From welcoming to hostile — what explains this shift?

[Anonymous]

Yeah he’s into you and is also wildly insecure, so he’s overcorrecting and acting like an a$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just weirdos. Avoid them.

Bro, everybody has their brand of weirdness. OP asking the anonymous mommy board to "explain" the actions of a stranger based solely on her description of events that may or may not have even happened is pretty dang weird, when you think about it. If you want to know more about why someone's doing what they're doing, ask them.

Embrace the weird. Let people be weird. If you like their brand of weird, get closer. If you don't, move away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It definitely, definitely has something to do with him having a crush on you.

Years ago there was a renowned professional in my home town that just treated me like garbage. Rolled his eyes at me, ignored me, avoided me etc every time we were in the same place. After I moved to DC I heard from a mutual friend that he’d said, Oh Larla will get snatched up in a second in DC, she’s absolutely stunning. That’s when it all made sense.

+1. When I lived in New York there was a guy I ran into in my larger friend group who was always bizarrely hostile to me - never spoke to me but would stand nearby when I was talking to someone else and interject rude commentary in response to my statements, roll his eyes when anyone paid me a compliment, cold shoulder me if I said hi to a group of people he was a part of.

At my "going away" party he got drunk and told me he always wished he had the courage to ask me out and I 'looked like an angel sitting im the light' the first time he ever saw me. TF?! By then I actively despised him but if he had just been normal I wouldn't have rejected him out of hand or anything. But he built it up in his head that I was some heartless jilt and took that narrative out on me for years.

OP just avoid this guy. Either it's about you, in which case it's all projection, or it's not about you, in which case he's a socially inept person and you're collateral damage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has a crush on you and his wife noticed and is pissed about it.

His wife isn’t in the group. He’s not even married, he’s a divorced single dad.

He's interest in you and you're not interested in him. So now you're not worth his energy. Which is rude, by the way, I have plenty of male friends who don't pay attention to me because they want to sleep with me (I'm married, and so are most of them).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He learned something about you in the meantime. Any common people?

This. Are you friends with him on social media? Maybe you posted something abhorrent to him and now he doesn't like you anymore.

[Anonymous]

He has a crush on you but has some unresolved issues that make him act weird and self-sabotage. You’re curious about him, which makes me think you are attracted to him as well. If you’re single and interested in him, I would try and break the ice with him again. Let us know what happens!

[Anonymous]

Is he attractive?

[Anonymous]

You park in his spot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You park in his spot

This. I freaking hate it when people park in my spot. HATE it. Jesus Christ, find your own spot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You park in his spot

This. I freaking hate it when people park in my spot. HATE it. Jesus Christ, find your own spot.

Oh, I thought this was a euphemism for something sexual.

[Anonymous]

MAGA

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna do a 180 from him liking you and think it's about the actual sport. Some men think they "own" the sport and are the nice mansplainers to teach you the sport. Is that him?

And then you showed that you either know more than him, play better than him, or have a pro or outside lessons?

If he went in thinking he'd be your white knight but you're actually scrappy and bonding with other mentors, that could be it.

[Anonymous]

Unsettling.
Happened to me once, different setting.
A$$hole thought I was someone he’d tangled with before.
Never met him before. Eventually this was clarified by accident. Allowed me to stay in the group, but didn’t change him from being the a$$ he was.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for “he looked at you up, and found something he did not like”- a social media post, your job or even your spouse’s job. Something like that. People have so many weird hang ups and biases these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another vote for “he looked at you up, and found something he did not like”- a social media post, your job or even your spouse’s job. Something like that. People have so many weird hang ups and biases these days.

Exactly. He does not have a crush on you. I’d bet it’s based on politics. I dealt with this type of stuff when I moved to a new town with very right wing political base.