If you're on old and in your forties

[Anonymous]

If you are a woman, you would be amazed at what your female friends who live alone or travel alone don't tell you.

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Anonymous wrote:Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.

It's delusional posts like these that keep me on DCUM. Thank you!

I know more than 1 woman who has had this experience - the entire list. It sounds like it's exaggerated but it's really not. These are skinny, active women with college+ degrees and good jobs.

Well, as a thin, pretty, grad school educated white woman in DC, surrounded by other pretty, thin, educated white women, this is delusional. I don't know a single woman that is in her late 40s dating a 20 year old. And honestly, the idea is gross af. Most of us have sons that age.

I’m the same age.

I have a friend who is twice divorced and hangs out with other single women. None of them have kids and all have had plastic surgery. She has two friends who live sex and the city type lives so they may sleep with an athlete or older man. They can’t keep a relationship but can easily get someone to sleep with them. I don’t think it is anything to envy.

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Pp here. Yeah and I don’t think the 45yo is sleeping with 20 year olds. I’m sure it is possible. I am 47 with a 17yo so the idea of some cougar trying to sleep with my son or his friends sounds gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

40 is old. Stop living in denial. The only way looked your best at 40 is if you were fat before that. 40 year olds can look OK at a distance, but once you get close...

[Anonymous]

It is really strange that so many women on dcum are unable to see their bodies aging. Or is that just an act?

It was only a week or two ago that someone in their late 40s thought she could attract a millionaire. Where do people get these wild ideas?

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I think they know they are aging but that doesn't mean that they are not attractive in their 40s. It's often really hard to tell the difference of who is in their late 20s to late 40s.

50s is a different matter because of menopause. Still plenty of attractive women but the aging shows more.

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"40 is old. Stop living in denial. The only way looked your best at 40 is if you were fat before that. 40 year olds can look OK at a distance, but once you get close..."

Devil's advocate -- Some people didn't learn to do their hair/makeup or dress for their body type until they were older, or they couldn't afford to do it. Also, there are new beauty products that didn't exist when I was in my 20s, like the smoothing and straightening stuff that enables me to transform my frizzy wavy hair into gorgeous silky long locks.

Similarly, in the late 80s/90s they didn't have things like Spanx and they didn't make bras that gave lift for full breasts without making them pointy. So, true hourglass curvy girls like me couldn't wear clothes that showed off their figure without looking strange. I didn't want to wear a full on, old lady girdle or a big ugly structured bra when I was 25. And of course, having a "big butt" (full butt with hips and a small waist) was not considered a positive thing in mainstream culture back when I was under 30.

Last, I have a round full face. I had it when I weighed 115 pounds. Now that I'm older, I have a bit of a hollow space on my cheeks and I really think it makes my face structure look better. To me, this improvement makes up for the tiny horizontal lines on my forehead and the early signs of marionette lines that came with age.

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Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

40 is old. Stop living in denial. The only way looked your best at 40 is if you were fat before that. 40 year olds can look OK at a distance, but once you get close...

Actually it is scientifically well researched and proven that all people age at a different rate. Some age up to 15 years slower. Genetics, skin routine, nutrition, sports and lifestyle is something that's not showing in 20s. But it makes a huge difference in your 40-50s.

I can bet nobody would distinguish or could determine age if I published photos of athletic 40s female bodies vs 20-30s. Men in particular have no clue how to determine woman's age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is really strange that so many women on dcum are unable to see their bodies aging. Or is that just an act?

It was only a week or two ago that someone in their late 40s thought she could attract a millionaire. Where do people get these wild ideas?

I’m 48 and attracted a millionaire and broke up with him after 3 days of dating him.

Firstly, he is going through a nasty divorce with his wife. She cheated on him, and he hired a company to follow her around and take pictures and videos of her meeting with another man. She is unaware that this evidence exists and will be presented in court. Also, a fancy house that they lived in and their European villa were owned through a trust, and she was a part of the trust under the impression that she owns that property jointly. However, he was the sole administrator of the trust and has removed her from the trust, and this is also something that she’ll learn only when she appears in court.

Secondly, he got on Ozempic and quickly lost about 30 pounds, and that saggy skin is hanging on him like a bag and looks awful. I wouldn’t be surprised if his wife cheated on him because of that - just really makes you crave for a normal male body.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

40 is old. Stop living in denial. The only way looked your best at 40 is if you were fat before that. 40 year olds can look OK at a distance, but once you get close...

I don't know about your best but our company recently merged with another and my coworkers could not tell which of our new coworkers were what age between 25 and about 49. A woman we thought was in her 30s is late 40s and another we thought was in her late 30s is 25 and another who everyone thought was 40s is 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

40 is old. Stop living in denial. The only way looked your best at 40 is if you were fat before that. 40 year olds can look OK at a distance, but once you get close...

I don't know about your best but our company recently merged with another and my coworkers could not tell which of our new coworkers were what age between 25 and about 49. A woman we thought was in her 30s is late 40s and another we thought was in her late 30s is 25 and another who everyone thought was 40s is 30s.

Yea, if you look at Millie Bobby Brown - she can easily be mistaken for mid 40s woman. Particular her face and decollette area.

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The other way around-Anne Hathaway

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Anonymous wrote:The other way around-Anne Hathaway

Yes, besides being very fit she also has "baby face" and likely does sculptra regularly. All these natural non-botox treatments erased the aging lines between generations. An altered 20s with a cosmetic procedure went wrong might appear older than a mid 40s woman with successful natural treatment routine

[Anonymous]

I am in my mid-40s and not looking but I get hit on by men a lot younger than me, I have a baby face, and I stay in shape and work out. I also get hit on by men who are my father's age who are millionaires. So it is possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my mid-40s and not looking but I get hit on by men a lot younger than me, I have a baby face, and I stay in shape and work out. I also get hit on by men who are my father's age who are millionaires. So it is possible.

And I haven't had any plastic surgery and don't take GLP, I have great skin which is often complimented on.