"School isn't something that you do every day...
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Anonymous
Because too many parents are incompetent so we need a public welfare offering to prevent their offspring from going feral. |
Anonymous
I love how folks are like "respect educators as professionals" and "don't tell us how to do our job" and also "you need to do our job for us, why didn't you know that" |
Anonymous
Oh dear lord. If your routine is this fragile. You can just print out some worksheets from the internet. |
Anonymous
Creating a routine for HW is 100% the parent’s job. |
Anonymous
And assigning the homework is the teacher's job. I don't know if you have met any 6 year olds but they can tell when the "assignment" is coming from the parent. |
Anonymous
If you raised a kid who doesn’t listen to their parent the way they listen to the teacher that is on you. |
Anonymous
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"Oh f off Rebecca he did not say that"
IYKYK |
Anonymous
That statement hits on a real frustration many parents feel — but it’s a bit more complex than “that’s on you.” Kids often listen differently to teachers and parents for several psychological reasons: ### 1. Different environments, different roles School is structured. Expectations are clear, consistent, and less emotional. At home, the relationship is deeper and more emotionally layered. Kids feel safest with parents — which ironically makes them more likely to test boundaries there. ### 2. Authority vs. attachment A teacher represents formal authority. A parent represents attachment. Children push limits most where they feel secure. That doesn’t automatically mean poor parenting. ### 3. Social dynamics At school, there’s peer influence, classroom norms, and visible consequences. At home, enforcement is often less immediate or less structured. ### 4. Novelty and external validation Kids may try harder to please teachers because they want approval outside the family. Parental approval can sometimes feel “guaranteed,” so they don’t work as hard for it. --- That said, consistency, boundaries, and follow-through at home absolutely matter. If a child: * ignores instructions repeatedly, * faces no consistent consequences, * or sees rules constantly bend, then yes — that’s a parenting dynamic that can be improved. But a child behaving better for a teacher than a parent is **extremely common and developmentally normal**, especially in elementary and middle school years. A more balanced version of that statement might be: > “If your child respects their teacher but not you, it might be worth looking at how authority, consistency, and boundaries are handled at home.” If you want, I can also break down practical strategies to close that gap without becoming overly strict. |
Anonymous
A kid who behaves better in school than at home is a common thing. School is very different from home. It's more structured. It's got peer pressure. But the parent I quoted was talking about their kid doing worksheets at home that come from a teacher, and not those that come from a parent. That's a different thing. Also, the child in question is six. So, saying "this is normal in middle school", which I'd agree with, doesn't apply. |
Anonymous
I sub. I had a student say something similar to me. |
Anonymous
I don't know what to tell you. Yes, my six year old is not going to do random worksheets assigned by me on the fly. Not without a huge fight. Frankly, getting six year olds to do homework that is assigned by the teacher is not easy. That is why the teacher has made clear it is completely optional to do. Getting out of the homework routine at this age is not at all the end of the world, as I said, but the teacher does assign it for a reason so we make an effort. Buy she was clear that she didn't want it to cause strife at home, which is not uncommon at this age. Maybe your six year old is different than most six year olds, or maybe you haven't interacted with any six year olds recently or at all. |
Anonymous
+1 This child has never experienced a weekend before? |
Anonymous
I think it's kind of bizarre and self defeating how frequently teachers insist on how unimportant school is to justify not having to do their jobs. If school is not important wtf do you think you are getting paid for? |
Anonymous
School has to happen every day to be important? There are entire districts that go only 4 days a week. |
Anonymous
Is that what you think MCPS should do? |