Would you just email a remote manager to give notice?

[Anonymous]

I had a dreadful boss. I felt sick every time we came face to face over Zoom. When I quit I really wanted to do it by email because I didn’t want to A) risk her negative reaction or B) be persuaded to stay. DH and everyone I spoke to told me it would be more professional to tell her in a meeting. It didn’t go as badly as I feared. She was actually nice for once and just asked for honest feedback (which I didn’t give because I didn’t want to burn bridges). I’d say just schedule the Zoom.

[Anonymous]

Call then send email.

[Anonymous]

Act like an adult professional. Do it in person first and send a written resignation letter/email.

[Anonymous]

You guys must be old.
Email is plenty and I’d avoid a meeting over zoom or in person (which is ridiculous if 2000 miles away). Nothing that’s said will be recorded and that’s just bad judgment.
Email.

[Anonymous]

BTW if they are toxic will mark you as URA if you dont quit gracefully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BTW if they are toxic will mark you as URA if you dont quit gracefully.

If they're toxic enough, they'll label you "unregretted attrition" no matter how graceful you are. (And would you really want to be rehired to a place that's been so terrible for you?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys must be old.
Email is plenty and I’d avoid a meeting over zoom or in person (which is ridiculous if 2000 miles away). Nothing that’s said will be recorded and that’s just bad judgment.
Email.

SMH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do realize you’ll need to connect with your boss during the last two weeks to transition your work, right? You can’t avoid that. Most bosses would schedule multiple calls to cover that.

If you are valued at all, most bosses will ask you (not in writing, but by zoom) where you are going and if there’s anything that would prompt you to reconsider (again, noting they’ll only ask if you are truly valued…). If you are essentially ignored over the next two weeks, your takeaway should be they are not upset that you are leaving.

You don't have to answer any of those questions and don't have to tell them where you are going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Universally disliked boss is 2,000 miles away. Just the thought of being on a Zoom call and giving two weeks notice is enough to bring major anxiety. I just want to get out of a toxic, mind game environment and never think of the place again (two year tenure). Do I just send an email resigning and if he calls, he calls? I can already get references from the boss who hired me there.

Oh come on. Grow up. It’s one bad call. You can deal with it. Tell him you have something urgent to discuss, do it over zoom, and then follow up with an email to him and HR.

Of course it’s anxiety producing and unpleasant, but that’s life sometimes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Universally disliked boss is 2,000 miles away. Just the thought of being on a Zoom call and giving two weeks notice is enough to bring major anxiety. I just want to get out of a toxic, mind game environment and never think of the place again (two year tenure). Do I just send an email resigning and if he calls, he calls? I can already get references from the boss who hired me there.

Oh come on. Grow up. It’s one bad call. You can deal with it. Tell him you have something urgent to discuss, do it over zoom, and then follow up with an email to him and HR.

Of course it’s anxiety producing and unpleasant, but that’s life sometimes!

This.

Email: Good morning. Please let me know when you have 15-20 mins today to connect. My schedule is flexible and I’m available to meet at your convenience.

Phone call/Teams or Zoom: Thank you for finding time to connect. I wanted to tell you that I’ve accepted a new job and my last day will be X. The opportunity was too good to pass up and this all happened very quickly, but I wanted to give you notice immediately. Of course I’ll do my part to tie up loose ends and provide a warm handoff to you and the team. I will send an email to you and HR immediately after our call ends. And I want to thank you for your leadership over the years; it’s been a pleasure working for you and the company.

That’s all it really takes. I’ve scripted it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTW if they are toxic will mark you as URA if you dont quit gracefully.

If they're toxic enough, they'll label you "unregretted attrition" no matter how graceful you are. (And would you really want to be rehired to a place that's been so terrible for you?)

I got the URA at one place and in Hireright was a issue two jobs later. So it is not going back there it is in background searchs they ask if eligible to rehire and they answered.

In my case I had to explain, but it was because if laid off with severance they code everyone URA. Would look bad to be handing out large severance checks then hiring back same people at a later point. So HR just hits URA box during off boarding process.

[Anonymous]

I did. They ignored my message for five days. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do realize you’ll need to connect with your boss during the last two weeks to transition your work, right? You can’t avoid that. Most bosses would schedule multiple calls to cover that.

If you are valued at all, most bosses will ask you (not in writing, but by zoom) where you are going and if there’s anything that would prompt you to reconsider (again, noting they’ll only ask if you are truly valued…). If you are essentially ignored over the next two weeks, your takeaway should be they are not upset that you are leaving.

You don't have to answer any of those questions and don't have to tell them where you are going.

Right. Nobody said you must tell them where you are going. Rather, the pp flagged likely questions so the anxiety-prone OP would be prepared.

Personally, I think it’s really weird when the person leaving says “I’d prefer not to say” or “I’m not sharing that info.” I think it makes you look paranoid. A better answer might be, “I was asked not to go public with the information.”