Would you host a sleepover 2 days before leaving for vacation?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are so many of you so easily overwhelmed? They come over in early evening and leave in the morning. They are 13 years old!

I’d hate to see you in a crisis.

This website seems full of people like my mom. Their anxiety and control issues make it so they literally cannot act normally about things. Everything is at least twice as difficult. No surprise, she's absolutely awful in a crisis. Her over reaction and stress ends up adding to the crisis vs helping.

NP: I’m pretty relaxed, but I hate hosting sleepovers. Our house just is not setup well for it- all the bedrooms are in the same hall, and we don’t have a big rec room like some. Either they sleep in the bedroom and I am kept awake from the noise, or they are camped out in the family room which is right off the kitchen. Which would be even more annoying than usual, when packing and cleaning for a trip.

I still let my kids have sleepovers sometimes, but I find it is an imposition.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people make going on vacation into some big ordeal. You are leaving your house and going somewhere for a short period of time not moving to a remote island where you will be isolated from the world for months at a time.

Preach
Why is this so hard for people? How have they raised a human to 13 without learning the simple art of packing and preparing their house?

[Anonymous]

I would. It’s an easy way to repay the hospitality, but agree you can also host without a sleepover.

You’d feel silly later in life for worrying about your vacation checklist vs. fostering good friendships for your kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“Host”? Order a pizza and let the kids be. Theyre not 5 or 8, they’re teens.

OP here. I understand this, I’m just worried they will expect to be shuttled to/from the pool, or Target, or a restaurant, etc.

Tell your daughter what you're capable of offering and ask if that vision matches hers for a sleepover, or if she'd rather have the sleepover later in the summer when you're more available.

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

I would let them. At 13 you don’t need to be super involved.

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a hard no for me.

Same here. But we have a small old house where sound easily travels so if they are up all night all of us would hear it. Even with normal talking or baking in the night.

I don’t want to be extra sleep deprived right before vacation because of this.

Why would they be up all night?! You’re the adult! Just tell them at whatever time, they need to lay down and go to bed. You are in control, not the 13 year olds.

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I would allow this. Remind your sweet child that she will need to help clean up after the sleepover.

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For a lot of people, travel is a big deal. Vacations are a once-a-year thing and big investment. I can understand wanting to protect the time you set aside to prepare, especially if you work full time. It’s reasonable to not want other kids sleeping (or not sleeping) at your house right before a vacation. That doesn’t make you a weak parent, just someone with boundaries.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people make going on vacation into some big ordeal. You are leaving your house and going somewhere for a short period of time not moving to a remote island where you will be isolated from the world for months at a time.

Preach
Why is this so hard for people? How have they raised a human to 13 without learning the simple art of packing and preparing their house?

[Anonymous]

If I could trust all the kids to keep a reasonable bed time, yes. If not, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would be a hard no for me.

Same here. But we have a small old house where sound easily travels so if they are up all night all of us would hear it. Even with normal talking or baking in the night.

I don’t want to be extra sleep deprived right before vacation because of this.

Why would they be up all night?! You’re the adult! Just tell them at whatever time, they need to lay down and go to bed. You are in control, not the 13 year olds.

I agree—all this talk of “they may be expecting rides” makes me think mom has no control right now

[Anonymous]

Yes but my kids know how to pack for trips and I'm a pretty chill parent.

[Anonymous]

Where would they be hanging out? If they're in the basement, or a off to the side family room, or your kid's bedroom--then I'd say yes if they are happy watching a movie/hanging out at home and being quiet by your bedtime. It might even give you more time to yourself to do whatever you need to get done.

In the morning, your daughter helps clean up the room where they slept and helps you with vacation prep.

If they need to be where you need to be organizing/packing--then say no. If you were working this week, I'd also get it, but with a whole week off to prep, one night shouldn't be a big deal.

[Anonymous]

If you don't feel you can handle it now say "no". its not fair to your daughter to resentfully say yes. but to be honest, not sure how girls sleeping at your house 2 days before you leave is an issue, but only you know how that will impact your weekly routine.

[Anonymous]

I hate sleepovers and would automatically say no