Why do obese women THINK that thin women care?

[Anonymous]

Why the paranoia?

[Anonymous]

Speaking as an obese woman. I don't think you care, and if you do, I don't care.

[Anonymous]

I honestly think there are posters who bash women over size 6 because they love to stir shit up. I think that's where these posts, and threads, and spin offs come from. Who knows what size (and sex) these people are in real life - they could be pear-shaped middle-aged men living in their mother's basement for all we know.

I can't imagine thin women as a group give a damn.

[Anonymous]

I think if you are obese you probalby have some pretty signinficant insecurities, so they might assume thin women judge them.

As a thin woman, I don't focus on other people's weight. I have a running partner who is overweight and we put in some pretty heavy mileage, so I know even though she is carrying on a few extra pounds she sure fit. I do know if she dropped 10-20lbs, she would probably be a much faster runner, but we just run for health, not to qualify for hte olympics.

[Anonymous]

For the most part, I don't feel like I'm being judged. I've been both fat and thin and think people are generally good and kind regardless. However, you hear about fat judgement a lot and read about it on these forums, so I am sure it exists. I'm not really self conscious about my weight though so I'm not looking for anyone's approval and maybe don't notice any judgement personally.

[Anonymous]

Probably because there's a lot of fat bashing on DCUM. But I would say there's also a lot of "skinny bitch" bashing, too. So we're all pretty much even on here!

[Anonymous]

I am almost obese. I don't think most thin women "care" what I weigh.

But. I am absolutely certain that a subset of control-freak status Barre Class thin women care. They shun me at the private school my DD attends in Ward 3 -- and have from the start of school. It cannot be for any other reason than my appearance, in case you're wondering (ie, our DHs do the same types of jobs, our HHI is the same, we live in the same area, I am nice and fun and personable, etc etc etc).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am almost obese. I don't think most thin women "care" what I weigh.

But. I am absolutely certain that a subset of control-freak status Barre Class thin women care. They shun me at the private school my DD attends in Ward 3 -- and have from the start of school. It cannot be for any other reason than my appearance, in case you're wondering (ie, our DHs do the same types of jobs, our HHI is the same, we live in the same area, I am nice and fun and personable, etc etc etc).

How sad that anyone is judging her own self-worth based on the kind of job her HUSBAND does. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am almost obese. I don't think most thin women "care" what I weigh.

But. I am absolutely certain that a subset of control-freak status Barre Class thin women care. They shun me at the private school my DD attends in Ward 3 -- and have from the start of school. It cannot be for any other reason than my appearance, in case you're wondering (ie, our DHs do the same types of jobs, our HHI is the same, we live in the same area, I am nice and fun and personable, etc etc etc).

Promise not to sneeze on them, so they won't catch the fatz, too. That's what I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am almost obese. I don't think most thin women "care" what I weigh.

But. I am absolutely certain that a subset of control-freak status Barre Class thin women care. They shun me at the private school my DD attends in Ward 3 -- and have from the start of school. It cannot be for any other reason than my appearance, in case you're wondering (ie, our DHs do the same types of jobs, our HHI is the same, we live in the same area, I am nice and fun and personable, etc etc etc).

How sad that anyone is judging her own self-worth based on the kind of job her HUSBAND does. Pathetic.

I think you are missing the point, lady.

Original PP, I'm with you - there is definitely a subset of super thin fit-crazed and food-obsessed women that will just pretend I'm not there because apparently I am so awful to look at. There is a woman at work who is friends with all of my work-friends but completely ignores me and is so rude to me - perhaps because everyone else is fit and thin and matches her ideals, and I am not? That's the only reason I can think of.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. I have friends of all sizes and now that I think about it, there is a group of women who do tend to bash women for their weight. In my experience, these gals tend to be between 20 and 30 pounds overweight and they are almost always dieting. They bash the women who are thinner than them for being "stick figures" and they bash the heavier women for allowing themselves to get so fat. But, I have always assumed that this kind of talk is just projection and insecurity. Any time one of my friends talks this way I just assume they are feeling bad about their own weight.

[Anonymous]

PP here - and I'm not even super fat, it's just that apparently I'm not a runner like everyone else!

[Anonymous]

As an obese woman who is now not obese...I will be honest and say that yes, I do notice obese women and while I wouldn't say "disgusted", I guess "put off" by them would be appropriate and I am don't think I am alone in my thinking even if no one wants to admit it...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you are obese you probalby have some pretty signinficant insecurities, so they might assume thin women judge them.

As a thin woman, I don't focus on other people's weight. I have a running partner who is overweight and we put in some pretty heavy mileage, so I know even though she is carrying on a few extra pounds she sure fit. I do know if she dropped 10-20lbs, she would probably be a much faster runner, but we just run for health, not to qualify for hte olympics.

Are you my running partner?

[Anonymous]

I'm a thin, active runner who works out daily. The only time I judge someone for their weight is when they complain about being fat but don't work out and they eat crap. Otherwise, I couldn't care less because it doesn't affect me. (Similarly, I will judge someone for picking bad men and then complaining about them, or for driving a giant hummer and complaining about the price of gas.)

What I do NOT want to see, though: someone wearing something very inappropriate for their size. If you are wearing a crop top and your flab is hanging over your waistband, I do not need to see that. I do not need to see way-too-tight spandex leggings in place of pants, with panty lines. ew.