dating again -what are the rules of texting?

[Anonymous]

So there is a guy who sees me, we have a great time, he texts the next day, but then not agian for sevreal days.... He has introduced me to his mom, his kid, and a sibling, and to folks at work... I know this guy has been a player in the past, and we've been hanging out for a few weeks now, but I definitely am anxious about whether he's really into me, or just playing me..... How on earth do you tell the difference? Am I just needy to want to be texted every day? FWIW when I do text him, he texts back almost immediately.... this is my first time being single in a decade and I'm not sure what the norm is for texting.... Hell, there wasn't even texting around when I was single last!

[Anonymous]

Why don't use just talk on the phone? With a phone call, you can tell a lot more about how a person feels about you from how they act and the way they say it then from a text. Actually, in a text you wouldn't be able to tell anything non verbal. I met DH before the net, emails, texts, etc.

[Anonymous]

I'm fairly new back into the dating scene, too. My rule, which someone posted on one of these forums, is that unless you've dated for at least a few months you shouldn't assume anything, and unless you're agreed that you're dating exclusively, you aren't. Maybe a guy will weigh in, but I think when you're early into dating a guy isn't going to want to look too needy by texting every day. And you probably don't want to look too needy by always responding asap.

But I think it is kind of a red flag that this guy is introducing you to everyone in his life after only a few weeks of dating - does he have a history of short-lived relationships? Maybe he likes to come on strong, string you in, and then gets bored.

[Anonymous]

Do not text nude pictures.

[Anonymous]

What does he do for a living.
How old is he?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm fairly new back into the dating scene, too. My rule, which someone posted on one of these forums, is that unless you've dated for at least a few months you shouldn't assume anything, and unless you're agreed that you're dating exclusively, you aren't. Maybe a guy will weigh in, but I think when you're early into dating a guy isn't going to want to look too needy by texting every day. And you probably don't want to look too needy by always responding asap.

But I think it is kind of a red flag that this guy is introducing you to everyone in his life after only a few weeks of dating - does he have a history of short-lived relationships? Maybe he likes to come on strong, string you in, and then gets bored.

Eek. Agree with this PP. The introductions to friends and family, especially kids, are big red flags.

[Anonymous]

OP,
I agree the introductions after a few weeks are bizarre.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'd agree with the PP who suggests phone calls. Some of the men who are the most voratious texters are men that you wouldn't want to date, they are either screwing around on their wives, don't give a crap about you, or have other flaws. Texting is great for them because they can type whatever and it looks wonderful. They text because they can't actually say these words and have you believe it. And they text because it's quick and easy and the wife probably won't know. I'm not sure how I feel about pp's who say introducing to the family and friends is a red flag. Can somebody explain?

[Anonymous]

Introducing you super early to family, especially kids, is a red flag. Texting is pretty immature, how old is he? I have found that the guys who primarily text are usually more serious about someone else.