Help! What food did you receive postpartum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last week we had a thread where a mom complained no one brought her food, and others agreed.

This week we have a friend offering to bring food and moms telling her it’s annoying and unwanted.

You are all pieces of work.

It all depends on the family. Food can be great, if it meets their needs. If it doesn’t, then it’s a burden. Everyone is different. Just ask what would be most appreciated and do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m coming right to the source to ask your opinion!

We will be visiting friends who just had a baby, and we don’t want to show up empty *food* handed. In speaking, they casually mentioned that they are inundated with prepared foods and casseroles that they don’t know what to do with because their older kids aren’t interested, they can’t keep up, etc.

I was thinking of bringing either quick breakfast-type foods (bagels and cream cheese, muffins) or protein-rich snack-y type foods (chips and guacamole, pita and hummus, etc.)

In this instance, what would you have loved to receive? Or, what was well received?

Your friends are both ungrateful and stupid. The can freeze casseroles for later use. If, like so many DCUM twits who think their neighbors and friends want to poison them and refuse to eat what people bring them, then call a local church that provides free meals to homeless.

It’s not ungrateful nor stupid. They can appreciate the thoughts and efforts of others and still feel overwhelmed by the food contributions. Freezer space may be limited, or maybe the food isn’t to their dietary preferences. And figuring out what to do with extra food is the last thing a new mom needs to worry about. The kindest thing you can do is take the hint and not bring them food.

+1

It is rude to bring unwanted food. This is rude, especially with a postpartum mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I echo the DoorDash/Uber Eats/etc. suggestions. One of my friends asked which delivery service we use the most before sending a gift card.

In addition to the food storage issue many have noted, this will allow your gift to support the family after the initial wave of gifts subsides. It also allows you to sidestep any food allergies, which can make it challenging to pick appropriate foods despite best intentions (though perhaps that is not an issue here).

+1

[Anonymous]

If they said they are inundated with prepared food they don't want food.

Gift card time. That's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last week we had a thread where a mom complained no one brought her food, and others agreed.

This week we have a friend offering to bring food and moms telling her it’s annoying and unwanted.

You are all pieces of work.

Did last week mom communicate that they needed food? And what specifically was needed? Did the social circle communicate with mom about what she needed?

Do you want your needs defined by you, or the crowd-sourced internet?

Don’t answer that. I’ll crowd source your answer because your answer does not matter.

I can’t believe this needs to be explained .

[Anonymous]

Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.

[Anonymous]

Whole fruits ..oranges. Apples bananas.
If they have freezer space, fruit popsicles. Whole Foods has good ones.
Fancy bottled water and canned seltzers.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like they don't need food currently so give door dash for when they do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last week we had a thread where a mom complained no one brought her food, and others agreed.

This week we have a friend offering to bring food and moms telling her it’s annoying and unwanted.

You are all pieces of work.

Did last week mom communicate that they needed food? And what specifically was needed? Did the social circle communicate with mom about what she needed?

Do you want your needs defined by you, or the crowd-sourced internet?

Don’t answer that. I’ll crowd source your answer because your answer does not matter.

I can’t believe this needs to be explained .

Yes, just talk to people. I did bring food to my friend when she was post partum but it was very much "Would chicken curry work for you on Sunday" and "Does chicken parm sound good for Friday?" Just ask people if they'd like something and when.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.

No, just no.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. they told you they have too much. Bring new toys for the older siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do take out. District Taco or Chick-Fil-A other choice.

No, just no.

I think what the PP meant to say is: No on Sundays but Yes on every other day.

[Anonymous]

Play with or read to the older kids. Better yet, take them to the park or a museum or other outing. But even just lavishing them with attention while you’re at their house to give the parents a break. That is the best thing for visiting bigger families. But yes to fun snacks, ice cream, dessert, and healthy bag salad and fruit. When you come over, bring or cook the meal you’ll have with them. Insist upon it because they’ll say no worries. I say this as a postpartum mom with a lot of kids!

[Anonymous]

Oh and a bag of chicken nuggets for the kids. Universal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and a bag of chicken nuggets for the kids. Universal.

what i find funny about suggestions of "must have" baby products is that there is no such thing as universal- so many things i see i've never used (or received and still never used)--

my kid was referring to her nugget couch the other day and my mil had no clue what she was talking about (fair) and asked if it was a chicken nugget and my kid had no idea what a chicken nugget was...