Boot camp/disciplinary programs for teenage girl

[Anonymous]

Hi = I'm writing on behalf of a friend who has a 16year old daughter she is having problems with - I don't know all the details but it involves an older boy, girl running away from home, etc. They are looking for some sort of program to help them because they are at a loss. Does anyone have recommendations on resources in the area for something like this? The family lives in Silver Spring but I imagine would travel as needed. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Maybe not exactly what you are looking for, but the Montgomery County Police have a Police Explorer program for kids in 8th grade or older. They have to have a 2.0 GPA and no police record. The program emphasizes character, discipline, honesty, leadership, and other critical life skills. The kids I know who have done it have a great sense of belonging and accomplishment, and those things might be very attractive to her if she's in a bad place right now. They learn about law enforcement as a career choice, but it's not the only thing they do.


http://www.mcpexplorers.org/index.html

[Anonymous]

At 16, the kid has to consent to go and agree to follow rules. It won't happen. BTDT. There are few if any resources for kids at this point unless the kid assaults the parents, etc. and it will just build more resentment.

[Anonymous]

I have heard of a boarding school in North Carolina for girls getting in trouble. A family I know sent their daughter there and she came home and finished high school a more mature, together kid. I'm sorry I don't know the name of the school.

[Anonymous]

The school counselor should be able to help.

There are out patient programs in the hospitals. I know 2 kids who went to the one at Shady Grove.

When we were young my friends got shipped off to outward bound. But that is expensive.

[Anonymous]

http://www.teenhelponline.com/boot-camps/index.php?q=virginia

http://www.wingatewildernesstherapy.com/therapeutic-boarding-schools-troubled-teens-virginia-boys-a-girls

http://www.abundantlifeacademy.com/boot-camps/boot-camps-troubled-teens-virginia.html

there are a lot of options. Google "Camp for troubled teen girls virginia" or maryland. no recommendations from experience. good luck

[Anonymous]

My Mom sent me to boarding school. It was a 1000 acre campus in the middle of nowhere in Canada. We lived in huts (even in the snow) on the weekends and had to chop our own wood and make fires and cook our own food. If we didn't chop wood in the fall, then we had no wood for the winter. We did tons of sports and it changed my life. I went to the school with an attitude and failing everything, graduated with honors and got a scholarship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 16, the kid has to consent to go and agree to follow rules. It won't happen. BTDT. There are few if any resources for kids at this point unless the kid assaults the parents, etc. and it will just build more resentment.

I do not think this is accurate, but it may be different in different states. My 17 year old nephew is currently attending a therapeutic boarding school - this is not something he agreed to or was in favor of doing initially. Six months into the program I don't think he'd leave if he could. The structure and support for the entire family is making a huge difference.

It was a very difficult decision for the family and is very expensive, but it is making a positive impact for a teen that was headed in the completely wrong direction. At this point (6 months into the program) I think it is harder on my sister than my nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe not exactly what you are looking for, but the Montgomery County Police have a Police Explorer program for kids in 8th grade or older. They have to have a 2.0 GPA and no police record. The program emphasizes character, discipline, honesty, leadership, and other critical life skills. The kids I know who have done it have a great sense of belonging and accomplishment, and those things might be very attractive to her if she's in a bad place right now. They learn about law enforcement as a career choice, but it's not the only thing they do.


http://www.mcpexplorers.org/index.html

Pathetic that her parents didn't care enough about her that they were incapable of o
instilling honor, chatacter, integrity in their daughter and at age 16, it is too late.

[Anonymous]

a good resource here:

http://www.troubledteenblog.com/category/adolescent-residential-treatment-centers/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe not exactly what you are looking for, but the Montgomery County Police have a Police Explorer program for kids in 8th grade or older. They have to have a 2.0 GPA and no police record. The program emphasizes character, discipline, honesty, leadership, and other critical life skills. The kids I know who have done it have a great sense of belonging and accomplishment, and those things might be very attractive to her if she's in a bad place right now. They learn about law enforcement as a career choice, but it's not the only thing they do.


http://www.mcpexplorers.org/index.html

Pathetic that her parents didn't care enough about her that they were incapable of o
instilling honor, chatacter, integrity in their daughter and at age 16, it is too late.

Pathetic that you would judge another set of parents when you have absolutely no idea what is going. You have no idea if that child has had to deal with unavoidable challenges (health issues within the family, mental health issues within the family, health or mental health issues herself, undiagnosed ADHD). Pathetic that you are so arrogant about your own children that you are "incapable" of empathy or generosity of spirit -- all you can is feel superior.

I have seen loving, wonderful parents deal with children with eating disorders, children with addiction problems, children with mental health issues. LOVING parents, attentive parents. And I see it in this situation -- parents who are concerned about their teen and are looking for ways to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe not exactly what you are looking for, but the Montgomery County Police have a Police Explorer program for kids in 8th grade or older. They have to have a 2.0 GPA and no police record. The program emphasizes character, discipline, honesty, leadership, and other critical life skills. The kids I know who have done it have a great sense of belonging and accomplishment, and those things might be very attractive to her if she's in a bad place right now. They learn about law enforcement as a career choice, but it's not the only thing they do.


http://www.mcpexplorers.org/index.html

Pathetic that her parents didn't care enough about her that they were incapable of o
instilling honor, chatacter, integrity in their daughter and at age 16, it is too late.

Pathetic that you would judge another set of parents when you have absolutely no idea what is going. You have no idea if that child has had to deal with unavoidable challenges (health issues within the family, mental health issues within the family, health or mental health issues herself, undiagnosed ADHD). Pathetic that you are so arrogant about your own children that you are "incapable" of empathy or generosity of spirit -- all you can is feel superior.

I have seen loving, wonderful parents deal with children with eating disorders, children with addiction problems, children with mental health issues. LOVING parents, attentive parents. And I see it in this situation -- parents who are concerned about their teen and are looking for ways to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe not exactly what you are looking for, but the Montgomery County Police have a Police Explorer program for kids in 8th grade or older. They have to have a 2.0 GPA and no police record. The program emphasizes character, discipline, honesty, leadership, and other critical life skills. The kids I know who have done it have a great sense of belonging and accomplishment, and those things might be very attractive to her if she's in a bad place right now. They learn about law enforcement as a career choice, but it's not the only thing they do.


http://www.mcpexplorers.org/index.html

Pathetic that her parents didn't care enough about her that they were incapable of o
instilling honor, chatacter, integrity in their daughter and at age 16, it is too late.

No, it's not. Kids don't finish growing up until they are 25 or so. They can become anyone or anything. I've known some really fucked up young people who became great adults.

It wasn't a boarding school or the parents, though. The kids decided what they wanted.

Some friends of my husband sent their son to a boot camp. It didn't help. I would look for something that gives her both more freedom and more responsibility. A job or early college entrance or something similar.

And get that kid a Depo shot, before she ends up pregnant.