Would you leave your kid home alone in this situation

[Anonymous]

I would tell her that the fighting is a sign that she doesn't have the self control and maturity to be trusted. If she can fix that consistently, and help make the mornings and afternoons run smoothly for the rest of this school year she can ask you again about the fall. But if she continues to fight or whine, the answer will continue to be no.

I don't negotiate with small terrorists. Her fighting you shouldn't lead to her getting what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not. Think of what could happen and how you would defend yourself in court having left her alone at home. I also would not put up with a fight about it. Adults make the rules and children follow them.

While I think you're right about not putting up with the daily fight - parenting in a "think of what could happen" mindset, endlessly, is a recipe for raising anxious and depressed kids who don't know how to move about in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:for those of you saying no- do you let them play outside by themselves?

Only in our backyard with lots of check ins. Too many bad things happen and it's not worth the risk. These kids have two parents and parents need to change up the schedule and work together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not. Think of what could happen and how you would defend yourself in court having left her alone at home. I also would not put up with a fight about it. Adults make the rules and children follow them.

While I think you're right about not putting up with the daily fight - parenting in a "think of what could happen" mindset, endlessly, is a recipe for raising anxious and depressed kids who don't know how to move about in the world.

Kids are not anxious and depressed as their parents supervise them. Be real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally fine in my opinion.

Something we did with my kids was run through what to do in bad scenarios. That had to show me where the fire extinguisher and fire blankets were. They knew not to answer the door. And they knew not to microwave metal or microwave at all while I was out.

You expect an 8 year old to put out a fire? No

[Anonymous]

Look up the Let Grow movement by Lenore Skenazy.

[Anonymous]

Crazy idiots no way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not. Think of what could happen and how you would defend yourself in court having left her alone at home. I also would not put up with a fight about it. Adults make the rules and children follow them.

Were you alive in the 70's and 80's? My mom left for work at 8am, when I was in 2nd grade. 6.5 and 7. I left for school at 9am after locking the front door. Never a problem. Sometimes I came home from school and she'd have gone for coffee with a friend and I'd be home alone having snack while watching cartoons, blasting music while dancing around the living room. If you treat kids like they're incapable, they will believe they're incapable and act accordingly.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. 8 year olds (neurotypical with atleast an average IQ) are perfectly capable of staying home alone for an hour or two, let alone 15 minutes. My stepdaughter wasn’t the most mature 8 year old, but she handled an hour before school and an hour after school at that age.

Totally agree. I have a child with profound intellectual disability. If some gene therapy comes along that allows her to function like a neurotypical 8 year old, she would live on her own with some light supervision, take a bus and have a job. Nothing has been as enlightening as to the infantilization of typical children as having a child who literally cannot grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not. Think of what could happen and how you would defend yourself in court having left her alone at home. I also would not put up with a fight about it. Adults make the rules and children follow them.

I would pull the statistics that show she is more likely to be hurt in a car wreck if I took her with me than the house suddenly catching on fire or an intruder break in. I don’t parent based on totally ridiculous inabilities to assess risk.

[Anonymous]

No stove/oven/toaster, no shower/bath. No playing outside. If she’s getting herself dressed and brushing her hair and teeth, then I’d do it. I’d make sure she knows about 911 and I’d let the dad know. Go over scenarios like if there’s a fire or a stranger knocking. Ask her not to tell anyone outside the family like her friends at school.

Let her keep a phone near her so you can reach her if, say, you get a flat tire and are going to be delayed. It’ll also give her the comfort that she can reach you if she needs to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally fine in my opinion.

Something we did with my kids was run through what to do in bad scenarios. That had to show me where the fire extinguisher and fire blankets were. They knew not to answer the door. And they knew not to microwave metal or microwave at all while I was out.

These are the conversations I had with my kids as well. And 8 was around when I started leaving my older one at home for short periods of time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:for those of you saying no- do you let them play outside by themselves?

Only in our backyard with lots of check ins. Too many bad things happen and it's not worth the risk. These kids have two parents and parents need to change up the schedule and work together.

Your 8 yr old is only allowed to play outside on their own in their own backyard with lots of checkins? JFC that generation is effed.

[Anonymous]

Why is this even a question? Why wouldn’t you do this?

[Anonymous]

Yes