So annoyed by MIL's comments
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Anonymous
| She's always telling me about how other women have to clean and take care of the family AND work. She makes it seem like I do nothing during the day and only have to do the chores working women do when they get home. I AM working during the day, I'm taking care of my children. She's always giving me "ideas" for jobs I can apply for, even though I have told her DH and I have decided I will be a SAHM until our youngest starts school. I dont know why she has so little respect for the job I have chosen to do! |
Anonymous
| Avoid contact as much as possible. |
Anonymous
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WOW. She is jealous that she didn't get to stay at home with her kids?
How is it any of her business what you do or don't do in your family? |
Anonymous
I have the saaammme issue. It's so obnoxious! I'm sorry u have to deal with it too
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Anonymous
| Tell her your hiring a full time, live-in nanny as well as a cook and a housekeeper...:O |
Anonymous
| tell her it makes you feel bad & move on. |
Anonymous
| I read these types of threads so I can remind myself how the little things my MIL does are not that bad and so I never become this kind of MIL. I'm sorry OP. Really sorry. |
Anonymous
| Fake a debilitating flu and tell her you need her help desperately while you recuperate. Kiss up, saying how you know she's so good with kids, keeping a clean house, etc. Hole yourself up in your room for 48 hours with a fully stocked DVR and some snacks. See if she still feels the same when its over. If she still does, who cares? You just got a break. |
Anonymous
| Just say isn't it nice that DH does so well we can choose to not have me work. It's too bad for the others that aren't as well off. Then change the subject. Yes, she should respect what you do, but she doesn't, so just end that line of conversation. |
Anonymous
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Sorry OP but I smell a troll. The SAHM-bashing threads always seem to pop up in the early-to-late afternoon.
- Working Dad |
Anonymous
You've said this before, about the late afternoon, and I have yet to see evidence to support your theory. Some MILs urge you to quit or not have more children until you do. Some urge you to go back to work. Is that really so hard to believe? - Not the OP |
Anonymous
Working dad, you are great!! thanks for sticking up for us!
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Anonymous
Confused, for whom is he sticking up? OP isn't bashing WOHMs or SAHMs in the least. |
Anonymous
| OP, I'm sorry you have to deal with her. When I hear cases like this, it makes me think that the comments are coming from a place of insecurity or resentment, and may not even have to do with you at all. The best thing you can do is let them roll off your back and ignore them. Nothing good can come from engaging this sort of behavior. Maybe she is just provoking you to respond. Times were very different in previous generations, so it's like comparing apples to oranges. You know this, and deep down, she does too. |
Anonymous
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Just repeat a mantra in response to all her comments.
"I'll be working in five years." "Yes, I'll have to see if someone else can do the housework when I'm working in five years." "Interesting. We may have to hire a part time nanny when I'm working in five years." "Oh, I wonder if a similar position will be available when I return to work in five years." |