48 hours to accept offer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Crazy for you to think the kid isn’t training as much as yours. It could be a position thing.

I don’t know whether your kids trains as much is no more. I don’t judge a family for how they want to make decisions. You did calling it selfish.

Just start calling yourself Karen.

This doesn’t even make sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Nobody’s saying families shouldn’t take time to make a decision they worked hard for. That’s fair. Big choices deserve real thought.

But there’s also a human side to this. When a club is waiting on an answer, there’s usually another kid and another family waiting too. Not just for “a spot,” but for clarity. For planning. For peace of mind. For knowing where they stand.

It’s not about rushing anyone. It’s about remembering that these decisions ripple out. Just like you want space to think about what’s best for your child, someone else is hoping for a timely answer so they can do what’s best for theirs.

Empathy goes both directions. Taking time is reasonable. Being mindful that others are affected is reasonable too.

At the end of the day, we’re all just parents trying to do right by our kids. A little consideration for each other doesn’t cost much, and it goes a long way. It's also possible the reason your kid got the offer first is a small one and the club doesn't want to risk losing their backup option, hence the 24 or 48 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Nobody’s saying families shouldn’t take time to make a decision they worked hard for. That’s fair. Big choices deserve real thought.

But there’s also a human side to this. When a club is waiting on an answer, there’s usually another kid and another family waiting too. Not just for “a spot,” but for clarity. For planning. For peace of mind. For knowing where they stand.

It’s not about rushing anyone. It’s about remembering that these decisions ripple out. Just like you want space to think about what’s best for your child, someone else is hoping for a timely answer so they can do what’s best for theirs.

Empathy goes both directions. Taking time is reasonable. Being mindful that others are affected is reasonable too.

At the end of the day, we’re all just parents trying to do right by our kids. A little consideration for each other doesn’t cost much, and it goes a long way. It's also possible the reason your kid got the offer first is a small one and the club doesn't want to risk losing their backup option, hence the 24 or 48 hours.

💯

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

Always disliked lecturing teachers, guess I still do. Go talk down to your students instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

Always disliked lecturing teachers, guess I still do. Go talk down to your students instead.

Always disliked entitled, selfish students who think the word revolves around them. Go brag on Instagram instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Crazy for you to think the kid isn’t training as much as yours. It could be a position thing.

I don’t know whether your kids trains as much is no more. I don’t judge a family for how they want to make decisions. You did calling it selfish.

Just start calling yourself Karen.

This doesn’t even make sense

PP said himself he never liked lecturing teachers. Maybe if he paid more attention in school he wouldn’t sound so dumb when he writes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

In our first year of tryouts last year, we were prepared for B or C team to be with a certain club. If you had that level of humility, you would accept whatever offer you received from your ideal club and what another family is doing would not impact you and this would not be a discussion. This is academically worded hypocrisy and a level of entitlement that frustrates middle America so much they did what they did last November.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

In our first year of tryouts last year, we were prepared for B or C team to be with a certain club. If you had that level of humility, you would accept whatever offer you received from your ideal club and what another family is doing would not impact you and this would not be a discussion. This is academically worded hypocrisy and a level of entitlement that frustrates middle America so much they did what they did last November.

What on earth are you talking about right now? Your reasoning skills are very poor. Try again, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

You’re serious, aren’t you?

Remarkable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

In our first year of tryouts last year, we were prepared for B or C team to be with a certain club. If you had that level of humility, you would accept whatever offer you received from your ideal club and what another family is doing would not impact you and this would not be a discussion. This is academically worded hypocrisy and a level of entitlement that frustrates middle America so much they did what they did last November.

What on earth are you talking about right now? Your reasoning skills are very poor. Try again, please.

‘
Oh honey, that’s the best you can do?

You must be in elementary academia. We still appreciate your contribution to society. 🏅

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

You’re serious, aren’t you?

Remarkable.

Why aren’t you mad at the club? You are mad at a choice. We are empowered. That’s almost un-American to be against that.

If we say we’re waiting and they club bails, cool. I have no issues. ✌️

How does my impact the rest of the “community?”

Do you folks really hear yourselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

In our first year of tryouts last year, we were prepared for B or C team to be with a certain club. If you had that level of humility, you would accept whatever offer you received from your ideal club and what another family is doing would not impact you and this would not be a discussion. This is academically worded hypocrisy and a level of entitlement that frustrates middle America so much they did what they did last November.

What on earth are you talking about right now? Your reasoning skills are very poor. Try again, please.

‘
Oh honey, that’s the best you can do?

You must be in elementary academia. We still appreciate your contribution to society. 🏅

Are you referring to elementary education? You sound quite ignorant saying "elementary academia", as this is not a thing that exists. I am in STEM, but I have great respect for people who work with young kids all day. They have far more patience than I do. Sounds like you look your nose down on them, which tracks with the odious personality that is shining through in your posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

You’re serious, aren’t you?

Remarkable.

Look at all the times he is saying "we" in his posts. Like he is out there kicking the ball too. Are "we" going to get a pro contract too? I know, you think it's your glory to bask in because you drive your kid to trainings and schmooze it up with trainers and coaches. Such hard work and sacrifice! Embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

In our first year of tryouts last year, we were prepared for B or C team to be with a certain club. If you had that level of humility, you would accept whatever offer you received from your ideal club and what another family is doing would not impact you and this would not be a discussion. This is academically worded hypocrisy and a level of entitlement that frustrates middle America so much they did what they did last November.

Sounds like you two are saying the same exact thing, except you decided to attack someone because they are an academic - weird.