Newly single mom—what do your evenings look like?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I meant on days my kids are with their dad!

You should say divorced co-parent for clarity. Single moms are not co-parenting; it is all on them 24-7-365.

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Sorry for you loss, OP. When did your spouse pass?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry for you loss, OP. When did your spouse pass?

OP here. I meant no disrespect. It appears my terminology was incorrect. I didn’t know. I’m a divorced mom, yes.

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I’m a single mom who had my kid 24/7. I yearned for free time. I finally got it after 18 years and I immediately joined a gym. I go a few times each week.

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Anonymous wrote:I work out, go into the guest house to call my friends or meet them for a little wine down, read, prep for the next day

The guest house? Is it the one your housekeeper cleaned after your chef made dinner?

haha. This thread is so hysterical. OP would probably get better responses asking rich childless women what they do with their evenings rather than "single moms". Because let's be real most single moms have their kids most of the time and aren't suffering from having too much free time haha.

right... real single mom dont have problems filling in their evenings or few moments of time they have to themselves.

Wow! I certainly didn’t expect to be shamed in this space. It’s not that I “can’t” fill my evenings, it’s just that for the first time in decades, I’m alone, and I don’t know what to do with myself.

Most actual single moms aren’t suffering for an over abundance of free time. Sounds like you’re a divorced mom with 50/50. Good for you! But your posts are rather tone dead. I still maintain you would get better advice from a forum for rich single ladies. And go cry me a river somewhere while you’re at it!

I have my kids 70% of the time, but I don’t see what this has to do with my house feeling quiet in the evenings 30% of the time, and me feeling that quietness. What do you gain from being rude? And what’s this “REAL” nonsense?
I can assure you I am a single mom, just like you.

I guess I have trouble picturing not having things to fill my time with because all the kid and house stuff falls on me. So in my very limited free time it’s always a toss up between running around cleaning and doing household stuff like cooking, pursuing hobbies, seeing friends or just going to bed early to try to replenish some of my energy.

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Anonymous wrote:I work out, go into the guest house to call my friends or meet them for a little wine down, read, prep for the next day

The guest house? Is it the one your housekeeper cleaned after your chef made dinner?

haha. This thread is so hysterical. OP would probably get better responses asking rich childless women what they do with their evenings rather than "single moms". Because let's be real most single moms have their kids most of the time and aren't suffering from having too much free time haha.

right... real single mom dont have problems filling in their evenings or few moments of time they have to themselves.

Wow! I certainly didn’t expect to be shamed in this space. It’s not that I “can’t” fill my evenings, it’s just that for the first time in decades, I’m alone, and I don’t know what to do with myself.

Is there an activity you have put on hold for a while? Is there some into you would like to learn? I would start small and find something to do one night a week or a month. Pottery? Book club? Wood working? Crocheting? Learning to cook something new? Line dancing? Having dinner with a friend? On weekends- hiking?

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I love TV (this winter is killing me) but reading, journal, call friends

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Anonymous wrote:I work out, go into the guest house to call my friends or meet them for a little wine down, read, prep for the next day

Of COURSE, OP. Just go out to your guest house. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I meant on days my kids are with their dad!

It was confusing because you talked about getting a babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I meant on days my kids are with their dad!

It was confusing because you talked about getting a babysitter.

…..no she didn’t.