3rd grade DD very embarrassed about doing valentines

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t force it, or just give her a bag of candy. I remember feeling uncomfortable giving them out in 3rd grade, so uncomfortable I altered one of the messages and made it sound rude to a kid who I didn’t like. (Think, changing “let’s be friends” to “let’s not be friends.”) Why I didn’t just skip that kid or not write names on the cards is beyond my comprehension. Of course, I got in trouble when the kid rightfully told on me. Fortunately I turned out more or less normal, but third grade is kinda awkward.

All of this is to say is, I wouldn’t force it. Let me be your cautionary tale!

I’m a PP and I’m laughing hysterically at this! It’s like those Sweethearts with the sarcastic messages. So funny!

[Anonymous]

A boy in my kids class took a photocopy of his butt which was shaped like a heart and signed them for everyone.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a time to talk about social convention. He's in elementary school, it's Valentine's Day, and the class is exchanging cards or candy or trinkets or whatever. No need to overthink this or work hard at it - just do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would send something like the erasers in her backpack just in case she changes her mind. I would also email the teacher to let her know. My guess is that some kids might be teasing each other about who likes who and are they giving them a valentine. The teacher can keep an eye out and can also remind the class that it’s just for fun and not romantic at their age.

-former third grade teacher

Great advice!