to me. Even at our large public I knew which of the kids getting into top schools were URMs or recruited athletes and for some I knew their legacy status. It was easy to tell there were plenty of unhooked kids among the green dots, and we focused on schools with a lot of them in our kids’ stat range. My oldest applied to 10 schools, and I correctly predicted all 10 decisions mostly based on the Naviance data. I understand that the data is more useful the larger your school is, and I understand the fear of retaliation, but it’s just so unfair to handicap families like this. I think a lot of the complaints I’ve read here seem completely legit, and I’m sympathetic to the parents. |
I’ll take numbers pulled out of my . . . For a thousand, Alex. No one cares about TJ. |
Don’t be too jealous now. |
| Not “jealous” (though you mean envious). The is great (or was), it is just not part of this conversation. |